I think the main gripe people have, that I have encountered, is that they assume women have choice about everything, whether to stay at home, strip or whatever it is. And to deny that women have free will in the way their lives evolve is also an admission that they themselves are subject to the same lack of choice that men enjoy.
Afterall why doesn't that beaten wife leave? Why does that woman choose to strip? Why shouldn't a career suffer if a woman chooses to have a baby? Why should everyone suffer for some women to have babies? What have women in the Congo got to do with women here in the UK?
And then there are the common misconceptions....
Feminist women can't be attractive.
Feminist women can't love men.
Feminist women can't give a shit about male rape or violence against men.