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To refuse to let my husband tell my mother that my dad has been meeting with women in hotel rooms to spank them?

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MrGimpy · 25/06/2011 00:09

My husband and I recently went to stay with my parents for a week. Long story short, we were having a flick through my Dad's Filofax (bad I know) and found various usernames and passwords for websites which turned out to be forums for people who enjoy spanking. On these forums, we found evidence that my Dad has been meeting women in hotel rooms for about the last 7 years to spank them and also possibly have sex with them. He has also been buying canes and toys from Ebay. My husband wants to tell my mother about it, but I have banned him from doing so. Am I being unreasonable?

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Glitterknickaz · 25/06/2011 00:10
Biscuit
tethersend · 25/06/2011 00:12

People like this make me sick.

A Filofax?

FutureNannyOgg · 25/06/2011 00:13

Must be friday.

On the off chance this is genuine, I would say this here dilemma is why snooping in filofaxes is not a good plan....

midlandsmumof4 · 25/06/2011 00:18

Del Boy-Only fools & Horses....Grin.

worraliberty · 25/06/2011 00:21

How do you know your Mum doesn't meet up with him and the other women for a good spanking sesh? Shock

Have you checked her Filo Fax? Grin

RobF · 25/06/2011 00:22

I didn't know people still had filofaxes.

Why would your husband tell your mother about it? What possible good could it do? Maybe she already knows?

tethersend · 25/06/2011 00:24

OP, does your dad arrange to meet women by calling them on his mobile phone?

clappyhands · 25/06/2011 00:24

the joys of it not being a school night

will it be like this all summer?

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 25/06/2011 00:25

He probaby gets women to spank his naked cheeks with the filofax.

Therefore you have fingered your fathers bottom.

HowlingBitch · 25/06/2011 00:35

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usualsuspect · 25/06/2011 00:38

Have you bypassed the parental controls on your internet?

ChaosTrulyReigns · 25/06/2011 00:40

Can anyone explain to me very slowly in simple terms what the procedure is and what pleasure is gained from spankling.

[plays along]

c0rn551Lk · 25/06/2011 00:42

is your mum not curious about the cane shaped parcels?

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 25/06/2011 00:42

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Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit · 25/06/2011 00:57

Binfull, you're positively aflame tonight!

Andrewofgg · 25/06/2011 08:07

MYOB

Bloodymary · 25/06/2011 08:14

A long long time ago I knew an 'escort', and it is amazing how common this is in older men.

The tales she used to tell, tho that is another thread entirely!

bellavita · 25/06/2011 08:16

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MrGimpy · 25/06/2011 12:53

Your responses are hilarious: but though I changed some minor details, this is not a joke. He does have a Filofax (still likes to think of himself as some kind of high-powered businessman), which was left open in the living room. I found it quite difficult to look at him for the rest of the visit. I stumbled across some similar things in his internet history when I was in my early teens, and had blocked out the memory quite successfully until now.

The likes of the 'British spanking' website were next to a list of supermarket and bank log-ins, perhaps in an attempt to confuse my mother. She is just managing to tolerate him at the moment; we have only ever worked as a family when he is away. I suppose he wants to tell her so she doesn't waste the rest of her life on a cheat.

Anyway, though he's SAID on these forums, in posts and a few PMs, that he's met up with these women, how likely is it that this is just...talk? :S. There are a few scribbled mobile numbers in the Filofax too, but no solid evidence of an arranged meeting. As well as the previously mentioned whips and toys, he called himself an 'experienced spanker' and has bought things like stockings on Ebay to use as gifts (?!)...

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Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 25/06/2011 13:06

Well why not log onto one of these websites as a "spankee" and contact him. See how far he goes? Then when you turn up, he'll probably stop.

He sounds very arrogant.

I'd give him 5 of the best with a cricket bat.

MrGimpy · 25/06/2011 13:11

My other half suggested honey-potting. I don't think I could handle the awkwardness. I think I'd feel guilty too, strangely.

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LittleMissFlustered · 25/06/2011 13:15

Have you been reading this ? :o

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 25/06/2011 13:18

Do you mean honey trap?

dadof2ofthem · 25/06/2011 13:19

nothing quite like the sound of a cane being thrashed against firm young buttocks!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/06/2011 14:15

He conveniently left his filofax open and you had enough time to glean all of this very interesting information about websites, banks and logins...? Hmm. Let sleeping dogs lie.