To refuse to let my husband tell my mother that my dad has been meeting with women in hotel rooms to spank them?

[MrGimpy]

My husband and I recently went to stay with my parents for a week. Long story short, we were having a flick through my Dad's Filofax (bad I know) and found various usernames and passwords for websites which turned out to be forums for people who enjoy spanking. On these forums, we found evidence that my Dad has been meeting women in hotel rooms for about the last 7 years to spank them and also possibly have sex with them. He has also been buying canes and toys from Ebay. My husband wants to tell my mother about it, but I have banned him from doing so. Am I being unreasonable?

[Pumpernickel10]

[TheCrackFox]

A rubber ring would be a good suggestion.

[travellingwilbury]

At least now you know what to buy him for christmas .

[kayah]

let be assured not all who indulge in spanking would follow that wit ha night of passionate sex

he is either sub or a dom, either way you sohuld never assume spanking sessio ninvolved sex

[NorthernGobshite]

Is this a joke?

[FabbyChic]

I have an A4 Filofax, much better to write things down as opposed to using a computer.

[Mandy2003]

Tell him if you could read his internet history, so could anyone. You should tell him that your Mum could find out accidentally.

Don't automatically consider that there is any sexual contact between him and the sex worker either.

You saw he bought stockings, I think they would probably be for HIM to wear, not as gifts.

[Ambers123]

No i think you are doing the right thing and trying to protect your Mum from the awful shock she would have by finding out, sometimes it is better to let sleeping dogs lie.

[Omigawd]

Ah yes....England. The thwack of willow on leather.

And they also play cricket I believe :o

[Pumpernickel10]

Spank me spank me

[Pumpernickel10]

It's the mrgimpy that got me! Does daddy own a gimp mask by any chance

[Mamaz0n]

how do you know that the "gifts" are not for your mother? That she is not also partaking in all of this?

either mind your own or leave a piece of vital "evidence" somewhere your mother will find it so that she can discover his (apparent) secret herself.

[crispyseaweed]

best not tell her.....

[Oakmaiden]

I've got a filofax and I use it every day.

It is, um, on the floor preventing my sitting room, door from damaging the arm of my nice new sofa if the children open the door too vigorously.

So I can agree Filofaxes are VERY useful.

[Northernlurker]

OP - you seriously expect us to believe that your father nice and tidely wrote down all his creepy contacts in a filofax then left it lying about for you and/or your mother to nose through?
Errr yes of course he did.

Why don't you go and watch wimbledon?

[JambalayaCodfishPie]

Honey potting?

You mean honey-trapping, surely.

Unless you were implyng what youre going to be using if we feed you our wildest fantasies here....

www.annsummers.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay_et!letc~ev!10201%7C%7Cet!letc~ev!15912%7C%7C_40151_-1_10201_42176_10001_

[TheOriginalFAB]

Your user name adds to the improbability of this being true.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

He conveniently left his filofax open and you had enough time to glean all of this very interesting information about websites, banks and logins...? . Let sleeping dogs lie.

[dadof2ofthem]

nothing quite like the sound of a cane being thrashed against firm young buttocks!

[Binfullofmaggotsonthe45]

Do you mean honey trap?

[LittleMissFlustered]

Have you been reading this ? :o

[MrGimpy]

My other half suggested honey-potting. I don't think I could handle the awkwardness. I think I'd feel guilty too, strangely.

[Binfullofmaggotsonthe45]

Well why not log onto one of these websites as a "spankee" and contact him. See how far he goes? Then when you turn up, he'll probably stop.

He sounds very arrogant.

I'd give him 5 of the best with a cricket bat.

[MrGimpy]

Your responses are hilarious: but though I changed some minor details, this is not a joke. He does have a Filofax (still likes to think of himself as some kind of high-powered businessman), which was left open in the living room. I found it quite difficult to look at him for the rest of the visit. I stumbled across some similar things in his internet history when I was in my early teens, and had blocked out the memory quite successfully until now.

The likes of the 'British spanking' website were next to a list of supermarket and bank log-ins, perhaps in an attempt to confuse my mother. She is just managing to tolerate him at the moment; we have only ever worked as a family when he is away. I suppose he wants to tell her so she doesn't waste the rest of her life on a cheat.

Anyway, though he's SAID on these forums, in posts and a few PMs, that he's met up with these women, how likely is it that this is just...talk? :S. There are a few scribbled mobile numbers in the Filofax too, but no solid evidence of an arranged meeting. As well as the previously mentioned whips and toys, he called himself an 'experienced spanker' and has bought things like stockings on Ebay to use as gifts (?!)...