to feel absolutely disgusted by what just happened on the bus?

[BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte]

On the bus with DH, toddler DD (19 months) in pushchair and newborn DS (17 days) in sling. Travelling through bog standard, middle class suburbia.

As we board, bus driver snaps that we'll either have to fold the pushchair or get off now. As we're fumbling to fold the pushchair whilst clinging onto a tired and wailing DD, other passangers are elbowing past and paying no attention to DS whom I'm trying to protect, and the bus driver is shouting at me to hurry up.

Nobody at all offers DH or DD a seat, and the only person to offer me one is a woman of at least 70.

Having an ashamed-to-be-British moment.

Zookeeper - an overtired 19 mth old... so possibly floppy or irritable or wriggly...

oh God knows - it was both of them wasn't it?

(wanders off to flag down taxi..)

Im not sure anymore.

(Jumps on a bicycle)

zukiecat

woathere,woathere

Mormans

woahthere dont be such a poo face!

OP asked if she was being unreasonable, woahthere. So if some of us thought she was making a mountain out of a molehill, that's what we said. Why ask if you don't want an answer?
There are other sections of the forum for newborn and toddler chat where she'd probably get everyone saying 'There there, people are yukky and mean'
I thought she wanted a truthful response.

Small children! Grow up and stop being small chortle.

Thread really moved in since I read that bit. Oops.

One has young baby, other struggles to fold pushchair whilst trying to look after little child- everyone pushing past, crowded bus -sounds horrible. Ignorant pig of a bus driver thrown in for good measure- YANBU! You should have been offered seats but people don't think that's all.

I thought Mormans where exclusive to america. (Realising how silly that sounds)

This is why I don't use buses. I live in a village relatively miles from anywhere with a once-an-hour-if-you're-lucky bus service anyway, so driving is more practical. However, if I lived in a larger town or city where driving/parking was a nightmare I'd dread having to go anywhere I couldn't walk to!

"IMO, and I have never voiced this on MN before, it is defnitely something I find specific to certain cultures that are quite selfish. British culture is definitely one. I heard it happens in China too but have never actually experienced it outside of Britain."

I think this is rubbish really. It's a joy to come back to the UK and experience politeness to strangers. I'm sorry you had a ghastly time OP but general rudeness is not my experience at all.

OP, you have been treated horribly harshly on this thread, and some responses should make their writers ashamed. I'm sorry you had such a bad day. Public transport really does suck sometimes.

But woahthere, that post was seriously unnecessary.

at nasty little wankers

sometimes I think people don't always display the characteristics on here that they like to think they do in real life

"nasty little wankers" poster is hardly going to be a model of forbearance and politness in the world at large I think

zukiecat My DH grew up in Birmingham - they did that there too apparently. He was forever being "mormoned" during his sulky teenage college years!

I'd agree with gooseberry actually. I didn't go on the tube with a pushchair often without DH, but when I had to I always knew that if I stood at the bottom of the steps radiating "I could do with a hand" vibes, someone would always offer immediately.

so everyone is allowed to tear into an exhausted new mum but im not allowed to stick up for her. My post was not necessary, none of these posts are necessary but it is how horrified by the nastiness i feel sometimes.
goblinchild. im sure you dont actually think she wanted a truthful answer...not that there are any as they are all just opinions, but it fairly obvious she wanted some comradery. if you found it unreasonable it is possible to state why without telling her to stay at home, get a car, boast about your buggy folding prowess etc...how are any of those posts helpful...theyre not, theyre just nasty. And when people go on aibu, im sure that not everyone knows the blows that people can deliver, not everyone is expert about where they 'should' or where you think they should post.