to feel absolutely disgusted by what just happened on the bus?

[BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte]

On the bus with DH, toddler DD (19 months) in pushchair and newborn DS (17 days) in sling. Travelling through bog standard, middle class suburbia.

As we board, bus driver snaps that we'll either have to fold the pushchair or get off now. As we're fumbling to fold the pushchair whilst clinging onto a tired and wailing DD, other passangers are elbowing past and paying no attention to DS whom I'm trying to protect, and the bus driver is shouting at me to hurry up.

Nobody at all offers DH or DD a seat, and the only person to offer me one is a woman of at least 70.

Having an ashamed-to-be-British moment.

I thought maybe DH had disability of some sort. Sorry but one child per adult is not a real hardship. You're just (understandably) wrecked from the newborn but you are BU.

I would have offered my seat to a woman carrying a newborn in a sling but not to an adult with a 19 month old.

Perhaps it's just me being ancient (42) but when my kids were little, there was no such thing as taking an unfolded buggy on a bus.

We managed with kids, shopping, babies and toddlers.

I think the luxury of not having to fold a buggy makes people really pissed off on the few occassions they have to.

It was a hospital appointment. Hardly a leisure outing.

I would have thought twice about offering help as you had dh with you and would be worried about offending him, same for offering a seat to your dh.

I regularly get the bus on my own with two dc's and am not shy about asking for help if it's obvious the bus driver is in a hurry, and usually get it.

With a toddler I do put the pram down if there is no space but with a newborn that can be quite difficult on a crowded bus especially standing - actually quite dangerous.

That's the stuff Judy. You tell her

OP I think you are being a bit tired and oversensitive, you'd probably brush off a rather brusque comment like that any other time.

we have all been there or most of us have but really you are blowing it all out of proportion.

yes someone other than the little old lady should have stood up especially for you but is it really two adults should be able to manage two children and a buggy

i have personally very rarely come across these problems, i live in london but i do not go round expecting everyone to treat me as a special case because i have a child

And I'm not complaining about being asked to fold the pushchair. I'm simply complaining that I was snapped at for taking too long, and pushed and jostled by other people getting on the bus.

Blimey.

Note to self, eh, Breastmilk....

Don't dare have a bad day and comes on mumsnet for a moan.

It was a hospital appointment. Not a shopping trip

Direct your complaint to the bus company. Getting hysterical on here won't make you feel better.

You'll always get pushed and jostled on a crowded bus.

And perhaps you might understand the driver's frustration a little if you were actually taking too long.

Perhaps he was thinking 'Blimey, how long does it take 2 adults to fold a pram?'

Don't forget, he's under pressure too to get the bus moving on time or he gets into trouble.

Shatners are you a bassoonist?
I am too, although don't play much nowdays!
Sorry for the divert!

god mumsnet you bunch of cunts. she had a shitty bus ride give her a break for fucks sake.

If there was a large queue already than foresight would indicate you'd need to have the pram folded. Do you usually get the bus? You seem very surprised by the snappy bus driver and people holding on to there seats, no it's not right or pleasant. But it's not unusual. Bus drivers put up with a lot of crap sometimes they snap....again not right but not unexpected.

Ivortheengine8 Fri 24-Jun-11 16:01:26
Shatners are you a bassoonist?

How dare you

I am not.

CustardoMightyNonSmoker

Hows withdrawal going?

Sorry I thought this was AIBU

Not 'Please hug me hunny and blow smoke up my arse'

While I do think you are being a bit U, I would definitely complain to the bus company as the driver should not have snapped at you.

Mumsnet

Where others will absolutely fucking shoot you down if you dare be less than perfect in all you do.

Mumsnet

Where people bitch and moan about you bitching and moaning.

With a 17 day old baby YANBU to be upset that people barged past you and the driver got shitty. It must have been very stressful. People also don't seem to offer seats or help as much nowadays. Especially south of Watford.

I do think that your DH should have been able to put down a pushchair on his own and mange to stand whilst holding an 18 month old. I would expect a parent to cope with that, unless they had health issues.