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Original poster

oh shit oh shit oh shit

392 replies

ohmycrap · 18/06/2011 01:12

oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

OP posts:
Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:09

Glitterknickaz Sat 18-Jun-11 21:06:10
I don't think anyone gives a flying fuck what your contribution to the state is.

yes they do, I was asked

nor did I bring up the OP's finances

I care about neither - I don't see how they're relevant so long as the children have what they need.

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:10

It will affect her other children. I don't "pour scorn" - I said it was irresponsible. It is.

Glitterknickaz · 18/06/2011 21:11

How is that helping?

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:12

It is not a vile attitude to consider this irresponsible. It is not nasty, mental or nuts. I suppose I am not surprised that so many on mn disagree.

Glitterknickaz · 18/06/2011 21:13

How is that helping?

follyfoot · 18/06/2011 21:13

Maybe we could get back to what really matters here: the OP and her pregnancy, and leave aside the rest of the bollocks.

Just a thought.

Wishing you all the best ohmycrap, whatever happens Smile

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:14

I think it might help her to be more careful next time. She chose this. Everybody says "it's fine" and she may choose it again.

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:16

And I repeat - it is not nasty, or mental, to consider this irresponsible. I'm only still posting because everyone except the OP disagrees with me about that - which I find rather depressing.

follyfoot · 18/06/2011 21:16

Oh piss off gooseberry, there's a dear.

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:17

Happy to Smile

Wallow away.

AgentZigzag · 18/06/2011 21:18

BitOfFun and BooBoos posts earlier on in the threads asking the OP if she really had considered all the possibilities and what another baby might mean to her and her children, were totally different to the way you're posting gooseberry.

I think your post 'Ohmycrap, are you financially independent of the state?' sums up the unnecessary argumentative nature of what you've said.

The OP's got her head round her situation a bit more today, and decided what's best for her and her family.

I just can't see why you'd want to say any more than 'good luck and all the best' to her?

Glitterknickaz · 18/06/2011 21:18

I don't think your posts are going to do ANYTHING regarding the OP's future, it'll just upset her in the present.

If you honestly think your sanctimony is doing any good then you are deluded.

Oh, and what follyfoot said.

WhereIsMyFreeGoat · 18/06/2011 21:19

I just wanted to add my best wishes and to say I had a oh shit oh shit moment 18 months ago on the pill and with a new partner. I didn't consider an abortion as like you say taking responsibility can also be looking after your child/ I now have a gorgeous 9 month old who is adored by her big sister (11 years) my partner didn't stay but I wouldn't have it any other way. And before any one gets on their high horse or thinks I have had their goat I do work, not that it is really any ones business. Good luck with everything OP.

AgentZigzag · 18/06/2011 21:21

I agree glitterknicks, what follyfoot said.

Original poster
ohmycrap · 18/06/2011 21:21

how about if i tell you i have been trying to get sterilised for 8 months nhs said no, then i went private but at the last minute(day before) they said no because i am epileptic. i was due to get a coil while waiting for the pre coil swab results i had an abnormal smear test resulting in having to have a loop excision, which resulted in the infection that resulted in the ab. also means i couldnt have a coil for 6 months. also because i couldnt get sterilised bf has gotten referred for a vesectomey. so aside from the ab slip up. i really had no intention of getting pregnant or do i in the future.

OP posts:
Glitterknickaz · 18/06/2011 21:23

Seriously, ignore. It's not worth it x

follyfoot · 18/06/2011 21:24

ohmycrap - please dont feel you need to justify yourself Sad

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 18/06/2011 21:26

OMC please you do not need to justify yourself AT ALL!

But FWIW I'm with you on the sick as a dog pregnancy thing there is a hyperemsis thread on here now tho' so if you need it (fingers crossed this time it will be different) it's just a search away.

Glitterknickaz · 18/06/2011 21:26

It's always been my mistake, try to justify yourself to these arseholes, well I won't any more.
Honestly ohmycrap just let it wash over you

leftblank · 18/06/2011 21:26

Congratualtions OP :)

Don't listen to that gobshite, you sound perfectly capable.

WhereIsMyFreeGoat · 18/06/2011 21:27

You have no need to justify yourself to any one.
I just love the way some people think they would never allow themselves to get into such a situation.
Well unless they never ever have sex again they could.

MogTheForgetfulCat · 18/06/2011 21:27

Of course you brought up OP's finances, by asking her if she was financially independent of the state (whatever relevance that has to the OP Hmm). Selective memory...

Gooseberrybushes · 18/06/2011 21:29

Must defend myself here - I was asked by some very rude person whether the op wanted me to "fucking support her" iirc

i was passing on the query to the op

WhereIsMyFreeGoat · 18/06/2011 21:29

Mog you are obviously not as forgetful as your name would suggest Grin

honeyandsalt · 18/06/2011 21:32

@ohmycrap - seriously, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone, there are are some grade A santicimonious judgmentalists knocking who I can only presume have issues of their own. You are obviously a great mum, you're educating yourself for a better future and many, many women have been in your situation before and got by just fine.