oh shit oh shit oh shit

[ohmycrap]

oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

i think he will be ok with it,he is a good guy, really lovely. though i know he would want me to have an abortion as we talked about it in passing when we got together,he wouldn't push it though . but cant guarantee it. he has 3 children from a previous relationship.

I think everyone else is being much more personal. I am not sure what you mean bimbo.

'Do you all think it is "nuts, mental and unbelievably nasty" to consider irresponsible someone who does this?'

Well yes I do for one, but thank goodness there was no sarcasm involved anyway. Because that would have been distasteful.

So you now will have a total of 7 children between you?. Oh come on people.....

We need a judgey pants emoticon here. It would save some people a lot of time and energy.

Is there some sort of limit on how many children you can have between you? Oh blimey, no-one ever told me that .

What if my DH and I are over the limt?

Better be careful you don't frighten the horses, Follyfoot.

folly-you can have as many dcs as you like as long as you are not expecting anyone else to pay for them imo. Judgey-too fecking right I am and I make no bones about it

So Pink, you didn't use the NHS and yours don't go to school at all?

@pink4ever - now I'm genuinely confused - you have also been the position of having an unplanned pregnancy and yet you're joining in the general kicking of the OP? Why? She never said "why did this happen to me" she said "oh crap" which is hardly crime of the century.

Posters who have said they got pregnant despite their contraceptive measures are simply making the point that no method of contraception, as someone said earlier, is 100% effective. Shit happens, and I don't know what sort of sick pleasure those of you who are sitting on a Saturday evening judging another woman for being less than perfect (unlike yourselves, obv) are getting but maybe you should consider that there are real people posting here, and just because they post a forum traditionally reserved for pulling on one's judge-y pants does not mean that it is kind or appropriate to do so. She has admitted it was a mistake, really early in the thread actually, and circling round to tell her what an idiot she is just makes you playground bullies, and you ought to be ashamed.

There is only a limit on gutter children

Eh folly I believe tax and ni contributions pay for the nhs/state schools no?. Yes I get cb for my dcs(not tc) but that will stop in 2013. So yes we pay for our dcs.

What if you pay Tax and NI and still get Tax Credits? is there a limit then?

Very kind of you to give me permission Pink, thanks for that. How shall I let you know whether we are self supporting or not.

Horses safely in bed at Follyfoot stables Math.

I am not "kicking the poster"! I am merely pointing out that this pregnancy was no "accident". Yes I had an unplanned pregnancy in as such that I wanted another dc,dh didnt. It was up to him to use contraception(I cant for various medical reasons) and he chose not to so therefore not really an "accident" either.
To all the poster on here sending their unmitiagted congratulations-you really think its something to celebrate?. A single parent of 3 in a relatively new relationship having an unplanned pregnancy-really?.
As I have also said I wish the op the very best of luck and I hope her geezer sticks around.

Pink.

Folly is spelt f-o-l-l-y

Mathanxiety is spelt m-a-t-h-a-n-x-i-e-t-y

Try not to get us mixed up.

Oh and I dont give a flying anything about whether you support your children, I'm here to support the OP at a pretty difficult time.

Its hardly judgy just common sense to say kids dont just 'happen' they are made by two people having sex without contraception. Yes a wealth of people on here seem to have fallen pregnant while on the pill/coil/implant whatever, but the OP admits she was not one of them and didnt bother to double up when on antibiotics. I dont care enough about other peoples lives to give them a kicking about kids they choose to have but trying to point out I dont like the way its implied making babies 'just happens'

Well done follyfoot-imo horses are only good for one thing

There is no way most people pay enough tax to cover the actual cost of delivering a baby in the UK, or sending a child to school.

"how about if i tell you i have been trying to get sterilised for 8 months nhs said no, then i went private but at the last minute(day before) they said no because i am epileptic. i was due to get a coil while waiting for the pre coil swab results i had an abnormal smear test resulting in having to have a loop excision, which resulted in the infection that resulted in the ab. also means i couldnt have a coil for 6 months. also because i couldnt get sterilised bf has gotten referred for a vesectomey. so aside from the ab slip up. i really had no intention of getting pregnant or do i in the future"

wow, all this effort trying not to get pregnant and you end up getting caught out by ABs? I don't know how you feel about fate but if ever i've heard of a baby that's meant to be it's this one!! I wish you all the very best of luck xXx

But despite all that and knowing your contraception wasnt reliable you still took a gamble?

mathan-lets not sully the waters with semantics eh? the point is op is probably going to need financial aid from the state(ie tax payers). I think she said she is a student? which again is admirable as Im sure it cannot be easy to study with dcs around. I looked into returning to study myself but sadly couldnt afford it.
Op-hope your man responds kindly.

I think people make their own 'fate' in many situations- this being one of them!

i also take double dose of the pill because of my epileptic medication, hence the gamble, there is no excuse as i said for the gamble as you put it. but i dont understand why you insist on belabouring the point.