everything is pissing me off at the moment

[StealthPolarBear]

There is not one aspect of my life i don't want to have a good moan about

Stealth It really does get better with the DCs, mine are now 5 and 6 and are absolute ANGELS.

sobs pitifully and wishes it were true

Ah, have a grizzle, hopefully you will feel, if not better, a little bit better.

Something's in the air!! Kids are miserable, DH and I at each other's throats, AIBU message boards kicking off left!right!centre!

I blame it on the solar flares.

I don't think it gets worse as such as the DCs get older, it just gets different.
You move from sleeless nights to toddler tantrums, then onto insolent re-teenns.
I cannot wait until they turn into Kevins....no talking, staying in bed till noon, and wanting absolutely nothing to do with me cos I'll be like so uncool...bliss.

PRE-TEENS!

Cock off does it get harder.

Well maybe it does - I just have the one 10yo - but cripes it's one heck of a lot less relentless now than when he was 2 or 4 or 6...

I imagine the teenage years will be a breeze

god snap marriedsingleparent

i fantasize about them sleeping till 2 in the afternoon, and then just grunting at me while slurping the tea they made all by themselves.

it gets me through those long dark afternoons of pain that is dealing with 2 boys of nearly 2 and 4 and one 9 yo dd. well sort of.

Who are these utter knobbers who claim it can only get harder?

Did they have wet nurses for the first five years and then had to fend for themselves for the first time once their kinder were weaned or something?!?!?

Freaks.

@Jenai maybe it is primarily dads of the type who don't 'kick in' until their child begins school...

Oh they definately get better as they get older. Granted I don't have teens yet but school age and up is definately better. They don't need the constant supervision or attention which makes it a million times easier. Plus they're much better company.

DD is 10 months old and doesn't sleep very well but its actually easier this time round because I didn't expect anything else as ds didn't sleep through till he was 4yo and me and dh are better at coping with it (having naps when she does). I think prioritising sleep (even if its just going to bed early one night a week) can make a big difference in the way you feel.

Once they get to the age where you can 'reasonably negotiate' with them, then it is a lot easier. Try compromising with a 3 year old and a 9 year old....9 year old so much easier, obviously.
At 3 they care only about themselves...selfish little buggers.

well maybe I need to let you loose on my other thread then :) Was unanimous there that the younger they are the easier it is, with possibly an exception for the first 6 months.
Nice to see it might not be quite as dire as I'm imagining. I don't get it - why does no one tell you this stuff before you have children? Why am I here now?

Well that's what I hoped - ;ack of constant attention, lack of constant effort to "wear DS out", lack of panic they will sleep in the car and then be awake until midnight, if you are disturebed during the night it's a civilised "Mother, may I have a glass of water?" rather than random shrieks and half our long sessions of resettling (OK I am living in an Enid Blyton novel)

oh yes and negotiation. I had thought this was easier with my 4yo than my 18mo.

I can remember feeling like you at the same stage with DCs, but although it changes, it doesn't really get easier. My children are adults and I'm still mightily pissed off with my life - so I can't blame the kids!

I actually, really miss the time when my DCs were little, life was lively and full and busy and I was needed and useful.

Feeling a bit low just now

Sorry to hear that :(
Did you never feel over needed though? Because that's my problem really, at home anyway. I can;t cook or eat a meal, go to the loo, have a shower, or sleep without someone needing me, desperately, now.
Sorry if that's insensitive, but I think that is the crux of it for me.

I think someone on another thread got it right by saying the way they drain you changes= young ones its physical, no sleep, constantly on the go. Older ones, its emotional. You worry about them constantly- bullied at schol, wanting to stretch boundaries- but your doing it on a good nights rest, so its easier in some ways. Different people prefer different times.

Im sorry to hear you're feeling like this, I hope you feel better soon.

no dh at moment - away until september working abroad. to be fair, my 4 yr old and the baby are easier than the 2 yr old. potty training (or rather, carpet shitting/weeing) atm too which is going on FOREVER so I am freely whinging away here as I can't do it in real life. thanks for the thread. feel so much better having whinged instead of telling everyone and myself through gritted smile "i'm fine"! aaaah that feels good to let it out

Overneed...must remember to stick that one on the fridge!

overneed yes...4 yr old chattering contantly (and harmlessly) from my bath to geting dressed to changing baby constantly asking questions!!!! aaargh! I know IABU but i just need a moments peace!!!! and breathe...

"Mother, may I have a glass of water?"

Whaaaaaaat?

They get their own glass of bloody water. Although if they did ask it wouldn't be so polite

Seriously - it gets easier. Can't believe that there are knobbers out there who think 2 or 4yos are easier than pre-teens.

stealth this is your thread...thanks...am off to bed while baby is asleep!

"baby constantly asking questions"
if any consolation, it sounds like he/she is very bright

err sorry, that would be the 4 yr old asking questions while I am changing baby. I so need sleep!!!

go and get some :) I should be too - in amongst all this martyrdom I do far too much MNing too :o