to not want to spend time with my DF now that she's let herself go?

[youdknowwhoiwas]

My oldest friend, from infants, has over that last 10 years, in my opinion started to not really care about her appearance.

She's put on weight, and dresses frumpily.

I'm really uncomfortable to be out in public with her, because I hate people looking at us and judging. So I think I may be visibly squirming, but I don't think she's noticed.

I still love spending time with her and we visit each others' houses regularly and spend all major celebrations together. Our DC are best friends. And our DHs were at school together so we're very close. And this wouldn't change, just maybe scale back on the public appearances so I wouldn't get that awkward feeling.

AIBU?

You are shallow and a twat.

YABU.

Are you for real?

People might stare indeed, they might be judging YOU and comparing YOU to the back end of a bus. Perhaps your friend can then waddle off chortling to herself.

I feel really sorry for your friend. Or are you actually the friend, posting because you have been hurt by this selfish, shallow cow and want to hear what people think about the way you are being treated?

Wow you are really a dream of a friend.perhaps she is thinking 'I wish she would stop dressing like mutton & have a bun,I must start to svoid'.

Wind up.

Or you're a twat.

HTH.

Yep, shallow and twatty of you.

Public appearances? Who are you OP?!

Are you my friend?

Wind up - nobody could really be that shallow.

Yawn.

Wow, the fuckwits are out in force tonight. If this is true, OP, you are a shit friend. HTH.

YABU obviously. I'd like to think your "friend" is right now, bitching to her other friends or DH, saying, "youdknowwhoiwas is such a twat. Honestly she'd make a paddling pool look deep. Trying sooooo hard to get rid of her, I mean who wants to be friends with someone who goes around with a permanant grimace on their face for no good reason? Miserable cow."

Personally I think you should cut your friend loose- she deserves way better friends than someone like you.

so this is why people are leaving in droves!!! hear that sound???

thats the penny dropping.....

op. you're are twat. or a troll. or both.

you know you're just really fucking odd, right?

yabu... and a proper bitch!

God i hate people like you! awful truly bloody awful!

Why not be a proper friend and ask if she's ok? maybe something is going on with her you havn't notice. well you wouldn't of noticed would you you're to busy bitching and walking with your head down.

Clearly this is not for real. No one could be that shitty about a friend.

BodyOfEeyore - I was gonna ask the same question....

Oh I bet you're the overweight friend aren't you?

:( I feel sad for your friend. A friend is someone who takes you as you are - you are no friend to her.

ok, no not a windup, but not entirely truthful either.

It's the reversal.

I have let myself go, and my friend now makes excuses not to go out as much, and I have seen her reaction to people's judginess.

It can to a head today when we were out having lunch - a bunch of well-groomed teenagers looked at my frumpiness and giggled, and she just looked awkward and shifted her chair back from me a tiny bit. I just pretended I didn't notice, but was very hurt. I've been crying inside since I got home from the school run.

I just wanted to see reactions from the opposing view.

Sorry for being devious.

I just have to accept she's not a true friend don't I?

Fuck.

xposts with MrsCB.

troll.

but wonder whats constitutes as 'public appearances'? do you think you are a sleb or something? are you in TOWIE?