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To be pissed off that DP thinks I should decline pain relief during labour?

103 replies

CJ2010 · 10/06/2011 16:44

He thinks that I should just get on with it and do it 'naturally'. When I question why, he just sort of shrugs and says that he deosn't really believe in taking medicine. Doesn't think I should have an epidural!

However, he can't understand why I call him a hypocrite, when he thinks nothing of sinking a bottle of wine of an evening.

I'm feeling really fucked off with him.

OP posts:
geraldinetheluckygoat · 10/06/2011 16:46

tell him will if he inserts a red hot poker for the duration of your labour.

Hullygully · 10/06/2011 16:46

hahahahahahahahahaha

Slit his stomach open
Insert a pineapple
sew it up
Instruct him to give birth to it

and kill him

pointissima · 10/06/2011 16:46

None of his business. He has no idea how much it hurts. Have as much pain relief as you need.

If he goes on like this when you are in labour, you may need to thump him very hard

squeakytoy · 10/06/2011 16:47

tell the fucker that you will forgo the pain relief if you can spend labour removing his pubes one by one, and then shove a watermelon up his arse..

seriously though.... he aint the one having a baby, has he watched a birth video yet?

Northernlurker · 10/06/2011 16:47

Your body, your pain relief of choice. His body, his excessive alcohol consumption ......except ...... hang on..........your pain relief doesn't impact on him at all but his drinking impacts on you.

I would ignore his comments about pain relief but I would ask him why he's drinking so much.

ViolaTricolor · 10/06/2011 16:47

I suggest you force a series of fruits up his backside, gradually increasing in size until he rethinks.

YouremindmeoftheBFP · 10/06/2011 16:47

You do what you need to do to get through it. If you feel like you need the drugs, take them, if you don't, don't. And tell him to bugger off. I hope he is going to be more understanding in future.

Georgimama · 10/06/2011 16:47

I would recommend an alternative birth partner.

Actually I would recommend you find an alternative life partner.

squeakytoy · 10/06/2011 16:48

there is a definate fruit theme going on here with these x posts.... Grin

helenthemadex · 10/06/2011 16:48

fine just tell him he must of course share the pain with you and with each contraction twist his scrotum and hold for the duration

reikizen · 10/06/2011 16:48

perhaps have a more supportive birth partner?

LDNmummy · 10/06/2011 16:48

Pfft. Idiot doesn't begin to sum it up.

controlpantsandgladrags · 10/06/2011 16:48

Whilst in labour, stick a red hot poker up his arse and kick him in the balls at full force every couple of minutes for 12 hours. Oh, and tell the midwife not to allow him any pain relief.......he doesn't believe in it afterall.

Your birth, your decision. Show him this thread and tell him to fuck off.

scurryfunge · 10/06/2011 16:48

Tell him you hope his next shit is a hedgehog.

RevoltingPeasant · 10/06/2011 16:49

OP are you Katie Holmes??

ViolaTricolor · 10/06/2011 16:49

Grin at fruit theme. Trifle, anyone?

steamedtreaclesponge · 10/06/2011 16:49

I suggest kicking him in the balls repeatedly for 12 hours and then telling him to breathe through it.

allhailtheaubergine · 10/06/2011 16:49

Say "do you dear?" and smile politely, then do whatever the hell YOU want to do.

Seriously - do you have another birthing partner?

aliceliddell · 10/06/2011 16:50

I think your dp should decline pain relief during wisdom tooth extraction.

CocoPopsAddict · 10/06/2011 16:50

YANBU. And you will not need that attitude around you when you are giving birth. Tell him he either supports you fully or doesn't come. Seriously, you will have enough to cope with - you don't need him.

Or perhaps you could get your midwife on side, take him to one of your antenatal appointments and get her to present pain relief as a perfectly viable and common thing.

reelingintheyears · 10/06/2011 16:51

Is he one of Tom Cruises mates?

No pain relief and you have to do it in silence...Grin

theDudesmummy · 10/06/2011 16:51

What has it to do with him? I didn't even discuss my pain relief choices with my DH. It was my body not his.

BooyHoo · 10/06/2011 16:52

he sound slike the idiot who told me whilst i was pregnant that she thought i should give birth without pain relief so that i could 'feel what i had done for my child' Hmm. that idiot got a free pass because she was 10 at the time. your DH gets no free pass. i agree with hully.

WriterofDreams · 10/06/2011 16:52

Ha he is horribly horribly naive and will probably faint/vomit/faint and vomit when you give birth. Just you wait, he'll be begging you to get the epidural. Poor bugger.

Ormirian · 10/06/2011 16:52

The man is fule! Ignore him.

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