To be pissed off that DP thinks I should decline pain relief during labour?

[CJ2010]

He thinks that I should just get on with it and do it 'naturally'. When I question why, he just sort of shrugs and says that he deosn't really believe in taking medicine. Doesn't think I should have an epidural!

However, he can't understand why I call him a hypocrite, when he thinks nothing of sinking a bottle of wine of an evening.

I'm feeling really fucked off with him.

oh yes reeling and she was applauded for this insightful opinion by her mother (who had given birth 3 times with pain relief) instead of being told to go and play with her friends like a 10 year old child should be doing!!

With DC1, I arrived at the hopsital 9cm dilated so could only have gas and air and I coped well. However I was stitched incorrectly after the birth which resulted in a blot clot and I then got rushed to theatre to have it removed. Lost loads of blood, cause none of the staff on the ward believed me at first, but then shit themselves once they realised (panic stations!!) so I am now petrified of giving birth second time round.

I don't need his stupid ramblings.

Tell him to get stuffed.

YANBU to tell him to get stuffed and be fucked off with him.

What an arse, is he always a control freak?

Thats terrible CJ what a horrible horrible experience for you, it just makes your 'P' even more of a tool for even suggesting it...I don't understand why he'd be like that. Plenty of support on here for you. Good luck with your labour :)

Hahahahahahahaha...oh dear, oh dear. He is a little sweetie isn't he? Bless his little cotton socks. I think he's going to be as much use as a fart in a thunderstorm when you give birth...he'll probably be one of those OH's who has go out of the room as it's all just TOO traumatic for him.

I gave birth to my 9lb 12oz son on the bathroom floor at 0430 one morning. No pain relief. I do not recommend it.

Male speaking. YANBU. Tell him to fuck off.

pmsl, yeah the 'it'll be over soon' is great if it actually is over soon. my first labour was 72 hours of agony. anything under 36hours and i reckon i'd have fired him out without breaking a sweat, but no sleep and no food and constant fucking pain for days does get you down a smidge.

I don't get why ANYBODY wouldn't agree with pain relief during labour. I mean, you wouldn't go through any other pain (broken arm, etc) with no pain relief, right? I know labour is 'natural' pain, yada yada, but still...

geraldine & hully gully nailedit! The man has no idea. Ingore him - and gratefuly accept anything that is offered

Fucking muppet.

What the fuck is it to do with him?!
Twat. I went through "interfering arse" scenario too. When I posted on here the response was much the same

Just do what YOU want, and do what you NEED to do. Never mind him.

"Fucking muppet"

Short, succinct and accurate.

ha ha ha i'm sorry but this thread has really made me laugh! I'm all for DP/DH's input but really he will never experience it (unless he has in fact shat a watermelon/hedgehog/porcupine & i'm guessing not?)so not convinced he is in a position to advice you on pain relief! Also everyone has a different threshold so my advice? keep your options open! Sometimes pain relief can help shorten labour (less or no pain = being able to concentrate and control yourself more) I personally don't listen to anyone who thinks labour without pain relief is 'natural'. All you need to focus on is having your baby as safely as possible whether it's with or without pain relief is YOUR CHOICE.

I'd put my foot down with him right now. Best to start as you mean to go on. Does he plan to be your breast feeding coach as well? He is confused about his place in all this. And while I am not saying you should make a drama of it all, I'd be firm. Frankly he has a lot of temerity to even try to venture into this arena. He sounds terribly arrogant and domineering.

All that said, at the NHS hospital where I gave birth no one got an epidural anyway because they were too short staffed to manage it unless you ended up with a C-section!

& I do think you should print this thread off & show it to him, might make him realise what a dick he's being hearing from WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT!

No cervix then no say.

My friends SIL DH (remote I know) is a new age homeopathic type who was adamant that his wife shouldnt have any pain relief during labour. She had a long painful labour too. Everytime I see him I want to kill him.

If I'd done it "naturally" I'd have died. DH went through the entire labour negotiating pain relief for me and making sure the anethetist (sp?) was on standby.

I have heard there is an African tribe where the woman DOES grab the father's scrotum every time she has a contraction, so they can "share the experience". Don't know precisely where though, they probably died out...

to coin a phrase i love no uterus, no opinion.

Shove a butternut squash up his arse, tie him to the bed and force him to shit it out instead of going to a and e where they would oh so kindly sedate him before removing it.

Twat.

"Tell him you hope his next shit is a hedgehog."

love that one scurry!!

Seriously, WTF were you thinking breeding with this eejit?

Tell him you'll do what ever the hell you like!

You should do what he says...he is your husband after all...

Tell him that if he was having it he could do it his way! As he isn't he can't.

Hahaha...fuck me!... I tried to hold out...

Tell him that if he wants no pain relief he will have to allow you to scrape at his balls for each contraction with a rusty razor and he has no pain relief either...otherwise...no go...

Please hold him tight when you are giving birth, break his hand,bite him, pinch him, scratch him, see how he likes that!

take the pain relief - no vagina, no say!