to think that asking a visitor to take of their shoes in my house, is an OK thing to do

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I don't have many rules at home, just shoes on if outside and off if you are inside. Just had a friend and her DCs over, and asked them if they would mind taking their shoes off - well apparently thats really rude and made my visitors feel uncomfortable. FFS, it's not like I asked them to walk through an antiseptic food bath or anything.

I hate it. It feels wrong to be barefoot in somebody else's house. And it makes me think that the you think more of your floors than your guests.

or they have already seen them?

I don't like feet much

YABU. I don't like it when people don't take their shoes off but I wouldn't dream of asking them to because I wouldn't want to be seen as unwelcoming. Strangely, the only family I know who don't automatically take their shoes off on coming into our house (floors swept and mopped every couple of days) have previously expected me to take my shoes off when entering theirs - the reason I hadn't taken mine off was because their floors are so disgustingly minging that I would be scared of catching something if I did!

'No shoes' in my house. If you do not respect my wishes in my house, you can jog by. It is not unwelcoming, it is what I like in my house. I have plenty of guest slippers.

BTW I also have a dog (labrador) and she gets all four feet wiped every time she comes back from the outside.

I would tell you what to do with your manky guest slippers [shudder]

Guest slippers! Sorry - don't mean to laugh but yuk! Hope there's no old verrucas lurking in them . Don't mind me I'll just jog by...

it's odd when you first start encountering it I vaguely remember but after living abroad so many years and it seems so common everywhere I've lived , so common I'd say it is probably even the norm, that after a while you don't think about it anymore

Then you stay outside the gates, where your rules apply.

I wouldn't wear guest slippers. Not a chance. If I'm going somewhere I know they prefer no shoes then I take a pair of socks (or make sure I have some on). Ask me to wear guest slippers then I'd rather go home.

I don't really see what the big deal is. Some people I know do this, some don't. Their houses, their rules. Surely that's all there is to it?

ROFL at guest slippers! The mere thought sends shivers down my spine.....

I do not allow people to wear outdoor shoes in my house either. I am a foreigner where this approach is a norm (it is a european country, so the norm is not just in Asia).

What the hell are verrucas? Some kind of foot disease I assume. Is it a common thing then, everyone seems to be mentioning it...

Highly contagious, ingrowing warts that develop on the soles of your feet. Very painful depending on location of wart and not comfortable to walk on bare footed thats for sure. I have bad memories...

megapixels verrucas are foot warts. they spread most effectively in humid places, like communal showers, saunas and swimming pools (that is your nice hotel spas also) and it is advisable to wear your own slippers in the communal places like that.

I make my visitors wear these so they can clean my floor for me

Nobody is forced to wear guest slippers if offered, one can also stay barefoot.

Oh I see..
So a visitor brings their visitor's socks..
The host provides guest slippers...
How perfectly clear..and horrible...

Oh thanks. Well that's a special case for sure then and I'm sure people will be more accepting of shoes in that situ :).

I love these threads, there's one every month or so.
I had NO friends at all who removed shoes until I had DS. So maybe it's a mummy thing rather than a class thing.
I do remove if that's what my host does, but I feel half-dressed and not at all comfortable in just socks. If I had no socks I simply wouldn't do it. Have never been offered slippers btw.

I love these threads, there's one every month or so.
I had NO friends at all who removed shoes until I had DS. So maybe it's a mummy thing rather than a class thing.
I do remove if that's what my host does, but I feel half-dressed and not at all comfortable in just socks. If I had no socks I simply wouldn't do it. Have never been offered slippers btw.

Shoes off is like others have said a norm in most countries. Shoes in the house is a British thing. A bit like carpet in the bathroom/loo. Its shoes off in my house and I find it incredibly rude when people walk in with shoes.

I have to agree with those who prefer guests not to walk around in their outdoor shoes when indoors. That said, I have never had anybody question my request and I wasn't aware some may take such an offence.

shoes off here to especially if wearing crocs

Incredibly rude to ask adults to remove their shoes IMO. However, I do ask tell the DC's friends to take them off if they're going upstairs.
Most friends and family can see that we are barefoot/in slippers in our house and automatically offer to take off their shoes.