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aibu to ask what you really think of nurseries and their staff

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questioningmouse · 04/06/2011 13:15

honestly

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Mowlem · 12/06/2011 13:11

Oh and I'm not just saying they're fab... One of DDs workers was a national finalist in the childcarer of the year awards. So guessing, they think they're pretty good too Grin

thursday · 12/06/2011 13:42

i love the nursery my son goes to, he's been there for about 18 months now and i dont think the staff have changed at all in that time. he's had the same key worker all along who adores him, and him her. she's not thick or unambitious, she's been great for his development and i just hope she's still there when my daughter starts.

another nursery i used for a few months was largely ok. when he was in the age 1-2 room i couldnt have been happier, but once he moved it was more ok than great. he was only there about 8 hours a week though, i wouldnt have sent him there full time. staff were nice but they were all P/T in the 2+ room so he didnt really have a key person, i saw a different person every day.

LeQueen · 12/06/2011 14:54

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working9while5 · 12/06/2011 15:21

Personally I think a lot of them are very "baby farm"-like. They can have very well-meaning staff etc and some really do get a kick out of being with the kids and genuinely enjoy being around them. Some very professional folk etc. But, IMO, they are weird places nonetheless, especially when there are so many rules and regulations and observations etc that need to be done and measured up against the meaningless drivel that is the EYFS.

"Baby working9while5 is sat on the floor. He looks towards the table. He pulls himself up using his hands. He bangs two bricks together. He looks at a staff member and smiles" etc, which in itself may not be so bad to record, but must then be "categorised" according to the strands of the EYFS and next steps decided upon etc. I'd rather that they could all just have a play and cuddles and keep the place clean, to be honest. Do the observations once a half term, maybe, not all the sodding time. Nurseries are rated "good" or "oustanding" on the basis of paperwork, really, which just seems ridiculous to me. Most parents just want enthusiastic motivated staff who show an interest in their child, not seven different types of rubbishy observation.

To be honest with you, I hate sending my child to his nursery. It's alright enough, I think, they don't seem that bad there etc and I chose it rather than a childminder having had a scare with a childminder who I saw driving around with unrestrained kids in her car before I signed off on the contract. This prompted my aunt to tell me that my cousin spent a year being taken care of by a childminder who was a secret binge drinker and who never fed him and I suddenly felt that I wanted more than one person be responsible for his physical safety. Ideally, I would like him to be with a family member or one person I could trust (have a fab babysitter that I used to work with, but she's got a dayjob - drat!) but having done the rounds in the area, I wasn't impressed with many of the childminders I saw in groups so nursery it is.

I don't think he loves it, I don't think he hates it. I think he has good days and bad days and days in between and on the whole it's not doing him any harm that I can see. But I don't think it does him much good either. It's just his time at baby farm. I've done a lot of observations in nurseries as part of my job and you go into most nurseries and you will always see a good few kids sitting there looking slightly dazed and confused or bored by the whole experience, not really sure who to look to to move it on for them. I don't see this in childminders or in homes as much and I reckon it's because they don't have that key point of contact in the same way. But what do you do? I'm not going to give up work because of my ill-defined unease about it, because there are all sorts of positives to working and many negatives to not, so it is what it is. Nothing is ideal in this world.

raedrenn · 12/06/2011 15:31

My DS is 13 months and has been at nursery for about 2 months now a couple of days a week. After the initial settling in period, I must say he loves it and so do I. It is a very nice countryside nursery and he gets all excited when we drive up :) They do so much more with him than I can at home - playing with water/crafts/songs/etc. Not that I don't do that type of thing too - just not constantly day in day out. I'm usually trying to wash the dishes/make dinner whilst he wrecks the living room! :) He's very sociable and well-adjusted too. Partly I think this is his nature, but when I see other babies who stay at home all day, they seem much more insular and clingy...

sheeplikessleep · 12/06/2011 15:54

Switched DS1 care from CM to nursery at 3 1/2.

He loves it and was definitely 'ready' for it. He sings, paints, plays outdoors loads (mud pies and the like), glues and sticks, colours in, reads, bakes etc etc. The staff are fantastic, very easy to speak to, always cuddling the kids (but being fair and calm when one of the kids is testing boundaries). They're young, but seem to have a geuine love of kids and always giggling with them and also treating the kids with respect and giving them time. More importantly, the kids LOVE the staff and that is so evident. They also have a good balance of structured play and free play in the garden.

TiggyD · 12/06/2011 16:00

I'll give a longer answer when I have more time, but at the moment...

...quality varies greatly. One I worked in had equipment like the toys you see at car boot sales or jumble sales: stickers peeled off, broken bits of toys put back in boxes, dried up pens etc. Another looked perfect but wasn't. The manager showed me a sheet of paper and said "This is our Continuous Planning. We change it weekly" demonstrating she didn't know how an important principle of childcare worked-(Continuous Planning is continuous. She should have guessed from the word 'continuous' in Continuous Planning). Some are done on the cheap. I had a manager who said the ratios were actually a maximum number of staff required, not a minimum. We worked out that one day the lunch the children had cost around 15p. (Potato waffles, value beans, value sausage, value instant whip). Staff often have to work 10 hour shifts meaning staff are often knackered at 4 or 5. Staff quality range from fantastic, passionate professionals to the very thick.(To maintain ratios you just need staff with no criminal convictions and a pulse. Why should intelligent people want to work for £12,000 per year?)

veritythebrave · 12/06/2011 20:43

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