Why is everyone so mean on mumsnet?

[Orchidskeepdying]

New poster - been lurking for a few weeks. What I've noticed is that everyone is so mean. Parents/women/people come here for advice and they are torn to pieces or spelling critisied.

I feel that you all can be a little bit nicer to each other. People sometimes post to get a different opinion, but we can be nice about how we say things!

Anyway, thanks for listening - i bet someone will say something mean!

[FowlLanguage]

Oh hell yeah! cannot believe someone hasnt nabbed this as a nickname before now.

[jellyvodkas]

Precisely what Orchid is talking about BORNINAFRICA
Its people like you BORN that spoilt the tone and standard on mnett.
You prefer them now BORN but when you have a serious problem /sadness/loss worry in your life you will want folk to speak gently and kindly and tell you you have made a total "pigs ear" of things....wont you BORN?
You make me cross.

[jellyvodkas]

...and NOT tell you BORN you have made a pigs ear of things...is what i meant.

[Primalscream]

JV - it's 'hear hear'
As in 'I hear you'

[BornInAfrica]

1. FowlLanguage Sat 04-Jun-11 16:07:24
   

Oh hell yeah! cannot believe someone hasnt nabbed this as a nickname before now

Absolutely bloody brilliant

1. Jelly - grow up. Just grow the fuck up.

[worraliberty]

Don't you think that's just a bit arrogant jelly? I mean who are you to tell Borninafrica how she would want people to react to her in any given situation? And why do you assume that no-one here would give straight talking advice at a party because they are 'cowards'?

Would you walk into a party and start criticising everyone in the room about how they talk to others, and how they deliver advice?

[FowlLanguage]

mumsnet isnt just heartbreak, sadness and worry. You can still have a joke and a laugh.

This is just what i'm talking about. Ive made silly little typos like that in the past and people have mentioned it but you just laugh along and make a silly comment back!
People are capable of making jokes, being bitchy and giving caring advice. It's not either/or. That's the good thing about being human we is diverse like that innit.

[RockStockandTwoOpenBottles]

The chickens CAN be rude though BIA

[katvond]

I'm with born on this one I want straight talkers not fluffy cunting bunny rabbits. If I want fluff I'll go to DH ;)

[katvond]

One thing I do detest on here is others that pull others up on their spelling.
We all do typos etc get over it. As long as I can read who cares about some spelling mistakes and some smug git telling you you spelt it wrong

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Give me straight talking any day. I love a good bun fight.
No one has ever been mean to me and I must admit, if someone is 'ganged up' on by everyone on the thread then it usually means that they are BU.
I also prefer the blunter replies than the passive aggressive smiley type ones.
They tend to be more bitchy but in a subtle way IYSWIM.

[RockStockandTwoOpenBottles]

@ fluffy cunting bunny rabbits! I completely agree. I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't say face to face.

And Jelly IMO you're talking utter crap - people are not nasty in situations posted on here that have a delicate or tragic situation behind them - to me that is where MN is at its absolute best. One only has to look at Edgar or Rinder's dreadful events within the past couple of months to see just how wonderful people on here are. Frankly though, when people come on here with silly attitudes and flounce the second people disagree with them, then they are on the wrong forum.

[FowlLanguage]

But come on katvond! You gotta admit "fowl" language is pretty damn hilarious is it not? How can anyone ignore it!

[BoffinMum]

I am always amazed some people take it personally and go and cry when others are bitchy.

It's t'Internet.
It's anonymous.
You can step away from the laptop if you don't like what you are hearing.

[Primalscream]

Lol at Fowl Language - I'd change my name to chicken shit but I can't be bothered

[BornInAfrica]

fluffy cunting bunny rabbits


What the fuck would happen if they were to breed with the potty mouthed chooks?

[RockStockandTwoOpenBottles]

Bunting Runny Chabbits is what.

[TheFlyingOnion]

or clucky runting funny chabbits?

[BornInAfrica]

bluffy funning cunties

[MrsCampbellBlack]

I'm not new but gosh I do think some people are really nasty on mn.

And all this 'its just straight talking' is bollocks - for whatever reasons some people just enjoy being mean/nasty in real life and on here.

I just ignore it and to be honest it does tend to be the same few posters.

[BornInAfrica]

Well that's lovely Mrs Black. Really lovely.

Another one who can't differentiate being mean with being intolerant of terminal stupidity.

[MrsCampbellBlack]

Umm no - there are people on here who are deliberately nasty/mean - but you know you don't have to agree with me

[katvond]

Fowl I like fowler the better. You won't shock me.
I'm waiting to be shocked on here, not happened yet ;)

[katvond]

Mrs Black I straight talk with a bit of humour thrown it, if someone posts something and it's bollocks I will say so. If someone comes on here in distress really asking for help I won't sugar coat it I will tell them what nerds to be done. I think most MNers want straight talking ladies not bullshitters.

[MrsCampbellBlack]

Yes but straight talking with humour is fine of course but some people have/do say really nasty things. Its not often and AIBU and bizarrely baby names seem to be the worst places for it.

Of course most people are nice/kind/funny which is why I guess the really nasty people stand out.

I name-changed because of one such person who was taking waaaay too much interest in me and my life which was actually a good wake up call about keeping anonymity on here.