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Original poster

To let my local Co-Op know that one of their cashiers hurled racist abuse at me on the bus last August

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justicemustprevail · 03/06/2011 23:47

Well? I saw the bitch working in my local Co-Op the other day. I don't want to go into detail about what happened, but I was not the guilty party and I did not provoke this woman in any way. She was lucky I didn't phone the police.
Should Co-Op be told that they have hired a racist bigot?
Oh and I will do it purely out of revenge and the fact that she is ruining Co-Op's clean image.

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worraliberty · 04/06/2011 00:12

And don't pull the You don't know what it's like line here.

You had your own personal reasons not to report it...fair enough. But with that decision comes the responsibility of letting it go.

This is just nasty. Spreading stuff about her anonymously, trying to get her sacked behind her back means she'll never be able to put her side of the story forward.

Talk about a kangaroo court!

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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:13

TakeMeDrunkImHome - If you have anything constructive to say, then do say it, but after your first comment I am not reading anymore posts from you.

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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:15

worraliberty - spreading stuff would be lying and making rumours. If she did get sacked for it, it would be for the right reasons. I will say whatever I want to and use whatever line I want, it's MY thread, I created it.

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Birdsgottafly · 04/06/2011 00:15

I understand what it is like to feel as though you are making a fuss about nothing, when you are alone and the only one being attacked. So i understand why you have not reported it, but carry it on as i said is not healthy, try to work through it another way.

usualsuspect · 04/06/2011 00:16

I think its time I went to bed

Mn has gone all surreal

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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:17

Thanks Birdsgottafly. Seeing her in the shop just bought everything back to surface. At least one person has finally agreed that what she did was wrong.

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Birdsgottafly · 04/06/2011 00:17

OP, they won't sack her, they have no grounds to, how will you feel once you have reported it and she is still there? Think this through for your own good.

portaloo · 04/06/2011 00:17

So you are going to anonymously report a woman, whose name you don't know, for a crime you have no proof she committed, and you'll still feel better even when the Co op do nothing about your allegations? What is the point?
I would imagine this racist abuse doesn't even cross this woman's mind, and she'll probably never even be aware an anonymous complaint has been made about her.

Birdsgottafly · 04/06/2011 00:18

Personally i would just go in and sneer at her, i would rather she be there having to 'serve' me.

BooyHoo · 04/06/2011 00:19

no-one has said that what she did was right! what thread are you reading OP???

pookietherabbit · 04/06/2011 00:19

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worraliberty · 04/06/2011 00:19

Well that took a while didn't it? You were quite convincing up until your last few posts Grin

Hmm
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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:19

Oh - when a victim of racism comes on to mumsnet and makes a few comments, MN becomes surreal Hmm. Do go to sleep I'm sorry my post wasn't about dogs or cats fouling in my garden.

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vanessasmum · 04/06/2011 00:20

there is definately something in my contract at work about not doing anything outside work which would bring the name of the company into disrepute. it is a behind-her-back way of operating, but if it is brought to her attention by her boss it might give her a kick up the rear to change her attitude...

Pandemoniaa · 04/06/2011 00:21

It's not even a full moon, is it?

TakeMeDrunkImHome · 04/06/2011 00:21

Will await the trial for my hurling of abuse. Do NOT post on AIBU if you can't cope with being told that you are attention seeking. That isn't abusive.

portaloo · 04/06/2011 00:21

Why would the Co op believe the allegations though vanessasmum?

usualsuspect · 04/06/2011 00:21

Theres been a lot of dog threads on MN tonight I will give you that

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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:22

Yes, I'm pretty sure I had a clause like that in my work contract too, vanessasmum.

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tomhardyismydh · 04/06/2011 00:22

justice can only prevail if reported to the police not through some poorly thought out slur campaign.

BooyHoo · 04/06/2011 00:23

it's not your thread OP. it belongs to MN. others can post what they like just as much as you can.

however i really do feel that logic will not feature in any of your posts this evening and those that are posting logical advice may aswell rest bang their heads on the wall now. it will have the same overall effect.

Thornykate · 04/06/2011 00:23

OP I can appreciate your reasons for not reporting straight away, lots of victims feel like this & don't feel strong enough to make a stand until later on.

But I agree that reporting her to her employer now won't do any good.

I would be tempted to say something to her directly now though!

TakeMeDrunkImHome · 04/06/2011 00:23

It IS abusive behaviour to try and get someone fired from their job for something they did outside of work that you failed to deal with at the time.

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justicemustprevail · 04/06/2011 00:23

Yes there have been alot of dog threads. Why don't you go and re-read them? I'm sure you'll be more help there than here.

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pookietherabbit · 04/06/2011 00:23

justice is being s a racist now...stereotyping white mumsnetters par chance?