to think that women with spanking fetishes and suchlike should be ashamed of themselves?

[saidthespiderwithahorridsmile]

ditto being tied up, rape fantasies etc

what sort of message does this sort of "fantasy" send to the male of the species? That really, deep down, women want to be dominated? That physical control is sexy?

Honestly. Women who indulge in this sort of twisted self-hatred need therapy. And to grow up.

ABF, I was thinking of the meetings at work tomorrow "Yes, we'd be forthing at the gash to work with you"...

Popping candy you say?

i think you are sexist op, to both woman and men. i struggle to see how being tied up by you dp is considered as violent, to say that a woman should be ashamed of herself for allowing her dp to do that to her, in fact you specify male partner, is weirdly reminiscent to me of catholic guilt complex. "women protect thy virtue". i can think of nothing sexier than being tied up and blind folded while my dp runs a feather all over me. is that violent? no but it is damn sensual, mildly submissive, yeah it is, but he enjoys it also so we are on an equal footing. which brings me to the next point were you say basically its not as bad to be violent towards men sexually, now i know that i am over dramatising here but i cant help it does that mean that male rape isnt as bad, or male domestic violence isnt as bad and the reasons for why men like to be dominated, the mother complex etc, you reasoning here seems very strange. i dont know about you but my mother never tied you my brother and had sex with him. now i understand that there are extremes in bdsm, but your average person that likes in indulge in a bit of light spanking or being tied up has had a fairy normal up bringing with nice parents and just likes to be a bit adventurous in the bedroom and try things that turn them on be they male or female.

& It's not just about what you do - it's what you say.
Language can be extremely powerful.

ahhhh poo i have come in to late and its been done to death now, can some one just tie me up and maybe choke me a bit instead?

Can someone tell me the point of this thread without me having to read 9 pages? Ta

Have we established if OP wears a raincoat?

Yes - this thread peaked too soon -
Should have been Slow and smooth building up to an explosion at post 500

Oh well -

I don't see the problem with internalising violence and acting it out in a 'safe' way. What's the big deal?

If a woman wantsto be spanked because she was smacked as a child, I don't see what harm it is doing.

Oh, is this all about how to be a proper feminist again?

My ex loved a good spanking, but I'm more vanilla, and just wasn't into it beyond superficially enjoying the dressing up. I think if he'd talked to me more about it, that would have been ok, but he wouldn't and I got increasingly uncomfortable with seeing marks that I'd inflicted, esp the ones lasting into the next day.
Made me feel like he was fetishizing ME actually, him refusing to communicate made me the object, bizarrely enough. It wasn't about me, but what I could do for him once I'd assumed this fantasy dominatrix role. Quite sad really.
But to answer the question in your OP...no, of course not.

Why froth? Why would you not just pop?

Ok so once I thought it would be a good idea to take a swig of scotch in my mouth & give DH a BJ. He shrieked the house down but not in a good way. It burnt like feck apparently.

Hope I've not mis-interpreted the way this thread is going....

hahahaha i use sprite for bj's or cava. its all about the bubbles.

Haha! Yes, and never think "oh it'll be alright, I've had a beer" after a chicken shish covered in chilli sauce on the way home from a (rare) night out. A beer does not rinse the chilli sauce off of your lips. At all. He wasn't a happy bloke that night

I should perhaps point out we didn't use the popping candy there.

Sorry if that's disappointed you you big perves :o

lemonade or similar is fine for that. Alternated with a hot drink.

"hahahaha i use sprite for bj's or cava. its all about the bubbles."

Would an Aero work then?

ffs can someone let me out of this fecking gimp mask?

Just wondering about the bubbles...............

Have tried this but just manage to spill all liquid out of my mouth - how does one perform this properly?!

Well without being too graphic - try it with you lying down, facing up, and let him flop it in - then nothing will spill out

Thanks moomoofarm - hadn't tried that angle.......

i have never had a prob with that you just keep your mouth closed until you are about to put the cock in and the make a very small hole for it to push its way in
moo's way would prob lead to me choking near to death

I think the OP is a bit rich to spit the dummy at someone saying 'how dare you' to her when she has said women 'should be ashamed' of fetishes.

No TheFlyingOnion, you can damn well stay in there.

oh fuck, flop it in? ? Moomoo!!

Thank God this gimp masks got a zip over the mouth....