to think that women with spanking fetishes and suchlike should be ashamed of themselves?

[saidthespiderwithahorridsmile]

ditto being tied up, rape fantasies etc

what sort of message does this sort of "fantasy" send to the male of the species? That really, deep down, women want to be dominated? That physical control is sexy?

Honestly. Women who indulge in this sort of twisted self-hatred need therapy. And to grow up.

Traveling - I was abused actually. As was my DH. But we have absolute trust in one another so it's safe to explore these fantasies now and again :)

scrotal - :)
im not sure whether to hug you or to tie you up

Gster you're probably right.

This gimp mask makes it quite hard to concentrate.

I have been a naughty girl then....bends over

oh are we onto foodstuffs now?

(dissolveable) paracetemol and an ice cube

scrotal my question about the abuse was to saidthespider

My question to you was about the popping candy

And I agree with you about the safe exploration of said fantasies . Life would be a dull place without being able to let go with the person you loved most in the world .

Anyone tried Space Candy?

just dont try the German cucumber

Spanking is fab, I wish we'd discovered it 20 years ago.

If you don't get it, it's pointless trying to explain, it's like someone trying to sell me the benefits of swinging, ain't gonna happen.

That is all.

MAL! Wondered where you were earlier in the thread

malificence - the voice of reason and common sense - well done lady

Where the buggery is sgb ?

She should have popped up 3 pages back at least .

I've been playing Nurse to DH, for real unfortunately. He's got some godawful bug and has been in bed for most of the day, I managed to tempt him out of bed with some soup and now he's gone for a bath, poor lamb - no spankies for me for a while, he's not ill very often but when he is...

OldMac - I think that is the first ( and probably only) time anyone has ever said that I'm the voice of either common sense or reason on here seriously.

it's cos we don't like to arse lick.
it is true that you are the voice of authority when it comes to anything BDSM related.

Oh I know travelling, I hope I didn't sound defensive :) I was just adding my tuppenceworth. I've often wondered if what happened to me has made me enjoy that side of sex TBH, because I feel so safe with my DH (no way would I have entertained anything like that if I was with some random bloke!) but I don't think it matters, I had plenty of therapy and I am 'over it', and we are happy.

Anywho, the popping candy... Bizarrely it was from Poundland

But WOW!!!

arse licking is a hole other thread surely?

OldMac - both please :o

at ABF

aRF @ Ferrett.

Yes i guess so. but equally pleasurable.

I've been with DH for 15 years, if we didn't experiment we'd be dead with boredom.

Neither of us have experienced any untoward childhood experiences, we just quite like a bit of spanking sometimes. BOTH of us. And other things.

What we do in bed is not influenced by porn (we don't partake tbh) we just like to chnage things now and then, some things we've tried and liked, some I've liked and he's not and vice versa.

I don't think S&M in a loving, trusting relationship is anything to fear and I am neither twisted or self-hating, far from it.

TSC, your comments have made me , esp "frothing at the gash", I HAVE to find a way to get that phrase into everyday conversations.

Not defensive at all scrotal , I was too but now all therapied up (real word I am sure) and fixed , according to me anyway .

I just wondered if it was a problem or issue for the op .

And yes poundland is probably a better bet than waitrose for popping candy .

DH is going to think I have gone nuts when I tell him we are playing with popping candy at the weekend

Everyone knows all the power lies with the sub in a BDSM relationship anyway. They decide what goes and when.

I'd die of boredom in a vanilla relationship. If what other people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms (or dungeons as the case may be) offends you so deeply OP I'd suggest that starting threads on public forums around your opinions on fetishism may be a bit of a stupid idea. If you don't like it, don't do it, but keep your opinions to yourself on what I do, there's a dear.

"TSC, your comments have made me , esp "frothing at the gash", I HAVE to find a way to get that phrase into everyday conversations."

I can just imagine it... Oh do try the potatoes they'll have you simply frothing at the gash

don't tell him. Stick some on your tongue and then give him a blow job.

then get him to repay the favour