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but has Natalie Cassidy been heading for huge fall for a while??

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tl10 · 26/05/2011 20:42

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390608/Natalie-Cassidy-emerges-time-fianc-Adam-Cottrells-arrest-calms-nerves-cigarette.html

Sounds very cruel but after months (have just returned to work from maternity) of reading trashy magazines in which she attacks anyone who goes to work/ bottlefeeds/ is a new mum but looks 100 times better than her and then shows off about how much sex she has with her husband (yeah, thanks for sharing) as if she is the authority on motherhood for us all, that her relationship may have so mething to do with her issues with everyone else and need to constantly show off? I feel for her horrible experience but she has made herself seem hideously smug and hypocritical over the last year- ugh rant over.

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sausagesandmarmelade · 27/05/2011 15:04

Having scanned the first page yet again...I think that there are some who definitely jumped on the OP having not properly read what she actually said.

I think that some people come onto this forum looking to take out their own anger and frustrations on OPs....and some deliberately twist what someone has said to make it look to be something entirely more sinister...as an EXCUSE to level their own abuse at them.

Some may have properly read the OPs comments and still come to the wrong conclusion (can't see how as the OP makes it quite plain that she "feels for" the abuse NC suffered).

Interesting to see that quite a few came to a similar conclusion as I did.

IprivateI · 27/05/2011 15:06

Peanut, the only reason OP's post has been interpreted in a bad way by a majority of people is quite obvious. It is bandwagon jumping. You read the first 6-7 posts and that's enough for someone of a weak mind to be swayed into interpreting the post the same way.

I read the post and managed to understand OP's stance on this. Why would any woman (and bare in mind OP has just had a baby too, so she's also a mother) be happy for another woman or mother to get beaten up? Ridiculous.

It is obvious people have read what they wanted to, and have victimized OP for no reason what-so-ever.

nijinsky · 27/05/2011 15:13

So the thread becomes a subjective one, analysing the intent and content of the OP's post. I prefer an objective approach. I had no difficulty in understanding the OP's post and wouldn't have thought it would have attracted such vitriol, other than it touched upon one of those subjects that are so pc right now, any comment on them at all is considered taboo. Unless it first contains the disclaimer "No harm or otherwise is intended to anyone who may be affected by this post. An offence caused is unintentional and readers are reminded that these are only the words of a poster on an internet forum and may be open to misinterpretation". Even then, the exact meaning of the disclaimer would be interpreted. There seems to be a national obsession right now with taking offence, claiming libel and hopefully retiring on the proceeds.

I think I prefer the German Schadenfreude. Its more honest.

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 15:17

IprivateI... I don't think it's so much "bandwagon jumping"...

"I feel sorry for her but"... But...

Is OP saying she'd feel less sorry for her if she hadn't been so smug?

She started the post by listing NC's faults. It does smack of "well, she loses some sympathy for doing/saying these things." And this was my interpretation from BEFORE reading the subsequent posts.

zukiecat · 27/05/2011 15:54

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JoniRules · 27/05/2011 15:55

but has Natalie Cassidy been heading for huge fall for a while??

The OP posts a thread with this title implying that because Natalie Cassidy has been outspoken in her views of what mothers should or should not have done, she may have been, in the OP's own words heading for a fall.

Then in the main post, the OP goes on to say that the reason that Natalie may have been saying these things is because of a bad relationship. So what are we to conclude from this? It seems as though the OP is implying that because of Natalie Cassidy's views she has been heading for a fall. That is what had got people's backs up.

And anyway Natalie C hasn't even said anything bad, she's just been quite opinionated, as we all can be when we have our precious first born, thinking we know it all. Just a really ill conceived post by the OP

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 15:57

Agree with Zukie... My ex PIL were more understanding of the situation than my own parents were. I still haven't opened up completely about what happpened to my parents.

MrsGaGaGo · 27/05/2011 16:03

I don't like the lass but her being attacked is awful and some thinking she deserves shame on you!

zukiecat · 27/05/2011 16:07

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DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 16:24

My parents were acceptable, Zukie, although my Mum accused me of blowing things out of proportion after I had the ex arrested. Dad told me "you need to realise you're not the easiest person to live with, sometimes..." They now accept ex is a prize pillock, but the only time either of them have tried to get me to talk about it was in a busy restaurant, in front of DS. Needless to say, I didn't.

I'm sorry to hear your parents were so... hideous! That was the last thing you needed. :(

flyingspaghettimonster · 27/05/2011 16:43

Sad to see that article - they looked so happy in those Venice pictures when she was pregnant. Not read anything she has said or done since the baby arrived, but she looks so pale and broken in those pictures :-(

zukiecat · 27/05/2011 16:47

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DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 16:56

I'm ok, now, thanks Zukie. Except for the confidence crisis. But I'll get there.

It's a shame your brother couldn't have been a bit more understanding. I mean, 14p was sucha huge price for him to pay Hmm I hope you get your confidence back, though. It can make such a huge difference... :)

zukiecat · 27/05/2011 17:08

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TheOriginalFAB · 27/05/2011 17:17

Hmm I do not have a weak mind.

Every one knows that heading for a fall means you are going to come a cropper/have bad luck. I don't care what any one else said, I can make my own decisions on something and the OP read as a nasty piece of it serves her right.

PinotGrigiosKittens · 27/05/2011 17:41

Who said you had a weak mind FAB? What a fucking insulting thing to say. Ignore ignore and then when you've done that, ignore some more.

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 17:46

Pinot, back a page or two. I think, but may be wrong, that it was sausagesandmarmalade, generalising those who didn't like what the OP said.

TheOriginalFAB · 27/05/2011 17:53

No, it was a comment about reading the first 6-7 opposing posters and then how every one jumps in and must have a weak mind. I might be crap at lots of things but I know my own mind.

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 17:55

That's the one, FAB. I just chose to ignore that comment. One less thing to get angry about. :)

TheOriginalFAB · 27/05/2011 17:58
valiumbandwitch · 27/05/2011 17:58

I was in an abusive relationship, and when I read this had happened to NC I felt that it explained some things..

For years she's been kind of pitied in the media. And then she met this guy who appeared to be handsome and decent and for the first time in ages she had the opportunity to present herself as somebody who 'had it all'.

I'm glad that she can no longer prioritise appearances over the reality, because the public know now that he's a thug.

I hope she leaves him sooner rather than later. She'll have my respect if she leaves him immediately because it's a horrible thing to go through, and it takes a lot of strength no matter whether you leave or stay.

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 18:00

Very well said, Valium. :)

MrsDrOwenHunt · 27/05/2011 18:28

hes a cunt end of, wether or not shes been smug or not! poor girl

Portofino · 27/05/2011 19:33

Just imagine having to go through all this with the DM on your back! I don't care what she said (which was probably exaggerated). No-one deserves this.

I was totally humilated when I realised that my family thought an ex of mine probably beat me. He never laid a finger on me, but the sheer shame that everyone thought that was bad enough. To go through something like this in the public eye is truly awful! She deserves nothing but our sympathy. Hey, she could even be a MNetter....