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but has Natalie Cassidy been heading for huge fall for a while??

233 replies

tl10 · 26/05/2011 20:42

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390608/Natalie-Cassidy-emerges-time-fianc-Adam-Cottrells-arrest-calms-nerves-cigarette.html

Sounds very cruel but after months (have just returned to work from maternity) of reading trashy magazines in which she attacks anyone who goes to work/ bottlefeeds/ is a new mum but looks 100 times better than her and then shows off about how much sex she has with her husband (yeah, thanks for sharing) as if she is the authority on motherhood for us all, that her relationship may have so mething to do with her issues with everyone else and need to constantly show off? I feel for her horrible experience but she has made herself seem hideously smug and hypocritical over the last year- ugh rant over.

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AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2011 09:40

in a way it's a pretty typical story, this one. woman loses weight, gains confidence, man prefers her un-confident and smacks her down. poor wee natalie and eliza.

GandTiceandaslice · 27/05/2011 09:48

OP. How nasty.

onclefestere · 27/05/2011 09:49

what a STUPID thing to say OP.

MonstaMunch · 27/05/2011 09:49

the most hilarious thing I heard a couple of weeks ago was Denise Van Outen publishing TWO books on how to be a fabulous mummy

you would need to be tapped in the head to take her advice on board

sausagesandmarmelade · 27/05/2011 09:51

Errrr.....where did the OP say that she thought NC deserved being abused????

Some of you lot are really weird...why don't you read before you spout your mouths off.

As for NC....I like a trashy read myself (a bit of gratuitous crap can be entertaining) but tend to take a lot of it with a pinch of salt.
IF...(and that's a bit IF) she did criticise Mum's who bottlefeed then that is soooo wrong. Nothing wrong with bottle feeding as far as I know.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/05/2011 10:06

I don't think the OP was guilty of anything other than Schadenfreude, in fact she said so herself in subsequent posts that she wasn't referring to the violence, which of course is unacceptable.

Apart from some insightful thoughts from FellatioNelson and maybe one or two others, I think this thread is just predictably samey. There are an awful lot of sheep on MN... Schadenfreude-loving ones at that... Grin

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/05/2011 10:07

... and I'm entirely agreeing with Hairfulofsnakes in her last post... :)

pellmell · 27/05/2011 10:09

tl10....I hope you are o.k!
It was a bit of a jumble of thoughts constructed in a way that some have taken offense to but you really did not say that NC deserved to be assaulted and I never thought that was what you were suggesting!

beesimo · 27/05/2011 10:12

I don't know what Schadenfreude is, is it a posh way of saying 'I like a bit of snidey bitchery' or is it 'I like to see people have their legs kicked out from under them' ?

ShowOfHands · 27/05/2011 10:22

Oh goodness me this thread makes for pretty dismal reading. That poor girl. I don't know what that man has done to her and frankly I don't particularly care about the specifics, to be charged with common assault there's sufficient evidence to suggest he did an abominable and inexcusable thing, I hope to God she has some good real life friends and family helping her through this. I don't know a thing about her tbh but dear Lord, to see a young mother's sadness splashed all over a newspaper as some kind of misery porn is disgusting. Highlight domestic abuse maybe, open up some awareness, some debate but this poking by the Daily Mail is nasty.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/05/2011 10:34

beesimo... Both really, I like your definitions, btw. Grin

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/05/2011 10:37

It's little wonder that scumbag journalists are laughing their heads off at the dumb idiocy of their readers. We really do seem to be scraping the 'stupid barrel' with great gusto. Hmm

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 10:37

Sausagesandmarmalade, When someone says "heading for a fall" it means they believe the person in question has done something or said something which will have a negative consequence.

In other words, NC's action's, according to OP, are in some way,the cause of what happened to her. Let's just minimise domestic abuse, and put the blame on the victim, eh?

Welcome back to the 50's...

sausagesandmarmelade · 27/05/2011 10:49

I feel for her horrible experience Is what the OP says...

She is in NO WAY minimising NC's domestic abuse....or saying that NC is deserving of abuse so I cannot understand why she got quite the reaction she did.

Seems some people have a macabre delight in applying their own sordid interpretation of posts so that they can justify their apalling responses.

cornflowers · 27/05/2011 10:55

beesimo yep, you're pretty much spot on with those definitions. Surely only a German could have invented a word for taking perverse delight in the misfortunes of others.

Mamaz0n · 27/05/2011 10:58

What a disgracefull attitude OP.

it smacks of "serves you right for telling us all how happy you were"

DontCallMePeanut · 27/05/2011 10:58

The definition "From the biblical expression ?Pride before a fall?. Actually: ?Pride goeth before destruction; and a haughty spirit before a fall?. Proverbs xvi.18"

To me, if someone told me, after exP had assaulted me that I'd been heading for a fall, I would have taken that as them saying I deserved it. And that's what is at risk. In the OP, ti10 provided a rant of everything that NC had apparently done wrong...

This could and does read as "well, if she hadn't done x, y and z, then this wouldn't have happened".

Mamaz0n · 27/05/2011 11:08

i was once told by a fellow parent at DS nursary that i was smug and "acted like i was better than" the other parents because i was at uni studying for a degree, working and raising a child with ASD.

I am sure that she would have gotten some sort of macabre satisfaction knowing that i went home and took a beating.

I think she would have in some way felt that it had "bought me down a peg or two"

It is a disgusting attitude

sausagesandmarmelade · 27/05/2011 11:11

Surely only a German could have invented a word for taking perverse delight in the misfortunes of others.

Oh great..........

scottishmummy · 27/05/2011 11:15

yes it is disgusting.nc had talked extensively about pg and her relationship.hell so what ?thats what schlebs do doesnt mean she had a beating coming to her

makes me sad this inference of the deserving and undeserving woman who by their characteristics and behaviour somehow provoke.and op placing nc in the well she had it coming,pride before a fall and all that

shes a lassie whos just had a baby and a pasting from man she thought she'd marry , jesus wept id expect a bit more empathy

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 27/05/2011 11:21

sausagesandmarmalade... I actually read cornflower's comment as an admiration of the appropriateness and precision of the term, attributing it to the German language, rather than implying that it was in any way derrogatory. Why the 'Oh great'..?

Animation · 27/05/2011 11:50

OP - I think it might be a sign of some unconscious patriarchy conditioning in you - that women deserve and should take their punishments dished out by men.

LDNmummy · 27/05/2011 11:54

Exactly what DCMP says above.

Animation · 27/05/2011 11:57

Or OP, on the other hand - you were just being philosophical about people in general who get too big for their boots - and then often come down with a bang.