but has Natalie Cassidy been heading for huge fall for a while??

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www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390608/Natalie-Cassidy-emerges-time-fianc-Adam-Cottrells-arrest-calms-nerves-cigarette.html

Sounds very cruel but after months (have just returned to work from maternity) of reading trashy magazines in which she attacks anyone who goes to work/ bottlefeeds/ is a new mum but looks 100 times better than her and then shows off about how much sex she has with her husband (yeah, thanks for sharing) as if she is the authority on motherhood for us all, that her relationship may have so mething to do with her issues with everyone else and need to constantly show off? I feel for her horrible experience but she has made herself seem hideously smug and hypocritical over the last year- ugh rant over.

Nijinksy I can assure you I am not horrified - just questioning your rationale, as I believe is customary on mumsnet. Controversial is fine - confusing and inflammatory is not - and if what you meant was "I didnt believe the image and am not surprised" why did you not just write "I didnt believe the image and am not surprised" as opposed to " It did seem too good to be true. To be frank, she doesn't have the looks for what she is trying to portray herself as and her boyfriend seemed too good looking for her and too perfect almost to be real. Sorry for saying that about her looks (I will be slated) but she has made quite a living out of promoting them, along with her figure, so fair game."

My issue has little to do with political correctness and more to do with your "fair game" comment - that is what made is sound like you feel she deserves this somehow and noone IMO deserves domestic abuse. I am annoyingly politically correct funny like that.

niinsky so if you are not good looking you can't have a good looking partner . Not all men are shallow, a lot of men look beneath you know.

But in the case of Natalie Cassidy and her fiance (who hopefully is or soon will be her ex-fiance), its not turned out that well, has it? Perhaps she was too attracted to his looks and didn't pay enough attention to the person underneath?

And no, I personally wouldn't take diet and exercise tips, nor style or beauty tips of her.

She was unlucky with that one, but there is nothing to say that she cannot get an attractive man with a lovely personality in the future. She just has to be a bit more choosy, and yes get to know future blokes better.

Absolutely. But she's a good actress, so why does she do so much of all that other stuff? She has a talent, she's not a model, so why the need to be constantly in magazines and talking about her weight loss/gain? Theres stars I find interesting to read about, but not her. She must do a lot of self promotion/tipping of of paparazzi for photo shoots.

If anyone ever doubts mnetters i will direct them to this thread,i just read the op and thought omg and then read the responses and thought oh yes all is still well with the world after all.
Op ill just add my 2p worth-go away!!!

some people just crave the limelight don't they

I think she does all the other stuff because it's offered to her, and it probably pays well. I don't know how much acting work she gets offered, but possibly not that much. TBH most actors/actresses struggle after being in a soap for a long time, if you think of some who have left over the last few years very few are seen much on TV afterwards. You have to pay your mortgage somehow.

as to looks, I think she has a very characterful face, and certainly isnt unattractive. Whereas he isn't particularly good looking imo, and judging by what's happened isn't a nice person either.

I would lay money that she has struggled with stereotyping after ee and not being trained/experienced in anything else has seen an "easy" way to make money. I get the feeling she wanted to be seen as the girl next door made good and she had surgery etc very young which suggests a certain amount of insecurity. She clearly has shite representation and perhaps needs to use this as an opportunity to sit down and realise that appearances and the opinions/approval of others means fuck all - putting her head down, working at getting some decent roles for herself again and concentrating on being a mum would probably serve her far better right now and give her a much firmer foundation for meeting a decent bloke in the future.

nijinsky I think she does all that crap because it pays well. IMO (and this is not meant to be bitchy) she doesn't get a lot of acting work because she isn't that good looking. Her acting career will probably really get going when she is 40+ yrs.

she a normal person - the daily mail article is cruel as usual

Kitty: I doubt very much it is offered to her. NC and her management will have worked very hard at making it happen. This is all totally unconnected to what has recently happened in her relationship.

She is no different to anybody else, I can name loads that self promote who really annoy. That is how she earns a living and why not! If you don't like it don't buy the magazines or watch the programmes.

Because a celebrity is not good looking they should hide away , thats really sad. She is not bad looking at all, actually she is better looking than some of those supermodels do the catwalk. Strange some of them are.

Re being shallow etc I don't necessarily think she was attracted to his looks and therefore failed to notice an abusive personality. If he is an abuser then he probably told her very early on he was in love with her, piled on the compliments, was keen to settle down/commit to her very quickly, and so on. The fact he wasn't a celeb also probably made him seem more normal and down to earth.

If you're vulnerable (which she was I'm sure - losing her mum, not having had much luck with men, slated in the press for her weight and looks, being at an age where she wanted to commit to someone etc) it's very easy to fall for someone telling you all the right things, to ignore any red flags, and plough on. Because every girl wants to believe in a happy ever after :(

I dont think her career choices can be described as seperate to what happened in her relationship recently, other than not being a good enough reason to justify it. I just think when these "celebs" set out on the path of having a camera there for every little thing, the money and "glamour" blinds them to the fact that when the bad shit happens, which it does to us all regardless of status, looks, or age, you cant turn them off - and how do you handle it if that happens?

Totally agree kitty you put it into better words than I could. Not all abusers show themselves early on, they groom if want of a better word like a paedophile would.

Oh the poor beggar. She looks utterly devastated.

I feel very sorry for her. Yes she has been annying, however she is a young girl, in love, with a baby and the wherewithal to make money out of her lifestyle. Yes she was smug but bloody hell she is a young mum with a new baby, we all talked shit at times I still do.

She must feel crushed. Who knows how long he has been aggressive for.

I wish her all the best, frankly. But how horrible for her, and how awful for her daughter.

OP - you were a div, however give you the benefit of the doubt. I think you had a case of verbal diahorrea (how do you fucking spell that word?).

In fairness we don't know what happened. We don't know he's an abuser- I don't think the police even confirmed it was her he beat?

Of course we can't know, but perhaps he did the standard abuser thing of sweeping her off her feet, declarations of passionate adoration by day 4 and bowled the girl over.

Is the use of 'hard of thinking' a take on the old expression for a learning disability, 'hard of learning', nice.

I know many people with learning disabilities who would never make the correlation that the OP did between being smug and being 'taken down a peg or two'.

serenity he has been charged with two counts of beating her and two counts of criminal damage - that is pretty serious and they must have had some evidence to do it.

I can't see any confirmation that it was beating her, that's what I meant. It's likely to be the case, I admit, but it's still presumptious. They're couldve been another person involved who was the victim; it couldve been a drink fuelled scrap; maybe be did hit her but he has never hit anyone before and never will again. Attributing personality traits to someone you know bugger all about seems a bit ridiculous.

TBH I didn't like what I saw of the guy in her doc Becoming Mum. He got completely wasted and acted like a shit while she was heavily pregnant at a music festival.

OP your post is awful, it reaks of 'she needed to be brought down a peg'. As someone who went through domestic violence, I hope it doesn't happen to any woman, especially not where children are involved.