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but has Natalie Cassidy been heading for huge fall for a while??

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tl10 · 26/05/2011 20:42

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1390608/Natalie-Cassidy-emerges-time-fianc-Adam-Cottrells-arrest-calms-nerves-cigarette.html

Sounds very cruel but after months (have just returned to work from maternity) of reading trashy magazines in which she attacks anyone who goes to work/ bottlefeeds/ is a new mum but looks 100 times better than her and then shows off about how much sex she has with her husband (yeah, thanks for sharing) as if she is the authority on motherhood for us all, that her relationship may have so mething to do with her issues with everyone else and need to constantly show off? I feel for her horrible experience but she has made herself seem hideously smug and hypocritical over the last year- ugh rant over.

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nijinsky · 26/05/2011 21:53

It did seem too good to be true. To be frank, she doesn't have the looks for what she is trying to portray herself as and her boyfriend seemed too good looking for her and too perfect almost to be real. Sorry for saying that about her looks (I will be slated) but she has made quite a living out of promoting them, along with her figure, so fair game.

colditz · 26/05/2011 21:53

i think the OP has been slightly misinterpreted.

NC's stress levels of the pAST year will certanly have contributed to her general slight new mother smugginess, because she will have been determined to put on a perfect front to mask the (now obvious) relationship problems she's been having.

I don't think that she has been heading for a fall. I think she has probably been very frightened, and I just want her to move next door to me.

southeastastra · 26/05/2011 21:54

she's could be a good character actress and wouldn't need all this publicity

she should leave eastenders i think

5inthebed · 26/05/2011 21:55

Pick and mix Grin

If the op had been worded properly, I guess what you're trying to say is that not everything in her life is as rosy as she made out.

What a huge drop down to earth for her though :(

nijinsky · 26/05/2011 21:55

Oh, and I wouldn't feel too sorry for her. Unlike mos women in this situation, she'll be able to make money from selling her story on it and pictures of her appearing sad.

smartyparts · 26/05/2011 21:56

I didn't know she was still in Eastenders, thought she left years ago!

pigletmania · 26/05/2011 21:56

YABVU nobody deserves that! I like Natalie she is very down to earth, and erm normal, I have never seen that smugness about her.

prettyfly1 · 26/05/2011 21:57

nijinsky - please tell me that you dont actually think because she isnt pretty but has made money out of being famous you think she deserves abuse for being beaten up - if so you do realise that this is a parenting forum aimed primarily at women dont you? Misodgyny doesnt tend to be appreciated here.

To the poster who said about her visiting her grandparents - you made me look at her in a totally different light - she seems very sweet from that. Poor girl.

KittySpencer · 26/05/2011 21:58

I've heard from people who knew her vaguely in RL from when she was a teenager in Easties that she was a really nice, genuine girl. She was quite young IIRC when her mum died and I think losing a parent when young is incredibly hard to go through, famous or not :(

I do feel very sorry for her in view of what's happened - I suspect this bloke was a wrong'un all along but it's ever so easy to get carried away when you meet someone you like and they're telling you all the stuff you want to hear. I've been there, and with the unexpected pregnancy a few months later too. Mine got physically abusive when our DC was about 6 months old, though there had been signs well before that which I ignored. I suspect that might well be true in her case. I hope that she has more sense than me and ends it with him now (my relationship dragged on another 7 miserable years).

southeastastra · 26/05/2011 21:58

oh blimey i just assumed she was on ee, i don't watch it.

prettyfly1 · 26/05/2011 22:00

Its hard though isnt it Kitty. She will almost certainly be telling herself he can change, its the first time, that they can work through it, its her fault and I would lay odds for a girl with that many insecurities and no mum to step in and give her a cuddle and some support, there may well be a voice in her head going "I have made a massive deal out of how good our relationship is, so I must make it work no matter what..". I dont envy the lass right now and no matter what stupid stuff she has been paid a lot of money for spouting in the press, I hope someone can go round, give her a hug and just talk some common sense into her.

PinotGrigiosKittens · 26/05/2011 22:04

I sooooo agree with shineon.

zukiecat · 26/05/2011 22:04

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newnameforamoment · 26/05/2011 22:05

Just to add to my other post, I kind of feel that she's a square peg in a round hole, not too bright, and going the wrong way about the whole celebrity thing. Certainly, my family found her to be very easy going, very down to earth and devoted to her dad. She also clearly missed her mother terribly. (Again, I should say thay I only met her once but did have conversations with my gran most weeks that ran along the lines of 'Natalie's been here. She says.....') She showed a lot of consideration for my grandparents (their house adjoined hers), in that if she thought she'd made too much noise (if friends came over for example) she spoke to my grandparents and apologised. In fact, they never heard her (I suspect this was a lot to do with them both being quite deaf!) but she was clearly very aware of her neighbours.

She certainly comes across as smug in the press but from what we saw I just don't think it's her. I really don't think she fits in the world she moves in and, if her relationship is also turbulent, she probably feels quite lost. Having all the money in the world won't help if you feel that your life and more importantly that of your child has been shattered.

KittySpencer · 26/05/2011 22:05

prettyfly, yes you're absolutely right. The thought of having so much 'invested' was what had me stuck for all those years (that and him being EVER so sorry, and he wouldn't do it again etc etc) - and it was only my friends I felt I had to make a success of it to, not the public at large.

southeastastra · 26/05/2011 22:06

can't be arsed with this, you lot are so earnest and seem to belive the daily mail

Serenitysutton · 26/05/2011 22:06

Prettyfly nijinski didn't say that at all! I should leave before the stress of trying to get people to read what posts actually say makes me punch a microwave

Vallhala · 26/05/2011 22:09

We will have domestic violence seen for the crime that it is all the while we have our own sx suggesting that the victims somehow deserve it.

Shameful, OP.

prettyfly1 · 26/05/2011 22:10

I know can you imagine how much pressure she must be feeling right now and the worst of it is, its pressure created by herself, whilst she tried to carve out a new career for herself as an "outspoken young mum". She has been in the spotlight since she was tiny and that has to mess with your perception of the world - is she even trained to do anything else at all? I just cant imagine why anyone would feel anything other then sympathy for her. I saw the story in the paper this morning and it looks like she has a massive black eye - having been in her position and knowing others in it, that is something you want to keep hidden, not just to protect your other half but because when you are in that position you often feel shame at having "that sort of relationship" (total bollocks but abused women tell themselves a lot of seemingly illogical things to rationalise their experience) - having it all over the press would be awful.

pigletmania · 26/05/2011 22:11

niinsky so if you are not good looking you can't have a good looking partner Hmm. Not all men are shallow, a lot of men look beneath you know. Just for the record, Natalie is not bad looking at all, in fact like a lot of us, when she has her war paint on, and she has nice clothes on she looks quite nice.

LoveBeingAbleToNamechange · 26/05/2011 22:11

Ok I will admit to watching her tv show when she was pregnant. And for all the comments (which I haven't read as don't buy the mags) she is meant to have made just makes me think she would be a mnetter!

Her mum died when she was little. She obviously adores her dad and also had Pauline from eastenders as a substite mum.

These pages are filled with people judging for everything from bottle feeding to working to if you deserved to be smacked about the difference is her comments are printed under her real name yours and mine are not.

prettyfly1 · 26/05/2011 22:12

serenity - just before you go and take out your microwave, have a Biscuit. I read Nijinksy''s posts quite well and I am quite certain she can defend herself - perhaps you could go and enjoy your biscuit get some perspective

nijinsky · 26/05/2011 22:12

nijinsky - please tell me that you dont actually think because she isnt pretty but has made money out of being famous you think she deserves abuse for being beaten up - if so you do realise that this is a parenting forum aimed primarily at women dont you? Misodgyny doesnt tend to be appreciated here.

sigh that would be right prettyfly. I would hardly support abuse, would I? Christ, I hate the idea that everyone is supposed to be so PC and stupid these days they can no longer read a slightly realistic post without being "up in arms" or "horrified". Fluffy bunny rabbits and peace, man, no-one allowed to say anything marginally controversial!

All I am saying is that she has made a living out of projecting a certain image. I did not find the image particularly believable, and am not that surprised to find it was not as idealistic as was portrayed.

pigletmania · 26/05/2011 22:13

Even the super models looks rank when they have just got up in the morning and thrown some random clothes on to get milk in the morning. They are airbrushed up to the hilt.

southeastastra · 26/05/2011 22:13

i hardly care but do feel sorry for her

maybe she wants to be the next martine mccutcheon

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