sort of sparked by another thread but in truth I've seen so many times how it's "insensitive to post about this here because of people who are going through y."
I once posted a thread about my dh being lovely and was told it was insensitive because of people whose dh's were shits.
I've seen posts about people who have had affairs be told it's insensitive because there are people whose dh's have had affairs...
There's another thread in ibu today where the op has been told she's insensitive for posting because of others who are on the other side of the discussion..
Ultimately, this is an open forum. Some people choose to put their deepest most inner thoughts on here and open up their hearts and talk about the inner most happenings in their lives. Sometimes those people go through a hard time, and other times those people have come out the other side.
Sometimes people have been the cause of upset in someone else's life and that is equally relevant and they should be equally allowed to talk about it.
The internet is not a one-sided place where we reserve our empathy only for those who are either the victims or prepared to become the victims in the name of their hard time, and refuse to discuss the other side.
Everything should be up for discussion, and if people don't like that, no-one is obligated to read it - there is a hide function after all.