this is an open forum, that means *anything* is up for discussion, and that anyone who doesn't like that doesn't have to read it.

[wannaBe]

sort of sparked by another thread but in truth I've seen so many times how it's "insensitive to post about this here because of people who are going through y."

I once posted a thread about my dh being lovely and was told it was insensitive because of people whose dh's were shits.

I've seen posts about people who have had affairs be told it's insensitive because there are people whose dh's have had affairs...

There's another thread in ibu today where the op has been told she's insensitive for posting because of others who are on the other side of the discussion..

Ultimately, this is an open forum. Some people choose to put their deepest most inner thoughts on here and open up their hearts and talk about the inner most happenings in their lives. Sometimes those people go through a hard time, and other times those people have come out the other side.

Sometimes people have been the cause of upset in someone else's life and that is equally relevant and they should be equally allowed to talk about it.

The internet is not a one-sided place where we reserve our empathy only for those who are either the victims or prepared to become the victims in the name of their hard time, and refuse to discuss the other side.

Everything should be up for discussion, and if people don't like that, no-one is obligated to read it - there is a hide function after all.

I was also a bit at the suicide thread being pulled so fast, as I thought it posed a perfectly valid question. I appreciate that lots of people have been devastatingly affected by suicide, but does that mean that the subject can't be up for discussion?

Similarly with the abortion thread. I only read the first bit, and I acknowledge that the thread title/OP was provocatively phrased; but wasn't that the whole point? To provoke thought and discussion about the issue of abortion??? I've had an abortion, and I think it's a very valid subject for discussion and thought. Why should that (or anything else, for that matter) be censored on the grounds that it might upset someone? If it upsets you, don't fucking read it!

BTW the issue of paedophilia is an incredibly upsetting and emotive one for me. Does that mean that I don't think it should ever be mentioned or discussed on MN? No - it means that I don't read material pertaining to that, or watch anything on the telly (ubiquitous) when I'm feeling vulnerable. Do I expect noone else to discuss it just because I don't want to think or talk about it? Of course I fucking don't.

YANBU

I dislike people telling us a discussion is inappropriate or tasteless/ insensitive.

Then I equally dislike people saying " This discussion is now closed"

Grrrr

ThisisANiceCage, would you pack it the fuck in! Yes I mentioned the thread in question, but I certainly didn't name any names, firstly because I had forgotten and it wasn't important anyway, and secondly because I never take any notice of usernames anyway. There is no way I would say weeks later, look at *Thisisanicecage's comments everyone, isn't she horrible, go and read them, isn't she a bitch? That's the second time you have linked to the thread in question, which yes I maintain is really poor form. Apparently no one does give a shit, no. And no, I am not trying to control what is discussed, but there are a few

Do you bring up former discussions weeks later with direct links about everyone you have disagreed with or is it just me? It's fairly strange behaviour.

anyone who doesn't like that doesn't have to read it

This is true, but there's evidently another school of thought that suggests that if you don't like/agree with the OP you can adopt a thoroughly abusive stance...tell them to F off, tell them they should be on Netmums, tell them they are thick, horrible etc and gang up on them....

Vipers is a very apt description of people like this...who twist what an OP has actually said and delight in slinging insults.

I suspect these people have very little going on in their lives and derive some sort of sick enjoyment from this sort of behaviour. Sad...and quite pathetic.

I wasn't talking to you. Jog on.

Oh you are just delightful, aren't you? Jog on yourself, you fucking twat.

Wow..you both need to calm down...or fucking control yourselves which ever you prefer...

Mcp I'm completely calm; what's the problem? ?

YANBU

hmmm..someones itching for a fight....

dickwipe

Pinot I thank you....

utter witch cowbag?

Ladies.

Ladees!

Carry on

Mcp I just skimmed the 'best insult ever' thread; maybe we could merge them?

...Utter dick cowbag witchwipe?

witchwipe for short

I agree that if someone finds a thread insensitive they should just ignore it. I start reading some threads think "what a load of crap" and go on to something else.
If I had just had a miscarriage I would ignore threads on terminations, I wouldn't go on them just to post about how insensitive it was to post about terminations when I had just had a miscarriage.
Some people don't get the concept of free speech, and the fact that someone can have a different opinion from you without being wrong. Some people also feel that you can win an argument by repeatedly posting the same thing, as though the last comment in a thread "wins" it.
Also hate the "this thread is closed" comments, once you start a thread on a topic it goes in the direction the posters wish to take it and ends when they get bored. The OP doesn't "own" the thread.