this is an open forum, that means *anything* is up for discussion, and that anyone who doesn't like that doesn't have to read it.

[wannaBe]

sort of sparked by another thread but in truth I've seen so many times how it's "insensitive to post about this here because of people who are going through y."

I once posted a thread about my dh being lovely and was told it was insensitive because of people whose dh's were shits.

I've seen posts about people who have had affairs be told it's insensitive because there are people whose dh's have had affairs...

There's another thread in ibu today where the op has been told she's insensitive for posting because of others who are on the other side of the discussion..

Ultimately, this is an open forum. Some people choose to put their deepest most inner thoughts on here and open up their hearts and talk about the inner most happenings in their lives. Sometimes those people go through a hard time, and other times those people have come out the other side.

Sometimes people have been the cause of upset in someone else's life and that is equally relevant and they should be equally allowed to talk about it.

The internet is not a one-sided place where we reserve our empathy only for those who are either the victims or prepared to become the victims in the name of their hard time, and refuse to discuss the other side.

Everything should be up for discussion, and if people don't like that, no-one is obligated to read it - there is a hide function after all.

Thisisanicecage, please don't inaccurately paraphrase what I said weeks later to try and embarrass me. I said that before deciding on family size, generally people should assess what they can afford. My opinion, and apparently a truly revolutionary one.

Pretty poor form to bring it up all these weeks later.

Post what you wish (within whatever the mn rules are), iff people don't like something then they can say so. Don't limit or control either side.

I think all in all YANBU.

But there are a few exceptions...... none that I can hink of right now but agree with some of the above ^^

Er, but you brought that discussion up, Ariesgirl.

And now, what, you want to choose what can and can't be discussed?

I wasn't trying to embarrass you, btw (why would you be embarrassed by your own comments, which you've just said you stand by?) but I do think you're doing a pretty good job of it yourself right here right now.

Here's the thread, if anyone gives enough of a shit to check whether I have paraphrased inaccurately.

Agreed...anything does go ..if something offends you, dont read it..it always makes me laugh when people take the time to reply to a post just to say that they dont agree and it is insensitive, why not go on to a thread that suits you then instead of carrying on reading and commenting on a thread that you find soooooooo offensive????

Yanbu. I think people tend to be quite Self obsessed on forums and make everything About them, in a way they'd be embarrassed to irl. I guess because they don't care that your husband is lovely, just consumed with the idea that means theirs is not.

Agree - the Internet is the narcissist's playground -

But if MN is self moderated casey, isn't it down to posters to say what their opinion of the OP is?

Now we don't want to turn into NM get to the point where MN is all nice and friendly with not a swear to be found.

Being offended can be a very sweary business.

How do you know something is offensive and not to read it without er... reading it?

wannaBe, if only this were true, according to the moderators not 'anything' is up for discussion so I have been told.........according to the rules, mumsnet is all about 'making lives easier by pooling and sharing advice & support', so if you are a single issue poster like myself you are advised not to continually post threads on a single issue even if they are aimed at giving advice and hopefully making peoples lives easier by providing vital information that is not readilly available in the public domain. What baffles me is if your threads/posts are not to someones liking (but polite) why do people bother to read them and make complaints, pathetic really, if it was'nt for open public forums like this many people would'nt be privvy to important information especailly to do with serious health issues, thanks to mumsnet I have gained a lot of helpful info from posters. But it is most definitely not a forum for 'anything is up for discussion' from the mumsnet moderators and they dont even tell you why and what people are complaining about so you are left wondering what you have done wrong

They all fucking jump on the bandwagon thats why. When you make a post here, it's a 50/50 chance it will be taken the right way or the wrong way depending on who your first response is from. If the first comment is negative then they all follow suit like little black sheep. Pathetic nature.

couldn't agree more with the op

Tethersend, you can read it and say you don't agree for xyz reason, but you don't have to stay arguing with that person for 3 hours - why keep going back for more?

I argue with people for hours and hours. That's just how I roll.

How you roll? - who the hell are you - Cliff Richard?

Yes. I keep a comb in my blazer pocket just to look slick.

Thanks all, at last a thread that doesn`t contain bad language and/or personal abuse. Nice one!

Are you fucking stalking me you crazy bitch?

Er? Fuck off am I stalking you

Primal, not you, you goon. ListeningDick.

That x-post couldn't have worked better if you tried -

'Thanks all, at last a thread that doesn`t contain bad language and/or personal abuse. Nice one!'

'Are you fucking stalking me you crazy bitch?'

hahahaha brilliant!

Thanks SS1, the fascist element is vociferous tonight.

Oh sorry Lotm - x posts