... to want to 'kill' my OH

[SinceWhenDidYouCare]

Ok so I spend too much money. Ok so we have a fair sized overdraft. Ok so he works full time, and I only earn between £100-£200 a week. There I've been honest.

Yesterday, going through our finances my OH decides that we're completely broke. He then proceeded to clear all the funds out of MY bank account and transfer them to his, cut up MY debit and credit cards, and tell me he's going to give me an 'allowance' to do the shopping each week. I went absolutely ballistic. How bloody dare he?

I look after him, and I look after the house, and the children. We're all clean and tidy and well fed. Why the hell shouldn't I have the odd shopping trip every now and again?

Am I being unreasonable to believe that I am entitled to some money for myself?

It's not YOUR money. It's family money.

Do you honestly know what the total family outgoings are? All the bills, mortgage, school trips, clubs, food etc etc?

DH and I have a spreadsheet that calculates all the outgoings for the month and all our various incomes inc. child benefit etc. We then divide up what is left over equally between us and that is our personal money for the month.

Maybe suggest that to your DH?

The way that they had it arranged, it was her money.

they have already agreed sensibly how they are going to manage their finances going forward.