to not tell anyone dd's musilm friend ate meat?

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I suppose this is more of a what would you do if anything.

I was asking hte children what they had for lunch at school today so I could plan tea. Dd said we had spaghetti bolognese, ds said I had veggie sausages and pasta (he's not veggie but doesn't like meat much.

Anyway dd said I tried a bit of x's veggie sausage in return for some of my bolognese.

Dd's best friend is muslim and only eats vegetarian food at school. I have seen her younger sister at parties ask if food is halal and I overheard snatches of a conversation last week between the teacher and her mum about problems at a special day when messages regarding suitable food or something hadn't got through or one of them had eaten something by accident - not quite sure as I didn't hang around to eavesdrop.

Part of e thinks that she is 9 years old and so able to make her own choices - apparently it was her idea to trydd's food as "no-one will know" but they obviously have strong religious views and also I don;t want dd to get into trouble for being part of it.

The easy thing for me is to say nothing - but is that reasonable?

I think the football analogy is a good one SGB. If a parent is an ardent Man U fan they will hope the DC will be one too, take them to matches etc but they have to accept that as the DC makes up their own mind they may want to support Liverpool or Blackburn etc or they may prefer Rugby or they may hate all team sports. This is their right and it shouldn't upset you. I see any choices, religion, politics, eating habits in the same way.

I hate football, don't even have any interest in watching England play. I have 2 DSs who support different teams, which are not my DH's (who does like football) team. DS3 doesn't like football, but will take an interest to be sociable with his friends.

That seems healthy to me-why should we all fit in with DH? Why does it matter and why would it make any difference to how we get on?

I don't think any parent should impose their ideas, without having at the back of their mind that DC will think for themselves eventually.