to be gagging for a no-strings-attached one night stand?

[Celibacyisnotforme]

Excuse the pun...

Name changed for obvious reasons... and it's not even Friday but here goes!

It's been three months since soon-to-be-XH was unceremoniously kicked out and our decree nisi has just been approved. This sounds like a short time to be moving on BUT the last time we were intimate was before DD was born - two and a half years ago!! I cannot tell you how lonely and miserable it was to be locked in a marriage with no love or sex... no friendship either - only violence, but that's another story that I've posted about on here before.

So I've been unintentionally celibate for a looooooong time and now that I'm finally free all I want is some SEX! It has been too long since I felt the warmth of another body and I am completely smitten with the idea of some affection. I do NOT want to get into a relationship of any sort - I am so happy being an independant woman, with just DD and myself to think about - none of that Wifework for me! All I want is dinner for two, loads of wine, candles and a good hard pounding from a throbbing member... is that too much to ask?

Any ideas on how to go about getting this will be greatly appreciated...

[note to self - must stop reading Mills & Boon]

Celibacy,

the cynics amounst us actually think the ( utter ) bollocks have already been well and truly exposed.

Thank goodness you cleared that up OP - I was starting to get concerned about your morality for a minute there.

< snort >

< wipes snot off nose , I never manage that properly >

still think it is a pile of crud!!!

Celibacy, I just wanted to say 'good for you!'
I went searching for a nsa bit of fun a year after I seperated from what had been a very bad marriage. I used another site, but much like the aff one. I hooked up with a guy 16 years younger than me - wasn't intentional, we just 'clicked'
We chatted online, web cammed, texted for a while and then eventually met one night for a drink, after which I brought him home with me and, well....

It continued for a few weeks. He wasn't the best lover I had ever had - certainly wasn't the best endowed....but it was complete and utter fun! Was exactly what I needed at the time to tell myself that I was still an attractive and desirable woman - despite my x having let me think for years that I was a waste of space.

Just use your common sense when arranging meet ups. If it doesn't feel right then don't!
It's been a year since I had my bit of fun. Maybe time to start looking again....?!

You have a good time Celib and enjoy yourself.

I think just the nature of how you met this man is what turns some people off, however we are in the digital age and moving forward in both business and personal life, this will become quite the norm.

Yes the guy could be married, but more than likely (and like most single mothers) haven't got anyone to go clubbing with or even the inclination to go clubbing to try and meet/pick up someone.

The finding a partner for what ever reasons are always hit and miss and at least this way, you're both going into this with the same criteria - whether that changes in the future or not :)

Go and enjoy it for what it is, fun and frolics - can't beat it

and for all you doubters out there..... so what if it isn't real, it was a good thread, got people talking and thinking and laughing and there maybe some who this kind of things appeals to and they will now dip a toe in to see what comes up (so to speak!)

Don't be so negative, live and let live

I cannot imagine sleeping with someone 16 years younger than me.

Good grief. I cannot imagine anything more terrifying. i would feel like Barbara Windsor.

I hope to god DP doesn't leave me, I would be single forever, I don't think I could ever meet someone on a website, and certainly think my days of eyes meeting over cheeky vimtos in a sweaty nightclub are over as well. I wopuld have to join the womens institute or take up tapestry or something.

And the terminology.

'fuck buddy'

'friends with benefits'

Fucking norah reading that lot back - no wonder most people on mumsnet think I am as old as methuselah. Went to the meet up Saturday and the general opinion was 'god I thought you were a LOT older'

Ust looked at your profile GetOrf.... 33 you say?? ((((( replaces "older than methusala" on the spreadsheet)))))

Although to be fair... 16 years younger than you is verging on jail bait... Never mind Barbara Windsor... It would be more like Gary Glitter

The thing is MumofJZ, and I agree that it's all been good entertainment, but there seems to be a massive gulf between Celabacy's amazing Mills and Boon boddice ripping experience and the others who have dipped a toe into AFF and just come across a rather seedy corner of the internet.

But then I don't talk from experience as I haven't ventured there.

I've nothing against people having no strings encounters at all, as long as nobody is suffering from it in any way. But I think there is reality and fantasy. The sceptic in me ( about 80% on a good day ) says it's all a bit fishy, and that by peddling a fantasy, a few people will end up experiencing a sad reality first hand.

I hope I'm wrong.

Did I say i was busy today ?!

It would terrify me too GOML

Friends with benefits is ok, but Fuck Buddy is boaksome.

Getorf someone sixteen years younger than you would be barely legal.

In fact, it could be my son.

yes am 33 so someone 16 years younger than me would be 17.

Can you imagine?

Gster You like it here don't you?

You fit right in. Pull up a comfy chair and stick around.

I'm giving you the eye now and locking up my poor innocent children. You shameless cougar.

It would be the same age as dd's boyfriend.

It would be younger than DD1's boyfriend

I went to collect my daughter from an Army camp once, she was red in the face and furious when she got in the car. I asked what was up, apparently I was spotted by her cadet mates walking across the car park, and comments were made until my daughter stormed 'that.is.my.MOTHER' through gritted teeth

Cougar! Can you imagine?

you did Mr Gster (as i am -supposedly )

fantasy or reality, the reality is that some men and woman want abit of no strings sex and can not attain it in the normal acceptable way ie meeting someone in a bar/club, and by the 2nd 3rd date (maybe that night) have sex at each others home or down some dark alley, and then never be seen again

If Celib is telling a story, so what, her only issue is with herself, that it was a fantasty and don't we all fantasise a little sometimes?

gster and techdad's concersation yesterday was so funny.

I like it when honorary blokes come here and accept being the brunt of all our jokes join in.