To say to DP who is the full-time wage earner this is what u are getting and that's that

[shinyshoes]

I work 3 evenings a week.

DP works full -time and is the main wage earner.

I put into the household pot but obviously DP's wages covers the majority of the bills.

I work when he is at home, I work my shifts around him, there is always one of us at home.

We have 3 children. I cook mostly when I can. I use the slow cooker but sometimes DP has to see to their meals.

There was a recipe on here a couple of weeks back, cheesy champs and beans, it sounded very nice and very filling and I thought my children would love it. Tomorrow I was thinking of having that or chilli prawns with salad leaves.

DP has expressed his disgust on both meals citing 'where's the rest' steak/sausage/meat of some sort.

I don't want to cook every night. I'd like to have just hot pastrami on rye, or prawns in chilli dip.

As he works full-time and comes home like he could eat one of us. AIBU to say 'listen I dont want to cook, like the cheesy champs or cook for yourself!'

The children would love dippy or easy to eat food

What do u do if u just can't be bothered but feel you have to

GnomeDePlume at last someone talking sense!

GwendolineMaryLacey I noticed that you and I had posted similarly early in the day but our comments seemed to get lost in a whole load of stuff about what constitutes a 'proper' meal!

I can´t help but think that the OP thinks her husband is doing this just to be annoying/awkward tbh.

It is irritating when you see a couple of things that you/the children fancy & they are dismissed & no alternative/compromise offered.

"OP is grumping about the fact that her DP doesnt like the proposed meal."

And as I and others have said, a cheese sandwich and some beans or shrimps dipped in sauce are not "meals".

I'm not saying OP should prepare a five course meal every night, but a grilled steak and some pasta with a bit of salad should not be that difficult.

OP-does your husband ever cook for you-or just himself & the children?

I hate cooking too, occasionally I cook something new which does turn out to be quite small and not very filling for him (he does quite a bit of manual work within his job) and I do get a comment about how nice the starter was but he knows he can go and fill up on some cheese on toast etc if necessary.

He does have a much bigger appetite to me, and he does cook dinner when I really can't be bothered (as long as I tell him what we're eating)

Why don't you spend 10 minutes together the day before you do a grocery shop planning which dinners you're having for the week ahead? He can put requests in, you might have some nights when something quick/ out of the freezer is needed because of swimming lessons/ your shifts etc. I think you are both being a bit unreasonable here- you do need to at least consider what everyone else in the family likes, even if it means taking turns on everyone getting their choice; and he is BU in expecting you to be a mind reader. That's assuming you've made the choice as a family that you are taking responsibility for cooking; if not then that's a whole different AIBU.

The other thing we sometimes do is give the children their dinner early if DH is coming home later and we are both in for the evening, then we eat later. This has three benefits- arsenic hour is less stressful once the kids are fed; they can eat something they like but we're not fussed on (eg casserole which I can batch cook and freeze, or your example of cheesey champs); and DH and I have a nice coupley dinner of something the children aren't keen on.

there are so many people in this country who are obsessed with having meat in every meal! I don't get it...

surely everyone has a lazy meal once in a while? I can't believe all of you are either being cooked or cooking meat and 2 veg every night.

I do meat or fish every single night, as otherwise dh and ds whine.

I'll sometimes make myself something veggie but then that means cooking twice over.

As others have said, though, bunging a pork chop/steak/chicken breast/seabass in the griddle pan takes seconds and I'll often serve something like that with a bag of salad and a crusty baguette. The whole thing takes about two minutes of effort.

My husband works longer hours than me but we both cook. If I feel like a small meal then I do a small meal for me, if bloke wants something bigger he can cook it, suspect left to his own devices he's have rare steak and pasta every night with pasta and pesto when he couldn't be bothered shopping.
Kids are now teenagers so tend to have bigger appetites than me and I cook (or husband does) a big meal for them on an evening.
It sounds as though you need to make clear to your husband that if he wants a big meal on an evening and you don't he'll have to cook one himself.

There are many stages in between a full roast dinner and a bowl of mashed potato with ant in of beans on it!

Sometimes I do jacket potatoes with cheese and tuna or beans. We usually have a vegetable or salad on the side. It works for us; if we're having something lighter and DH gets hungry later he has a snack before bed.

I'm in 2 minds. if he works and brings in most of the moneyt then it is your job to feed the family OP. that doesn't mean though that you can't go on strike every now and again though.
People eat far too much generally, shoving it in, getting wider and wider and complaining they don't get a decent meal.
Madness.
I once had the misfortune to have an au pair who complained she didn't get enough food . I watched as she got fatter and fatter and fatter, often eating dp's portion of food as well as her own. In the end her arse was so wide it looked like it had been blown up with an air pump.
Sorry this has nothing to do with the op.