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or have I just had the most disastrously Mumsnetty trip to the supermarket ever?

253 replies

FannyPriceless · 07/05/2011 16:38

DD ate all the grapes before purchase. The checkout assistant actually held up the remains before scanning and said 'What is this?' in a very disapproving voice. All that was left was a plastic bag, a stalk, and few squashed half grapes.Blush

But even worse than that, I LOST my shopping list half way around. We went back to search but it was nowhere to be found. I have to admit in all honesty that it had 'nice ham' written on it!Blush

I am mortified.

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nickelbabe · 07/05/2011 17:25

it wasn't stealing if she told the cashier what happened and the cashier didn't charge.

to steal, you have to deliberately and intentionally permanently deprive someone of a possession.
it would have been stealing if she had not told the cashier that the DD had eaten the grapes.

she hadn't left the shop when this transaction took place, and you have to leave the premises for it to be enforcable.
there was ample opportunity for the OP to pay for the grapes in one way or another, but the cashier decided not to charge.

Bonsoir · 07/05/2011 17:26

Of course it's stealing.

giraffesCantDanceWiOotBuckie · 07/05/2011 17:27

I just went in to tesco with d niece and we bought coco pops, a huge choc bar and smarties! (we going to make crispie cakes and they had no rice crispies) bet I got judged!

I usually go take something and pay for it first then get rest. Only because I always get paranoid my card will fail at checkout and I will have stolen it if its been eaten.

squeakytoy · 07/05/2011 17:27

I think you are wrong Nickelbabe.

Supposing the Op realised she didnt have her purse, or her card was refused. Can you give back the eaten grapes???

oprahfan · 07/05/2011 17:27

right, i'm moving to sweden, i can have a slap up meal all the way round, don't have to pay for a thing, can't remember how many rollmops and prawns i scoffed. never mind.

oprahfan · 07/05/2011 17:29

nickelbabe, it is stealing, fact, and technically.

TheFlyingOnion · 07/05/2011 17:29

whats the big Shock about unwashed grapes? I never wash any fruit or veg!

I figure my stomach acid will do its job and kill any nasties for me??

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 17:30

Well I've just been for 'lunch' at our supermarket! DD3 has it fine tuned. She doesn't ask for anything, however when it's our turn at the fish/seafood/cheese/charc counters she smiles sweetly at the staff member serving and says 'Que eso', they tell her, she replies 'Oh me gusto' and they hand a sample over Grin Lunch today was: large prawns, crab claws, some clams, percebes, chunk of the end of some pata negra and some mighty fine goat's cheeses and manchego. She declined the membrillo today.

I would add that this appears to be standard in our supermarket at least. I'm not entirely sure she'd manage the same standard of lunch if we were in the UK. They are so thrilled that she's speaking Spanish to them (we aren't Spanish) and asking in a slightly intelligent manner, that she could frankly point to the lobster and snaff some of that!

It's even better at the big indoor market - we get pudding too, in the manner of all sorts of wonderful fruits and nuts.

TheFlyingOnion · 07/05/2011 17:31

Nickelbabe is right, for it to be stealing there has to be an intention to permanently deprive (which I don't think there was in this case).

Read your legal textbooks, ladies...

EmmaBemma · 07/05/2011 17:31

If that was the case, Flying Onion, there would never be any food poisoning.

oprahfan · 07/05/2011 17:32

no, no, moving to spain................

BertieBotts · 07/05/2011 17:32

Tch, I never wash grapes and we're not dead.

slavewife · 07/05/2011 17:32

its going to be grapegate all over again!

squeakytoy · 07/05/2011 17:33

Flying Onion. By eating it, you are permanently depriving them of it.

It does not belong to you until you have paid for it.

oprahfan · 07/05/2011 17:33

don't want to read legal textbooks. just say no to yr kids and stop stealing, we all pay more.grrrrrrr

TheFlyingOnion · 07/05/2011 17:33

I've never had food poisoning from anything that I haven't washed, so in my slightly deluded way, I plan to continue to be too lazy to wash it.

justpaddling · 07/05/2011 17:34

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bibbitybobbityhat · 07/05/2011 17:34

Theflyingonion
here are some fairly persuasive arguments

TheFlyingOnion · 07/05/2011 17:34

No, squeakytoy I don't think that's right - you would be permanently depriving the supermarket of the food when you take it off the shelves if that was the case.

You have to not intend, ever, to pay.

oprahfan · 07/05/2011 17:35

grapegate? Missed that one.................

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 17:35

Do you have a small child who you can teach these words to Oprah? If so, do it - lunch sorted. Daily!

Grapegate? Please enlighten me someone...

TheOriginalFAB · 07/05/2011 17:35

I took my own snacks for the kids when I had to take them food shopping.

YABAT.

Once I ate a bag of crisps before paying for them as I was pregnant and felt very faint. I felt guilty enough about that even though I knew I would be paying for them.

worraliberty · 07/05/2011 17:36

I can't stand seeing kids or adults eating and drinking the produce before they get to the till. Jeez you're not going to starve or die of thirst and it's good for kids to learn they can't have everything now just because they want it.

OP if your child managed to eat a bunch of grapes without you even noticing, it's a good job she didn't eat anything else from the trolley that could have made her sick or worse.

TheFlyingOnion · 07/05/2011 17:36

Hmm, I'm not convinced yahoo answers is the modern day equivalent of the Delphic Oracle....

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 17:37