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or have I just had the most disastrously Mumsnetty trip to the supermarket ever?

253 replies

FannyPriceless · 07/05/2011 16:38

DD ate all the grapes before purchase. The checkout assistant actually held up the remains before scanning and said 'What is this?' in a very disapproving voice. All that was left was a plastic bag, a stalk, and few squashed half grapes.Blush

But even worse than that, I LOST my shopping list half way around. We went back to search but it was nowhere to be found. I have to admit in all honesty that it had 'nice ham' written on it!Blush

I am mortified.

OP posts:
Driftwood999 · 08/05/2011 23:15

Read the OP, the legal semantics are (sad)

swiperstopswiping · 08/05/2011 23:18

Confused I don't need to read the OP to be able to contradict goingloopylou when she says "if you take something that isn't yours and don't pay for it, then actually it is theft. How can anyone deny that?" because she is wrong

swiperstopswiping · 08/05/2011 23:22

Driftwood999 Sun 08-May-11 22:26:19
Oh we now have the voice of authority A man and a SOCO no less

well that line deserves a 'what the actual fuck?'

A MAN's opinion!!! On mumsnet no less!!!

Hmm
swiperstopswiping · 08/05/2011 23:26

Anyhoo I'm off to bed now but if anyone wants to shriek incomprehensibly at me then I'll try and have a look-see sometime tomorrow.

Night all Smile

Driftwood999 · 08/05/2011 23:27

Really cannot be bothered beyond my earlier posts. Goodnignt, I hold down a responsible job and need to go to bed! Enjoy your lax lives...

itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 08/05/2011 23:30

next time you go shopping op, weigh dd make a note weigh an average grape.tally offhomany grapes dd hasaten. once at checkout, dump dd on scales subtract the calculation of consumed grapes. no problem Grin

actual equasion looks like this bg=dd-[1gxcg]-6 who can argue with that.

but my god was dd not unwell after consuming a whole bag of grapes

MsToni · 08/05/2011 23:50

Well, I went grocery shopping today and my 23mo had 1 croissant, 4 cheese strings, 1 butter scotch pancake and 1 fruit shoot...oh, and some grapes from a pack....BEFORE I paid for them.

It was either that or a full blown tantrum.

I chose the lesser of two evils.

AND I paid for EVERYTHING at the till.

springbokscantjump · 08/05/2011 23:50

Thanks swiper I couldn;t work out why I couldn't ask my dh just because he's male. I could have pretended to have spoken to his female colleagues if that would have added more weight to the argument.

burgerclub · 08/05/2011 23:56

Stealing is fun! :)

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 09/05/2011 00:02

But surely everyone should be supporting this mother, who let her child eat healthy grapes rather than unhealthy crisps. Next time, I'm sure you'll pay for them first and keep the receipt. I used to do it with an apple for DS1. By the time DS2 came along I thanked God for internet shopping.

Some really nasty posters on here who are obviously perfect in every way, except they are not actually very nice people. I feel sorry for them, I'd rather be imperfect and lovely.

bubbleymummy · 09/05/2011 00:09

Don't really see the problem with eating while you shop as long as you pay for it at the end. Are there no longer scales where you can weigh grapes and stick on the price tag before you start munching? Tbh I wouldn't like to eat dirty fruit anyway! :)

pingusmumtoo · 09/05/2011 01:33

My god there are some nasty nasty nasty (perfect) people on here who need to get a life. OP - I loved the thread initially as I took it to be lighthearted and amusing.

Virgowoo · 09/05/2011 01:37

Farkin' ell. You go away for a weekend and come back to this...
Is this something to do with lunar cycles or something?

I know you get the odd "I think you'll find thats theft" usually but the level of hysteria on this thread is bizarre.

Anyway, as you were ladies. Biscuit

lljkk · 09/05/2011 06:05

4 DC (age 3-11) are rowdy rambunctious disobedient whinging brats lively, and I always have to take many more of them with me shopping than I would like, but I would not dream of letting them snack on merchandise before we got it thru the till. If I can enforce that, anybody can.

LtEveDallas · 09/05/2011 06:24

My shopping lists always have 'Nice Ham' and 'Dog Ham' on them. I leave them in trollies on purpose.

MavisG · 09/05/2011 06:54

'if I can enforce that, anybody can'

Some of us may not want to. I don't want to teach my child to steal, even more so I don't want to teach him that I'll deny him food when he wants it.

lljkk · 09/05/2011 09:23

It is a choice, Mavis.
And I don't actually feel (too) strongly about others doing it.
But we humans have.... social rules about when and where to eat. You must enforce some of them (bet you don't like them starting a snack when they go the loo, for instance), so why not enforce one about not eating before paying?

soverylucky · 09/05/2011 12:56

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DilysPrice · 09/05/2011 14:40

Surely the first rule of going out and about with toddlers is that you always make sure you have the means to give them snacks. That's not pandering to them, or spoiling them, it's just how toddlers work.

But if you're going to be going to a place full of food then it's entirelyreasonable to acquire the food there (and pay for it, which is where the OP is on shaky ground) rather than bring it with you.

As a child who was frequently fed packets of crisps going round Morrisons (with a side dose of Loud Parenting as my mother ostentatiously handed the empty packet at the till to be paid for) I have grown up neither kleptomaniac nor obese, and feel that some posters are living on a parallel world.

HellNoSayItAintSo · 09/05/2011 14:43

I don't give my DC food in the shop because they have tantrums, I do it because I feel like it, and I don't give an actual fuck. Neither does the supermarket. Only some sad randoms on the 'net seem to get their knickers in a big judgy bunch over it, you might want to nip on down to Waitrose and buy yourselves a hobby, or a semblance of a life.

Mumofaflump · 09/05/2011 14:53

Last year I walked out of Tesco with a bag of buttons I had forgotten to pay for. I had an attack of morals and went back in. The lady on the kiosk actually laughed at me for coming back to pay for them...

FessaEst · 09/05/2011 21:53

No sovery, my DD gets upset and difficult, because she is trapped in a small seat when she would rather be walking, which I can't manage as I am heavily pregnant and trying to get round the shop as quickly as I can. She is also often hungry and/or tired, as these physical needs occur many times a day in a small child.

Dilys and hellno talk sense.

voodoomunkee · 10/05/2011 07:26
Bizkit · 10/05/2011 17:14

My kids have to behave first to get what they want...so If they wanted I dunno..a chocolate bar or something Ive slung in the trolley, they would then behave round the store and get the bar as a treat/reward at the end. As someone else said kids are probably throwing the tantrum cos they know the parent will give them something nice.
My kids are 4 and 8, so course this theory may not work quite so well in very young babies but kids need to learn they cant just scream the place down to get what they want. Well works for me anyway, I have no tantrums nor give food before paying...sorry not usually so harsh, and new here...be gentle

jigglebum · 10/05/2011 17:37

well I figure if I can get my 2 year old round Tescos without too much stress then the odd grape or packet of fruit flakes, which are then paid for at the till is no big deal. Can't believe people can be quite so judgeypants about it all - does it really matter?! Everyone parents differently and how they manage their kids whilst supermarket shopping is just one example of this. She could have weighed the grapes and probably would in the future but she wasn't to know they would all be eaten and sounds like it was all a bit stressful.

Never occurred to me that I was being cast as an awful mother for feeding my DS around the supermarket - will have to watch out for the evil looks next time!

Like the sound of supermarket shopping in Spain though! much more civilised.