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to have wanted very badly to have hit this woman.

142 replies

Islandlady · 04/05/2011 18:41

It was my aunts funeral today.

The road where she lived with her DH has limited parking and as there is a school, office buildings and a supermarket, parking is chaotic to say the least.

As we had 5 cars we got the council to suspend parking, we were advised by neighbours to have this from 6 this morning up until 12 noon, this was to stop the office workers parking in the street and the early morning shoppers, we didnt need the spaces after 12 as people were going straight to a hotel for the wake.

We did have problems with people ignoring the signs and trying to park but my two nephews, my BIL and my DH were on sentry duty.

Five minutes before the hearse and cars were due to arrive we heard shouting outside, we kept my Mum (Aunts Sister) and my Aunts DH away from the window and I went outside to see what was happening.

Some selfish nasty COW had tried to park in one of the spaces, she was screaming and shouting that she was only going to be 5 minutes, whilst she was blocking the road and shouting the hearse and cars turned up.

The funeral director tried to reason with her, she then got out of her car walked to the side of the hearse, she had an opened can of coke which she THREW at the hearse, it bounced of the glass side spraying coke all over the glass and dripping down the side.

Then she got back into her car drove of down the road stopped, and blasted rap music at full volume.

The FD was totally shocked and reasoned with her again then threatened to call the police, and after a lot of swearing, the F,C and W words were used
drove of still with music blaring.

We have just got back from the police station, my BIL had taped the whole thing on his phone and we have her car number, and the FD will give a statement.

Hit her, I wanted to rip the face off her escpoecially after the funeral when I was told Aunts DH and my MUM were crying their hearyts out as they could hear the music and the swearing.

Sorry for the Long post

OP posts:
CheerfulYank · 05/05/2011 00:41

I am so sorry for your loss. DH just lost his great Auntie last week, and we will miss her so much. She was in her late 80's and the loveliest, kindest lady. I would be beyond furious if anyone had dared such a thing at her funeral! How can people be so vile? Poor you, and your poor mum. How nasty!

Again, so sorry.

flibbertywidget · 05/05/2011 01:02

What a disgraceful human being (if you can call her that!). Your family must have been totally shocked. Hope you get some come back on her

differentnameforthis · 05/05/2011 03:02

So sorry for you loss.

How appalling that this 'woman' should act that way towards you all! I am not in the least surprised that you wanted to hit out at her.

Unfortunately, some people lack common decency!

I remember a while ago, I hadn't been driving for long, a funeral procession needed to pull out of a side street, on a one way. I stopped to let out several cars. While stationary, I got 'beeped' several times!

So rude!

AngryBeaver · 05/05/2011 07:40

Please give the recording to the media.Dh says it would definitely make the news. She needs to be named and shamed.
I am so sorry an awful time was made so unbearable

lubberlich · 05/05/2011 08:09

Dreadful thing to have happened - I am so sorry for your poor family. I hope this bitch gets a visit from plod.

I heard on R4 the other day that funeral directors were saying that there was a marked increase in "funeral rage" - people getting arsey over corteges not going fast enough etc. What happened to you seems to be part of a growing trend so the media would probably be very interested.

At my lovely Nan's funeral we had a run in with a cyclist who wove his way in and out of the cars and the undertaker who was leading the procession to the end of the road. When a pedsestrian told him he had no respect he gave him a gobful of abuse.
People can be such shits.

Bumperlicioso · 05/05/2011 08:13

How awful for your family. Agree that if the police don't do anything you should publish the footage.

You could just post it on you tube and I expect the press would get it of their own accord if you want to distance yourself from it, or agree with sgb and sell it to a mag and use the money to treat your aunts or nieces/nephews.

VivaLeBeaver · 05/05/2011 08:17

Put the footage on YouTube and give it to local press as well. She deserves to be named and shamed.

PiousPrat · 05/05/2011 08:18

Obviously I don't usuallyncondone violence but in this case, I think you showed magnificent restraint in not teaching her one!

I had the red mist descend at my FIL's funeral at the start of the year when we got to the church and were gathering on the path to go in as the FD got FIL out of the hearse, when a man walked through the middle of our group, with his hat firmly on his head, then proceeded to cross the road between the hearse and the family car Confused

That said, we passed road works on the way and every worky there stopped and took off their hard hats as we went by, so not everyone is a selfish arse. I just cannot believe that people think that their need to get somewhere 30seconds faster is more important than showing basic respect to a grieving family. Surely we were all taught as kids to take off hats and stop when we saw a funeral procession? It is just common decency.

emptyshell · 05/05/2011 08:26

I'd have stuck it on youtube and contacted the Daily Mail and Sun with the link and let public indignation do the rest.

JustCallMeGrouchy · 05/05/2011 08:37

sorry thats you had to deal with that it is digusting and show sno respect even my dc know if hearse passes by that they should show respect

Bloodymary · 05/05/2011 09:34

What a disrespectful, nasty piece of scum (I was going to call her an animal, but that is unfair to animals)
Well done to BIL for getting footage of it. I hope the police can do something, if not then do hand it to the media.
I really hope this woman female does not have children, imagine how they would turn out!

Sorry for your loss, am very Angry for you.

zikes · 05/05/2011 09:38

You Tube.

Ripeberry · 05/05/2011 09:43

Just wait a few weeks, you have details of the car. If it is EVER seen in the street again, make sure it can't leave in the state it arrived in, maybe put some cola all over it, make sure it's a hot day so that it goes sticky and ruins her paintwork. Angry

ShoutyHamster · 05/05/2011 09:44

Yes, if the police can't do anything, go to the media with the footage.

Public shame would be a good punishment for something like this!

AnonymousBird · 05/05/2011 09:45

I've only just seen this thread and am literally open mouthed in horror and utter disgust at how appallingly some human beings, if we can call her that, are capable of behaving.

Every sympathy to you and your family OP on your loss.

God i hope the police can press some charge, anything, just to make an example of this piece of utter sh^t.

OMG YA SO NBU.

Champersonice · 05/05/2011 10:06

Oh my gosh! So sorry for this vile act on such a sad day. I didn't open this post for a while as I don't condone violence. When I did open it, I thought I would say YABU but hey YANBU definitely, adamantly not!!!

I hope the rest of the day went well and that the police can do something. You are probably still feeling raw but perhaps in time, the advice from other mners about taking the footage to the media might be a good one.

Good luck.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 05/05/2011 10:19

Island Lady - so sorry for your loss.

What a horrid, vile human being that woman is - I am absolutely speechless that someone could behave in such a way.

I hope the police are able to take some sort of action - I think she should also be made to apologise to your mum and family - funerals are stressful/emotional enough without "people" like her making it worse!

Give your mum a hug and take one for yourself xxx

nethunsreject · 05/05/2011 10:27
Shock Sorry for your loss and no, yadnbu! I was incandescent with rage when we were cut up by an arsehole while following my Dad's hearse to the crematorium. Well done on retaining your composure.
KeepCalmAndCurryOn · 05/05/2011 10:39

[SHOCK]

That's horrible. What are we coming to?

YellowDinosaur · 05/05/2011 10:42

I am horrified at this. Her initial behaviour before the hearse arrived was pretty atrocious - when she saw the reason you were trying to keep the spaces clear she should have been mortified and apologised before driving away.

Her behavious is totally and utterly beyond the pale. I am literally shaking with anger on your behalf and I don't even know you. How on earth you kept your cool is a miracle, although the best thing really as it couldn't have improved the situation could it?

I agree with others that await the outcome of the police investigation and then press and youtube.

joyousthings · 05/05/2011 10:47
Shock Do hope the police really can deal with her and not just speak to her. She should be thrown in a cell for at least a day and left to wonder what will happen next. As was said earlier after police, local papers etc. Well done for keeping your composure!
kreecherlivesupstairs · 05/05/2011 10:52

I am seldom shocked, this has shocked me. There should definitely be a police charge for being a total and utter twat.
I do have a dreadful temper, you are to be congratualted on not smacking her in the chops.
If I knew where she lived the cuntytwat would find it hard to drive on a flat tyre. Only the one, every day for a week or so.
Youtube def once the Police have had their time with her.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 05/05/2011 11:01

And not all the way down flat, just enough to cause annoyance. If you aren't in the area I am sure that you could find a willing MNer to do the deed.

AccioPinotGrigio · 05/05/2011 11:03

What a terribly sad story.

It makes me feel old because I can remember a time when this sort of thing wouldn't have happened either because people had more respect or their ability to empathise with bereaved relatives outweighed their own sense of entitlement. Clearly this woman felt her need to park her car outweighed all other things. I think that's bordering on sociopathic.

I am sorry for your loss.

Mumofaflump · 05/05/2011 11:14

So sorry for your loss Islandlady. I echo previous comments. Wait til the police have finished with her then YouTube (and post the link here so we can circulate it), facebook it and send it to your local and national press. What a nasty thing to do!