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To say no to belly button piercing for my daughter

56 replies

ivykaty44 · 03/05/2011 21:23

who is 12 - well I really don't think so but apparently she is going to be sulking forever - well until she is 16 Grin

i came home and she was hoovering after having made me dinner and pudding - then she pounced Shock I did smell a rat when I heard the hoover...

well I have had the "but everyone, just everone in year 7 has a belly buttin pierced"

Here we go

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Happymm · 03/05/2011 21:24

Hell no- YANBU!:)

cannydoit · 03/05/2011 21:25

no, she is 12 for god sakes no!

FabbyChic · 03/05/2011 21:26

Far too young.

ilovesprouts · 03/05/2011 21:27

not a chance ,too young

Needanewname · 03/05/2011 21:27

I wasn't even allowed to get my ears pierced til I was 13 so no yanbu. But you do need to thank her for the cleaning and cooking and suggest another thing you could do for her.

Champersonice · 03/05/2011 21:27

Piercings should (really) only be done with a needle and go to any (proper!) body piercing studio and they will say you have to be 18.

Needanewname · 03/05/2011 21:28

I don;t even think you'd find anywhere that would do it, she's definitely underage surely

Champersonice · 03/05/2011 21:29

Actually, she is only 12 so the subject shouldn't even be up for debate, should it??

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ivykaty44 · 03/05/2011 21:29

It is- isn't it. I wouldn't allow my dd1 to get it done until she was 15/16 and dd2 knows this..

I think it is to young and dd1 was here telling her sister it is inapropriate and sexualises young girls, which I actually agree with

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Chocolocolate · 03/05/2011 21:30

YANBU

MoonGirl1981 · 03/05/2011 21:30

They won't do it until she's sixteen - is not allowed.

I've got a hideous scar from mine (hole stretched during pregnancy), if you can talk her out of it then do.

zukiecat · 03/05/2011 21:31

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firsttimemum77 · 03/05/2011 21:31

YANBU - 12 is too young!

risingstar · 03/05/2011 21:32

do what i do

i have told both my older dds that the man in the tattoo shop (who is lovely and the only place clean enough to have it done around here) has photos of the pair of them provided by me and is under instruction as to their real ages.

the younger one beleives this to be true!

squeakytoy · 03/05/2011 21:32

I was in agony when I had mine done. Ears pierced no problem.. did a few holes myself with a gold stud.. all healed beautifully.

Had belly done... didnt hurt having it done, went to a very reputable place, but my body rejected it... I felt like I was being stabbed repeatedly with a jagged knife.

If she goes behind your back and gets it done, just make her remove it immediately.

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ivykaty44 · 03/05/2011 21:32

dd1 told her it can scar and has friends who have been pg and the hole has streched and gone funny..yuke sorry.

I don't have any piercings

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frogs · 03/05/2011 21:36

Twelve? Not even up for discussion. Ears only at 12, one hole in each. Possibly consider additional holes in ears over the next few years if they make a very good case.

tummy button, 16 minimum. All other body parts, 18+.

She's a child. I don't believe for one minute that all the rest of Y7 have belly button piercings. And anyway, this calls for a wheeling out of that old parenting cliche: "Well, if everyone else jumps out of the window, are you going to do it too?"

Hmm
55378008 · 03/05/2011 21:36

I've had my belly button pierced (in my 20s) and I would say absolutely no. It can be horribly bruised after the piercing, it gets infected very easily (more so than say ears) and gets caught quite easily too. And yes it scars and goes stretchy if you get pregnant or put weight on.

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ivykaty44 · 03/05/2011 21:39

I don't think many of year 7 will have evn asked for their belly buttons pierced - will they.

I am sticking to no, I don't even want to debate it as the answer will still be no and it gives false hope as I am not going to change my mind on this little gem.

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A1980 · 03/05/2011 22:55

Ask her if she would put a bumper sticker on a beautiful sports car.

Or if she would sew a patch on to a beautiful dress.

A belly button piercing spoils the look as the above two examples do.

tryingtoimprove · 03/05/2011 22:59

I said to my dd who asked at the same age - the law is 16, and when have you known me to break the law, she replied never, so I said don't think for a second then that I will do something over this.

I said if in 4 years you still want it done, then you can do so.

Fingers crossed the phase will pass - but as I had her at 16, don't think I can stop her having a piercing at 16!

musicmadness · 03/05/2011 23:02

Too young. She'll still be growing at the moment anyway so there is a higher chance of it rejecting if its done young. There is no way many year 7s will have it done.

Just for all of you saaying 18+, the legal age to get a piercing without parental consent is 16 not 18. The only exceptions to that are genital piercings and nipple piercings for girls which are 18+.

manticlimactic · 03/05/2011 23:02

MY DD (15) asked for her belly button done when she was 12, I said no. Now she doesn't want it doing. She wanted snake bites at 14 again I said no. She went off the idea after a while. Now she's wanting her nose done. I've said no. Lets see how long it takes for her to not want it doing anymore.

FannyNil · 03/05/2011 23:06

I have said no to my 16 year old - she can have piercings and/or tattoos when she is 18, I cannot stop her and if she has earned the money to pay for them. Am excluding pierced ears, which she already has.

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ivykaty44 · 04/05/2011 07:42

what are snake bites? Just incase this is next forarmed is forwarned!

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