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Original poster

To be loving being at home, being a housewife

56 replies

dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 14:59

Ive been off work and my god I love this. I love making my house lovely, I love having the time to think, not having some arsehole at work down my neck. Im so happy. Ive had enough of working, AIBU in just wanting to keep my home and family?

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rainbowinthesky · 22/04/2011 15:00

If that's what's enough for you, good for you. Rather pull my eyes out with a skewer personally.

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 22/04/2011 15:02

No you are not. Not at all. That is your choice and the fact that you enjoy it is not a criticism of those who would not and those who would not enjoy it should not look down on you for liking it.

And I really hope this doesn't turn into one of those threads.

Everyone should live the life that makes them happy, and someone else's choices are NOT in and of themselves a criticism of someone else's different choices!

You hear me, you lot??!!!!!!!!
Play nicely.

MillyR · 22/04/2011 15:03

Lots of people don't want to be in paid employment. I don't think there is anything unusual about your feelings.

nulliusxinxverbax · 22/04/2011 15:04

Grin at Hecate

Do they have to, it is the holidays......?

Original poster
dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:05

rainbow I have worked all my life. 25 years Ive been in my career and am quite high up. Ive done that now and am really enjoying just being me. :)

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DramaInPyjamas · 22/04/2011 15:06

YANBU. It suits me and my life and I love it.

Violethill · 22/04/2011 15:06

How sad that you stayed 25 years in a career you hated! You need to start enjoying yourself now.

Original poster
dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:08

Sadly i will have to get back to work in a few weeks. I dont hate the career, just sick of "working for the man"

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dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:09

My house is so clean, I have actually had time for personal grooming, cooking, homework with my son. My husband has commented on how happy I seem. Will I get sick of this?

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magicmummy1 · 22/04/2011 15:10

I fantasise about not working, and just having time for me and the family. But if that were the reality, long-term, I suspect I'd start to miss work. In an ideal world, I'd like a job that I could just do as and when I felt like it!

OP, if you are happy, then enjoy, enjoy! Life is too short!

rainbowinthesky · 22/04/2011 15:10

Ahh, I love my job so maybe that's what's different.

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 22/04/2011 15:11

Yes nulli. None of you are too big to go over my knee...

Original poster
dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:11

I cant do it long term...we would miss the money.

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dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:12
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purepurple · 22/04/2011 15:13

YANBU
I was a SAHM for years. I loved it. Now I work full time, I would love to be able to do it again.
I need to win the lottery so I can pay off the mortgage. Then I can stay at home and look after my family and home.

cloudybay24 · 22/04/2011 15:13

YANBU, but it might be a case of wanting what you can't have / haven't got, or thinking that the grass is always greener. I became a SAHM when my youngest started school (redundancy), and had 3 years at home. At first it was great but the novelty soon wore off. I am now back at work. Now I am back at work, in a job I love (and waiting for that novelty to wear off too!!).

cloudybay24 · 22/04/2011 15:15

YANBU, but it might be a case of wanting what you can't have / haven't got, or thinking that the grass is always greener. I became a SAHM when my youngest started school (redundancy), and had 3 years at home. At first it was great but the novelty soon wore off. Now I am back at work, in a job I love - and waiting for that novelty to wear off too!!

toddlerama · 22/04/2011 15:17

YANBU. I was very unsure about being a SAHM, but I love it so much. I don't know what our house/family would be like if I did go back to work, but I am sure it wouldn't be a peaceful as it is now. It's like there are more hours in the day for all of us when someone keeps things ticking over. And it is immensely satisfying (I was worried it wouldn't be). We've had to make serious financial sacrifices, but all worth it.

MistyB · 22/04/2011 15:18

Keep moving cloudybay, then the novelty of new never wears off!! And when it does, stay till the novelty of staying wears off - if only life were that simple!!

sausagesandmarmelade · 22/04/2011 15:19

You are very lucky....

Am loving having time off from work now and wish I had more of it (especially with this gorgeous weather)...but financially we need to work...in order to have all the things we enjoy and to fulfil our dreams.

However....I think that even if we won the lottery I would still need to do something. After a while I'd get bored with being at home day in day out..

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dreamingofromance · 22/04/2011 15:19

I have 14 long years left of working. Early retirement would be good Grin

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blueshoes · 22/04/2011 15:39

I think being at home on holiday/break is different from being a SAHM.

The former is indeed a break from work (and enjoyable whilst it lasts), the latter is just your life (and hard work too).

sausagesandmarmelade · 22/04/2011 15:42

Ah, but it's at least equally hard work...going to work, doing a full time job and then doing all your chores and stuff at home (mostly over the weekend).

blueshoes · 22/04/2011 15:49

It sounds like dreaming is suffering from a bit of burnout at work and hence the pendulum swinging to the other end. I would have thought like dreaming when I was burning the candle at both ends as a city lawyer - the joys of a simple life in comparison.

I then found out that if the simple life was my whole life, then life stretched out in front of me like a yawning chasm. Personally for me, I like a bit of balance. Some paid employment and some family/house - each counteracts the excesses of the other and provides variety.

reallytired · 22/04/2011 16:41

Each to their own. If being at home with the kids makes you happy then that's great. Personally it would be my idea of hell.

It takes all to make a world. I hope you carry on enjoying the sunshine.