to be fuming at someone phoning ss on me

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i have no idea whom has, i think i am a good mum.

the social worker was lovely, and i am glad they did come even if this was a malicious phone call.

but i am so paroniod that someone is watching me now, i can belive someone would phone the ss on me

and 83.5% of statistics are made up 97% of the time...

xstitch - I feel for you, I really do.

Try not to give any more thought to the sweeping generalisations of someone on the internet who does not know you and does not know what it is to be on the receving end of SS attention.

Its difficult kungfu

Someone saying the only reason she wasn't taken away was there were not enough foster carers or it would take too much to go to court is more offensive in many ways than the original ordeal. I know that is what people are saying in the street here they have told me.

Oh and it has been to court so they didn't save any money and they did have some where to put her if they took her away. So again there must be some other reason. Perhaps I am an awful mother but they are thinking of the future expense of setting a precedence of removing all children who need emergency life saving treatment in child birth.

fyrtle-how long ago did you work in CP? I also find it interesting when you say 'we would love to remove more children', SW do not remove children, the court does. I know of cases were the SW have not done enough to work with parents. The children have been removed but have been rehomed within the family, to be returned at a later date.

Xstitch- i agree with you. The evidence has not been presented to the court. SS will always now look to place a child within the family first. They have to under the law (Children Act). So unless widespread sexual or phsyical abuse is suspected or an inability to protect the child within the family, foster carers will not be the first choice.

i really feel for you x-stitch,all the upset and challenges.hard.really hard

xstich-This is not directed at you, its just for info, following on. A SW will make recomondations and sometimes they do not get listened to by SW management, but now more because of budgets. These are children who are suffering from neglect not abuse.

x-stitch - I very much doubt anyone was worried about setting a precedent!
I would imagine the reason the court declined your ex's so-kind invitation to remove your child from your care was that it recognised that he was talking the most spectacular amount of crap that has ever been uttered by a bitter ex.

The day this legal system starts punishing mother's for accidents of nature will be the day I emigrate.