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to think men should be men and women should be women

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einstein1 · 14/04/2011 20:55

Reading some of this feminist crap, I just wonder just what is the problem. Yes, i'm a woman. I like being a woman. I'm a SAHM. Yes, I dress dd in pink, she has a barbie. Ds, has an action man. Does this make me a bad person? seriously? Btw, not a troll.

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Flowerpotmummy · 14/04/2011 21:08

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SomethingSuper · 14/04/2011 21:08

What the fuck has happened to the MN tonight??

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einstein1 · 14/04/2011 21:08

SomethingSuper

Can I just say that I absolutely agree with you there. Erm... any chance of a friggin translation, please.

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onceamai · 14/04/2011 21:09

I don't mind how men or women behave (within reason) but I do mind when over the years people have picked at me for being feminine and liking pink and being happy to do and being good at household stuff and admitting that when I was a small girl I wanted to be like Lady Penelope when I grew up. I like being feminine and I like the fact that the DH is manly - in a nerdy sort of way. It didn't stop me selling eurobonds in the 80's and 90's - in fact I think it made me better at it because I competed so very quietly.

SomethingSuper · 14/04/2011 21:09

Ask your husband Wink

TheBolter · 14/04/2011 21:09

I like being a woman.

I like to look like a woman.

I like to go shopping, and I like chocolate. Hmm

I do however prefer to work for a living, argue my opinions, fight for my right to be an equal in today's society. My gender does not define me, more it is an influence on my preferences - be they chocolate, shopping... and men. But I do not buy all this clap trap about women knowing their place and men being men.

OP you may not be a bad person, but you sound rather a simple one.

Flowerpotmummy... you need to grow a pair. Seriously. You sound pathetic.

southeastastra · 14/04/2011 21:09

are you a big hairy trucker op

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einstein1 · 14/04/2011 21:11

southeastastra Thu 14-Apr-11 21:09:59
are you a big hairy trucker op

Sorry? Odd post!!

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Flowerpotmummy · 14/04/2011 21:12

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Malificence · 14/04/2011 21:15

As opposed to what? Men should be ring tailed lemurs and women should be pygmy goats? Hmm

The last time I checked, DH has a penis and testicles and I have breasts and a vagina, ergo, him = man, me = woman - it's really quite simple genetics.

Oh, you mean behaviour Wink - so DH shouldn't enjoy baking cakes because he's a man and I shouldn't enjoy computer games because I'm a woman?

Ahh the good old days, when Dad would piss his wages up the wall then come home and give mum a good hiding, yes I'm sure everyone hankers back to those glory days.

SomethingSuper · 14/04/2011 21:15

I don't think I have ever read a single arsey thing on here that denigrated baking or making a packed lunch.

Flowerpotmummy · 14/04/2011 21:16

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AyeRobot · 14/04/2011 21:16

More straw men.

You have to watch out you don't get bits in your eyes when there are anti-feminism threads around.

southeastastra · 14/04/2011 21:17

odd post only for someone who doesn't read mn much??

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einstein1 · 14/04/2011 21:18

Malificence

Ahh the good old days, when Dad would piss his wages up the wall then come home and give mum a good hiding, yes I'm sure everyone hankers back to those glory days.

Poor you. You have such a distorted view of men, hardly your fault. Please be assured that your Dad was most definately in the minority. Take care.

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Booandpops · 14/04/2011 21:19

We are different. I don't want to be a man and I'm sure my dh doesn't want to be a woman.

My son was a boys boy from birth. I didn't treat him delifferently from his sister and he had free range to her toys. He still prefers boy toys and being outside tho. Can't change him nor would I want to.

YANBU

SomethingSuper · 14/04/2011 21:19

But you are making judgements Flowerpot - you potsed on the other thread that you thought feminists have hairy legs and hate men! You've also assumed bizarre things about baking and packed lunches and oh I've sort of lost the will to live.

Flowerpotmummy · 14/04/2011 21:21

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NormanTebbit · 14/04/2011 21:21

Christ almighty.

TheBolter · 14/04/2011 21:21

Well Flowerpot, the facts you gave us were basically that you don't mind being called 'tea bitch' because it gives you first dibs on the biscuits and means men will hold doors open for you.

So excuse me for judging you.

Hmm
cornsilkily · 14/04/2011 21:23

OP you are being very patronising. No-one cares what you wear. Stop making an issue out of it.

Malificence · 14/04/2011 21:23

It was the stereotypical working class Dad of the fifties and sixties you ignoramus.

Distorted view of men? Hmm FYI, I've been married for 26 years to a wonderful man who adores me and views me as his equal, he doesn't feel the need to act like a "man" to be a real man.

ILoveYouToo · 14/04/2011 21:23

Flowerpotmummy I think people are being really rude to you here - ignore the pillocks who think they know everything about you from a couple of sentences!

In my experience, blokes together can be very rude to each other and take the piss in what can seem like a cruel or offensive way; but it's not meant to be taken to heart, and is a way of bonding and bantering. You obviously understand that and see it for what it is - the people telling you to 'grow a pair' clearly don't. Hmm

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einstein1 · 14/04/2011 21:24

cornsilkily Thu 14-Apr-11 21:23:03
OP you are being very patronising. No-one cares what you wear. Stop making an issue out of it.

I'm sorry, you are of course right. How dare I post on Mumsnet. Sorry.

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