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to be really f*cking p*ssed off with my neighbour for this?

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 19:45

We bought DD a trampoline (8ft) this week for the garden, and she absolutely loves it, it's so sweet, she wants to be on it constantly, and since we bought it, our garden has been full of giggles all day long as we all lark about on it.
The neighbour who's garden backs onto ours (their house is sideways on to ours, so the side of their house over looks our garden) is currently having a loft extension, with a large window on the side that is looking directly into our garden. She stopped my husband this morning, as he was bouncing with DD, and asked him to move the trampoline. She is upset as if adults bounce on it, we can see directly into her garden, and she can see it from her garden and it's a bit of an eye sore.
WTF???!!! We have said NOTHING about the fact they are putting a big fuck off window over looking our garden, we have said NOTHING about the fact that we should have had notification from the council about it with the option to complain about the plans, we have said NOTHING about the fact that their ugly loft conversion will block out the afternoon sun from our garden - because that's just life when you live in a street like this isn't it?
Am so angry that she has the audacity to ask us to move our fucking trampoline cos she doesn't like the look of it. And I'm sorry darling but I'm not that desperate to see into your garden.
So angry.
AIBU to be this p*ssed off??! My DD loves this trampoline so much and now I feel awkward going on there with her.

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 19:45

Must add we don't know this neighbour, we've never crossed paths before so this is the first dealing we've had with them.

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K999 · 09/04/2011 19:47

Tell her to go fuck herself...if privacy means that much to her she should live on a very remote island...

Choufleur · 09/04/2011 19:47

Just ignore her and bouncy away to your hearts' content. She can't do anything about it.

washnomore · 09/04/2011 19:48

I would say to her exactly what you've said in your post. Then I'd probably punch her in the mouth. HTH :)

Rosa · 09/04/2011 19:48

Tell them adults will bounce looking the other way ......

GypsyMoth · 09/04/2011 19:49

tell her what you've just told us!!
yanbu

Carrotsandcelery · 09/04/2011 19:50

YANBU. Could you calmly and politely tell her what you have told us if she complains again?
As far as I know you are allowed to put a trampoline wherever you like in your garden.
Bounce away to your hearts content and enjoy your dds happy squeals.

iamamug · 09/04/2011 19:50

YANBU - bounce away to your heart's content.
Have a trampoline party tomorrow in the sunshine haha!

Honeybee79 · 09/04/2011 19:51

Bloody hell, she sounds barking! YANBU. Absolutely nothing she can do about the trampoline, tough titties (and that's my professional legal opinion Grin).

harecare · 09/04/2011 19:56

If you're not planning on moving anytime soon you can be as angry as you like, reasonably so, but it won't do you any good.
Can you move the trampoline? If it is currently in the best spot for you and you'd prefer not to move it go round and be very reasonable about explaining why you can't move it as blah, you don't want to offend her blah and you may see into her garden if you chose to, but you really aren't a nosy parker so she needn't worry blah. Agree that a lot of kids toys can be a bit of an eyesore, but they're only young once and it's well worth having it take up space in your garden when it keeps your DD fit and happy. By the way you hope her extension is coming along nicely, it's a pity it'll block out some sun from your garden, but you're not complaining blah.

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 19:56

It's amazing isn't it?!
K999 my sentiments exactly - the houses and gardens in our streets are over looked anyway, from every angle - you can't expect not to see/hear other families in their gardens at this time of year.
I saw/heard this going on at the time, and so I said in stage whisper 'Any chance you can move that massive window on your extension?'
DH wants to lodge a complaint with the council now about her extension but I've managed to persuade him otherwise. It'll be like street wars.
I think they may have got the message though, as we were very loudly discussing how incredulous we were at the sheer brass neck of her.

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 19:58

harecare I can totally understand that I should do that ('specially like the last sentence) but I'm afraid that when her cats bum mouth appears at the door, my fist might fly into it unwittingly. Blush
Think I'll calm down for a few days before I attempt contact.

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EllAEllO · 09/04/2011 20:00

Cheeky sod. YANBU.

Grin @ Rosa "Tell them adults will bounce looking the other way ......"
Brilliant! You should definitely use that.

slugz · 09/04/2011 20:01

We had this.
Moved in, one spring, bringing our trampoline with us. The kids used it all the time, and we invited the neighbours kids in to play on it whenever they liked. The kids had a fab summer.
In the autumn the padding round the side split, and we knew we'd have to replace it, so we dismantled the trampoline until we could source some padding.
The next day I bumped into the neighbour (who's daughter came on the trampoline most). Who proceeded to gush about how over the moon she was that we'd seen sense and got rid of the trampoline. We had RUINED their summer, they had felt TRAPPED in their home, she had ended up on anti-depressants, it had DESTROYED her family life. She'd never mentioned this before.
Maybe I should have done but I didn't have the heart to put it back up after that so we sold it. The kids still go on about it 4 years on.
I never ever let the kids on there after 7pm, which I think was fair.

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 20:02

Grin DH suggested he and I bounce on it together when they are next having a bbq, and ask them what they're eating and if they can chuck some over, bouncing is hungry work Grin

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washnomore · 09/04/2011 20:03

slugz Shock

Where do you lot find these people, they're crackers!

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 20:03

slugz that's so sad for you and your DC's but I totally understand why you felt you couldn't put it back up. Antidepressants FFS, trapped in her own home - how bloody dramatic.

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fifitot · 09/04/2011 20:06

I think my parents must be your neighbours! This is the way they think until it's about their grandchildren. They are loopy and unreasonable though.

YANBU

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 20:07

Thanks fifitot Smile
In actual fact these neighbours have young children themselves. Bet they're not allowed to have fun though.

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NonnoMum · 09/04/2011 20:08

Bounce on it topless. That'll give her something to really complain about. Grin

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 20:08

Grin @ Honeybee79

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slugz · 09/04/2011 20:08

I couldn't stand her, she was so 2-faced, nice as pie most of the time, but then would reveal her true colours occasionally.
She came hammering on our door, when I was 41 weeks pregnant because the midwife had parked outside her house. This was the space with a 'v' for visitor painted on it, her own allocated space was vacant. She kicked up such a fuss though that the midwife had to postpone her plans for a sweep and move her car halfway down the road.

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DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 09/04/2011 20:09

Grin Grin Grin @ NonnoMum

I would but would be fearful of giving myself two black eyes - Oh who am I kidding.

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heliumballoons · 09/04/2011 20:09

Daydream coffee came out of my nose @ 'chuck us some, bouncins hungry work. Grin

YANBU. On another note I live in a street like yours, I can see 3 peoples gardens from my flat, my communal garden is open and walking down the street all DS's friends call hi... how... are... you... as the appear over the fence on their trampolines. Grin Its great and very sociable.

pink4ever · 09/04/2011 20:10

Sorry I am am clearly going against the grain here but I think YABU. I live in a similiar situation(loads of neighbours with trampolines). Now I dont mind kids having fun but they are for kids not drunken adults making tits of themselves at 2am!.

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