To be very hurt & upset by ds

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Ds (12) has been a nightmare to live with lately , he can be very insulting & rude to both DH & myself . While out shopping on Friday DH asked ds to go pick out a card for me for mothers day but ds refused saying "no i don't want to" (& walked out of the card shop) so DH ended up getting a card anyway & asking ds to write it out for me . DH also bought both dc's presents to hand me & flowers . DD gave me hers early this morning in front of ds but ds has not given me his gift even though its hanging on his bedroom door handle (where dh left it) & now he has gone out to play & i am sat here in tears

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With risk of sounding patronising well done. It's great you have actually listened to people, accepted where and why things went wrong and are correcting them with your family. We all hit a wall at some time in our lives and I hope when I do MN is as useful for me.

I'm sure your DS likes the idea of boundaries as it shows you care.

Best of luck.

Happy to hear that DS has apologised and bought you some daffs.

I'm really glad you had a nice lunch. Well done to your ds for apologising, hope you can all sort it out together.
Parenting is so bloody hard sometimes isn't

Yes it is bloody hard , and i'm under no illusions, its going to get harder .
Thanks for the reckon i'm gonna need it