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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 5

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Teaandcakeplease · 01/04/2011 22:15

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tired mum, Elmo and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all Smile

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

OP posts:
CheerfulYank · 09/07/2011 08:52

HE , whereya been so long? :o

Good idea, Tea, I bet the SN topic would have some great ideas. Still cannot believe that's happening Tired!

valiumredhead · 09/07/2011 10:23

Oh tired how horrible Sad

What IS it with these bloody schools that don't sort out bullying ffs? Makes me so cross, yes we KNOW there will always be bullies in life but it's up to the school to sort it out!!! Grrrrrrrrr!

Poor you xxx

Ds has gone to a party - dh is in bed as he's on night shift -it's very quiet here! Just about to put some washing out on the line...... I know how to live Wink

HairExtensions · 09/07/2011 12:54

Hi

It's been a while hasn't it? Life has been q bit topsy turvy for me the last year but just starting to settle down now Smile

Cheerful I posted a thread under a different name which will give you an insight into what things have been like. I'll pm you the name rather that type it all out again.

Tiredmum that sounds horrific Sad Angry but just to second what Tea said, you are a GREAT mum!

Hi Tea nice to see you Smile

CheerfulYank · 09/07/2011 14:13

Yes, do let me know HE. :)

How is everyone today?

elmofan · 09/07/2011 15:23

Hi

welcome back HE Smile

Anyone got any plans for the weekend?

gomummygo · 09/07/2011 15:29

Welcome back HE! Good to "see" you again! Hope things are ok.

Tired I am so Angry for you, you must be so frustrated and upset for poor DS. Always here if you need to vent.

Hot here, this will be a weekend of gardening for us. DS and DH are stealing all the peas and blueberries and think I don't notice.

What are you all up to?

Tiredmumno1 · 09/07/2011 20:27

Yes they will be moving her up aswell, and cheerful ta for reminding me to ask where his one to one is, i was so angry i forgot, i will post it on sn aswell, thanks, seriously thank all of you for being here, its comforting to know you are all here, its really appreciated.

Hiya hairextensions, did i entice you back then Wink

HairExtensions · 10/07/2011 15:27

Tiredmum you mean guilt tripped me Grin

Hello gomummy and elmo

elmofan · 10/07/2011 16:44

Hello everyone Smile

Just popping in to see how everyone is doing ?

Tiredmum - Hope ds1 has a better day in school tomorrow . Try have another talk to the head and his One to One teacher and see if you can get through to them as cheerful says its their job to look after your ds .
Are this girls parents reasonable ? could your Dh go with you to have a chat with them and maybe explain to them that their dd is bullying your boys ?
Thinking of you all x

HairExtensions · 10/07/2011 17:57

Forgot to say if any other benchers want to read my other thread let me know and I will pm you the details. I only name changed cos I dont want anyone mentioned in the thread to be able to trace my usual posts iyswim

gomummygo · 10/07/2011 18:06

So, where ya been HE? We missed you! :)

We're well here, thanks Elmo. How are you?

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Tiredmum, hope you can find some resolution. Feel so badly for your poor DS, followed to a new school. And for you, you must be livid. Wish I knew more about your school system over there so that I could suggest something helpful. I personally would be specifically using the word harassment, in writing, with the school though, that is what I think they are allowing to happen to your DS Angry. If you don't get satisfactory action from the school, presumably there is a body that governs them that you could go to over their inaction? A scathing letter to the right people?

Wish I could be of any help. (Good at scathing letters if you ever need to go down that road!)

gomummygo · 10/07/2011 18:07

Xpost, HE, sorry...yes please let me know your other thread. Hope everythiing is ok.

gomummygo · 10/07/2011 18:08

everything Blush

JazzieJeff · 10/07/2011 18:16

HE hi I'd like to read your thread if that's ok?

tiredmum God how awful for both your boys! What a bizarre and awful situation, can't bloody believe the one to one assistant is even entertaining the notion of this odd little bully. Would it be worth keeping an incident diary of sorts? I'd sent your DS to school in one of his own jumpers tomorrow, when the school questions it, inform them that you cannot afford to replace clothes damaged by vandals, and since the school is not taking responsibility for the situation, you are not taking responsibility for your son's school uniform, or lack of it. I'd also present the head with the incident diary, and inform him/her that if they do not take appropriate measures to protect your child, that you will be forced to look into taking legal advice since your son is becoming subject to physical abuse, which being allowed to happen by the teachers. Play hardball with them. Fuckers. Sorry, it just annoys the shit out of me when things like this happen. It boils down to laziness on belhalf of the school. Angry

Had a lush day today, been dead sunny down here. Finished the day up in Roskillys Ice Cream parlour with DS and DH Smile

Tiredmumno1 · 10/07/2011 21:21

Shock me. Guilt trip. Never Grin

Thanks everyone, elmo we may have to have words with the other parent now as this has been happening for 3 years, gawd knows where his one to one is, which will be questioned tomoz.

Gomummy we will be requesting a meeting with the chair of governers, and ta for your offer of doing letters, i'll shout if i need you Smile

Hiya jazzie, your part about the jumper made me giggle, what a bloody good idea, could you imagine their faces Grin

Do you think we would be wrong to demand she is kicked out, i just dont see why we should upheave the boys again, and the school knew all about this girl, as it was explained when he first started about the probs with her and as soon as ds said she had started there, we warned them it was her, they promised nothing would happen, we have already had to speak to them 3 or 4 times about her smacking him, and its always we promise it wont happen again. However we also found out she has also had ds2 in a headlock, he is only 4 Sad

Anyhoo, dont mean to bring the bench down, hope you are all having a great weekend xShock me. Guilt trip. Never Grin

Thanks everyone, elmo we may have to have words with the other parent now as this has been happening for 3 years, gawd knows where his one to one is, which will be questioned tomoz.

Gomummy we will be requesting a meeting with the chair of governers, and ta for your offer of doing letters, i'll shout if i need you Smile

Hiya jazzie, your part about the jumper made me giggle, what a bloody good idea, could you imagine their faces Grin

Do you think we would be wrong to demand she is kicked out, i just dont see why we should upheave the boys again, and the school knew all about this girl, as it was explained when he first started about the probs with her and

Tiredmumno1 · 10/07/2011 21:23

Sorry phone has gone crazy again Blush

Tiredmumno1 · 10/07/2011 21:32

And cheerful to answer your earlier question the head said if we dont like it, theres the door, but we would be sad to see them leave as they are lovely boys Hmm thats what the old school said, and we never let them go back.

gomummygo · 10/07/2011 23:44

Shock that the head said that Tiredmum!!! Angry Angry Angry
[incredulous and outraged emoticon]

I don't think you'd be out of line, but I also don't think you'll be successful getting them to kick the girl out, based on what seems to be their attitude so far. It certainly sounds like they've done very little in terms of managing the situation.

Having said that, I do think you should make a giant stink about it. I don't know much about your school system but presumably you either pay for it in taxes or privately - your DS (both of them actually!) are entitled to a safe educational environment. You entrust their care to this school, who are knowingly allowing your DS to be harassed and tormented on an ongoing basis! Grr, I am so angry for you.

Hope things go well for you this week Tiredmum, your boys are lucky to have you in their corner.

CheerfulYank · 11/07/2011 06:10

Outrageous! I can't believe the head said that! It's too bad that there is not another class so they can be separated. At the very least his 1 to 1 needs to be keeping them totally apart. Do I need to come over there and help? Angry

We're almost done with the floor; I am exhausted. Luckily DS has been invited over to a friend's to play tomorrow so my dad and I may be able to finish up before he has to leave.

elmofan · 11/07/2011 19:00

Hi everyone Smile

Tiredmum - How did ds get on in school today ?

Well done on finishing the floor cheerful , Wine to celebrate Smile

Tiredmumno1 · 11/07/2011 21:18

He was ok today thanks, she left him alone, although she did sit next to him but she got told to move, it is the norm though, she'll leave it a while beford starting again, we should have the outcome of what was said to the parents within a couple of days Hmm

We will just await a reply from the chair of governers, to see when we can meet, then i will ask about the expulsion, as we cant do this anymore, i will be complaining about the school condoning bullying

Tiredmumno1 · 11/07/2011 21:20

before Blush

Hope you have all having a lovely day Smile

gomummygo · 11/07/2011 22:55
Tiredmumno1 · 11/07/2011 23:16

Gah fgs just realised my last post made no sense Grin

Grin

Bring it on haha

Tiredmumno1 · 11/07/2011 23:33

Distraction time, we havent asked questions for a while so me first-

  1. Whats your shoe size?
  1. Your favourite football team?
  1. What takeaway do you like best.
  1. Your fav actor
  1. Your fav actress

My answers-

  1. Shoe size - 7 Blush
  1. Liverpool fc - ynwa
  1. Chinese mmmm
  1. Adam sandler
  1. Drew barrymore

And your turn...............

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