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AIBU?

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To ask dd to use tampax

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scruffybird · 01/04/2011 20:15

Weird title I know. Ok dd is 12 next week and started her periods a few months ago. She does synchronised swimming and is having to miss about one or two sessions a month due to her periods, which hasn't been a problem.
But she came on today and has a very important session on sunday, her and her duet partner are competing against some other teams and the team chosen gets to represent our town at a big competiton next month.
So far dd has been against the tampax idea.
AIBU to push the issue just for the sake of sunday?

OP posts:

melpomene · 03/04/2011 10:33

Surely every teenager and adult should know where the cervix is, in the same way that they should know where the heart, lungs and stomach are? Basic awareness of our fascinating bodies.

I'm confused about how any woman who has children could not know where her cervix is.

SardineQueen · 03/04/2011 15:32

One thing knowing where the cervix is, from a general anatomical POV. Quite another knowing where your cervix is. I guess not all people have thought of having a good grope around up there, and some people's cervixes are tricky blighters that hide round bends and stuff...

alistron1 · 03/04/2011 15:36

My cervix is 'retrograde' or summat, apparently I have a tilted womb. So even trained cervix hunters have never been able to find it. What chance do I have?!!

SardineQueen · 03/04/2011 15:47

@ trained cervix hunters

Imagining your cervix stalking the serengetti (sp)...

KatieWatie · 03/04/2011 15:50

I didn't try tampons til I was about 19 - I hated the thought of putting anything inside myself :S It limited my activities quite a bit. But I ended up with some Tampax Compak (the ones with the plastic applicator) and didn't look back. There is no way you can hurt yourself, not put it in properly etc. They're still the only type I will use, I can't get on with non-applicators or even cardboard applicator types as I just end up fraught and harrassed with hundreds of wasted tampons around my feet. Well, pretty much anyway.

I heartily recommend them for your daughter.

alistron1 · 03/04/2011 15:50

I bet my cervix gets up to all sorts of stuff that I don't know about.

firsttimer84 · 03/04/2011 15:56

when i first started my mum suggested tampons to me and i had literally NO idea where to put it. I was scared to use them, have you shown her how to use one? (with the diagrams thing in the tampax box not on her obv) when mum showed me (we were/are close) i felt better and actually very grown up when i cracked it. Although i was prob embarrassd at the time i cant remember that bit

vinestein · 03/04/2011 16:09

tampax compak are the only ones I'd advise, and then get the smallest ones (they have super light ones or something)..they don't hurt and are small and easy to insert and you can't go far wrong.. but yes don't force her, 12 is very young, I remember not being able to use tampons til I was older than that

diddl · 04/04/2011 09:16

I think applicator ones are a good idea as a young girl might not like the idea of putting her finger in herself.

Also, if you get the angle right, they tend to end up high enough in iyswim.

GreenPetal94 · 04/04/2011 10:00

I used tampax (regular) on my second period as I was too embarrassed to ask to get off swimming. Mind you I was 13.5 when I started my periods. I figured it out myself with help from the diagram in the leaflet.

Best wishes to you dd in combining the swimming and periods, not an easy one.

startail · 04/04/2011 14:48

YANBU, I was distinctly pushy with DD1 over this issue. She was hopeless at getting pads in the right place, it was Summer and she loves swimming. So I'm afraid I was mean mummy and made her try with various sorts until she got hang of the tiniest non applicator ones. (Has just swooped to nicking my regular ones, because the light ones are so tiny they leak).

DD1 started her periods before many of her older friends, has a younger sister, and they swim in PE at school having to make excuses not to swim would just have been

JanMorrow · 04/04/2011 16:54

To be honest, I didn't want to use tampons at that age and I tried one when I was about 14 to go swimming but didn't put it in properly and it hurt.. I've only started using them in more recent years to go swimming, I'm a towel girl myself. Leave it up to her.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 04/04/2011 16:59

So what happened?

newbabyinthestow · 04/04/2011 16:59

Just a random thought, but maybe she doesn't want to do the swimming? This might be a suitable excuse, or she might just be feeling the pressure of competing...? Maybe not but perhaps tampons are not the problem.

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