AIBU?
My friends are being tight, right?
Mammie81 · 28/03/2011 23:37
Im 30 in a month. Asked them to an event which costs £35.
My friends who are a couple have complained to me that £35 is quite alot to spend on one event. Despite them doing the following :
- Having a wedding on a cruise next year where guests are expected to pay for their attendance, in excess of £500 per person
- Recent birthday of the female friend in the couple costing over £35 in meal/cinema/gig/travel (NOT a 30th!!!)
Im 30, Ive just had a baby and havent had a bloody drink in a year! And they wont pay £35 for me, when they expect us to pay £500 to see them married?! They are tight, arent they? Im not BU?
PS
They are having the cruise wedding as its cheaper for them as they pay an excess and then just buy wedding clothes.
JarethTheGoblinKing · 28/03/2011 23:41
Don't ask them to an event that costs £35. You can never know the ins and outs of personal finances, you don't know what personal factors affect it. Is it £35 plus drinks, food etc, or all in?
A friend of mine asked me to join her 30th birthday celebrations not too long ago, I had to make excuses becuase I was 6 weeks pregnant and not ready to tell. I just told her I couldn't afford it (because I couldn't anyway) and it woud have cost a similar amount to what you are proposing, just with added travel, booze etc.
Maryz · 28/03/2011 23:41
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You've never been to a restaurant for a birthday?elphabadefiesgravity · 28/03/2011 23:46
YABU in the fact that you should not be offended if someone decides they don;t wish to spend money on son=mething. however expecting their wedding guests to spend £500 on the wedding is a bit 0)
Whenever anyone in our family goes to a restaurant for a birthday the birthday person pays.
Maryz · 28/03/2011 23:47
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scurryfunge · 28/03/2011 23:50
LessNarky,
I tend to agree with Maryz. If I want a birthday celebration and ask friends then I pay a substantial amount and friends would make up a nominal amount (say drinks).
If friends have done the organising and want the celebration then it tends to be the birthday girl who doesn't usually pay.
TheSecondComing · 28/03/2011 23:52
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renlovesyou · 29/03/2011 00:06
Im also surprised so many people would pay for their guests to come along. That for one of my friends would be over £500 for what shes arranged! I cant afford to celebrate anything on those terms. If its a meal, we usually split it so the birthday person doesnt pay. Isnt that nicer for the birthday guy/gal?
bubblecoral · 29/03/2011 08:23
YANBU to want them to come, but they have told you they don't want to do the thing you have planned. So they probably don't. Money is they excuse. I wouldn't want to pay £70 for me and dh to do something that we didn't want to do either, birthday or not. And it's probably more than that by the time you figure in drinks and transport.
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