To let DD14 have party in house while we're out?

[DrunkenDaisy]

It's her birthday. She is, (raging hormones aside), a lovely, responsible girl. In a moment of weakness, I said she could have her friends over on Saturday night and me and DH would go out. This has now turned into a 'party'. She keeps refering to how excited she is about her 'party'.

As far as I know, just a handful of girls and boys will be coming over. But who knows what will happen. Am I mad? Your experiences please?

You are mad!

No. Not at 14 I wouldn't. Absolutely no way whatsoever.

Mad? yes definitely

it will be all over facebook as we speak and the yobs from the local will be marking it down in their Iphones :)

No way!

Worst case scenario is that the 'handful of girls and boys' turns into a rugby scrum of uninvited gate-crashers sporting crates of beer. I'd stick around discreetly rather than just leave them to it.

she may well be lovely and responsible. However, Friend A's friend B has another friend, C, who is partial to alcopops/cider and has a whole gang of lke minded friends.

Your DD is not able to cope if things go pear shaped.

For her sake as much as anything you should be nearby. As Chil said, you can be discreet.

No way!

Not a chance!!!!!

Agree with other posters that you need to be around in case the party gets out of hand. This is as much for your daughters sake as yours.

DON'T DO IT. Your dd may be a lovely sensible girl - her friends and all the people they tell about the party on face book etc may not be. Don't leave her to deal with the inevitable fall out. How will she cope with gatecrashers?

My ds had a dreadful experience at a party at about this age. I won't go into it, but I would seriously urge you to stay on the premises.

All it takes is one mate to put on facebook via mobile phone what a great night they are having and the whole thing goes pear shaped!!

Really? OMG. I can't bear the fall out of cancelling it.

I was planning to be going for dinner nearby so she could call me if things got out of hand.

Yes I'd pop in every hour or so to see what going on
or invite cool older cousin / sister/ responsible friend to go, maybe someone to do hair and nails at somepoint to rein it in
and i would have said only girls

No need to cancel. She can still have the friends over. But the deal wasn't a 'party' so you say you'll be there rather than leaving them to it. It is your home...

if 5 yobs turn up and push their way in, how will she get rid of them?

she will be panicky and desperately trying to look cool while they are running riot lol

You have to be there. Really.

Can you be next door? Are you friends with your neighbours?

by the time she calls you it will be so out of hand! I hope you don't have any pale carpets

The more I think about it, the less I can come up with any scenario that would make me leave a group of 14 year olds having a "party" in my house by themselves.

maybe if you rented the house, had no deposit and hated your landlord Soupdragon?

she will be throwing up all over your antique rug

Ok thanks. I'm going to show her this thread and negotiate that I pop in every hour and return for good at 10pm

Personally there is no way we'd allow it. But if this is what you've decided to do, you need to protect your house. Sit in the car outside with your phone and a good book and unexpectedly pop back for things you've forgotten at regular intervals, or rope in sone friends or neighbours to call by for you and get daughter to ring you if there's any trouble. Leave a baby listener on somewhere and take the other bit with you.
Good luck