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to secretly judge a mum who doesn't work but bought her son's 1st birthday cake at Waitrose?

306 replies

howdidthishappenthen · 15/03/2011 20:56

Note that she's a REALLY one-up-manship yummy mummy who doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'. Then I hear her DH praising her for 'buying' a great cake for DS's 1st birthday. OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes. And Waitrose cakes taste nice and lots of my own efforts are a bit dodgy. But no job, and the 1st birthday? C'mon... make an effort!

OP posts:
tortilla · 15/03/2011 21:21

My SIL made a chocolate cake for her DS's first birthday, and then wouldn't let him eat it as he was too much of a PFB to be allowed to eat anything sweet like cake. They sang Happy Birthday and then all the adults ate cake while he got to eat an organic, free range omelette...

Now that was unreasonable. Yummy mummy in OP not so much, assuming the baby got to eat some.

rookiemater · 15/03/2011 21:22

I have just ordered DS's birthday cake for his 5th birthday from Waitrose, it is a pirate chest and it looks fab.
I made a pirate face from a kit last year but it was a complete pain and I'm not gifted that way, oh and plus I work so please can I be excused from the Cath Kidson home knitted organic pasta only crap.

Hullygully · 15/03/2011 21:22

I agree. She is shocking lazy. What are her nets like?

messagetoyourudy · 15/03/2011 21:22

My DS got a Mr.Kipling chocolate slice for his 1st birthday cake.... and it was in the shape of a 1 by the merit of being a slice.

Truimphant Wink

Yes I can bake, and for his 4th birthday I duly made a lovley hedgehog cake covered in chocolate buttons but for a 1 year old who cares?

Hulababy · 15/03/2011 21:25

I may have to actually be a good mum this next birthday though. Tis only 3 weeks away and DD, for her 9th brthday, has requested a climbing wall cake, with meerkats climbing up it!!!

Sadly Waitrose don't appear to make one - eek.

yousankmybattleship · 15/03/2011 21:25

I just got a decent cake and some cava for my DD's first birthday. She was happy playing with a cardboard box and the grown-ups had a great time!

SingingSands · 15/03/2011 21:25

I think the OP is wielding the stick of "yummy mummy one-upmanship" herself. She wants hundreds of replies along the line of "gasp! horror!".

I just don't get what she is upset about? A mother buys her child a birthday cake? Someone call Social Services!

FuppyGish · 15/03/2011 21:26

'poof' ?Hmm

as for the op yabu obviously.

thisisyesterday · 15/03/2011 21:26

I don't work and guess what??????

sometimes i buy ALL my shopping from waitrose. AND sometimes there is cake.

StealthPolarBear · 15/03/2011 21:26

"My DS got a Mr.Kipling chocolate slice for his 1st birthday cake.... and it was in the shape of a 1 by the merit of being a slice."

PMSL - I will remember that for when DS is 11 :o

figcake · 15/03/2011 21:27

"OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes"

Says who? Just because baking is not my thing, it does not mean that I cannot cook - when it comes to mains, at my best, my guests have rated me as being right up there with the great chefs. I never reverted to shop bought cakes either. I have gradually learnt to bake - I have made most birthday cakes since, including a really complicated pear and almond one last year with a thin meringue layer on top and spun sugar focal point. So there.

Asinine · 15/03/2011 21:29

YABVVVVVVVVU

Will anyone actually agree with you?

thefirstMrsDeVere · 15/03/2011 21:30

Why oh why oh why oh why would I spend hours trying to fashion a Tardis out of marzipan (ick) when I can nip to tesco and buy one?

Besides it an absolute rule of law that 1st birthday = chocolate catapiller cake.

To paraphrase King George V 'Bugger Baking'

foxinsocks · 15/03/2011 21:31

lol

anyone who is a one-upmanship type of mum is open house for judging in my very honest opinion

LegoStuckinMyhoover · 15/03/2011 21:31

brilliant messagetoyourudy! agreed stealthpolarbear! what about a yum-yum stuck to a ring doughnut for 10 years old [ok, sorry I've taken it too far]

yellowkiwi · 15/03/2011 21:31

When I was a SAHM with a one year old I thought I did have a job. Have I missed something?

gordyslovesheep · 15/03/2011 21:33

she has a baby under 1 - and she may be shite at backing

yabu - try finding something worth being bothered about - that'll distract you

TurkeyBurgerThing · 15/03/2011 21:33

You're spealing bollocks love.

foxinsocks · 15/03/2011 21:34

cor blimey, it's not that hard to make a cake!

ziva · 15/03/2011 21:34

oh what a shit SAHM i must be.cakes bought in tesco,clothes sent to the menders,dh cooks dinner.

im not a kitchen genie but my kids are clean and happy.

bronze · 15/03/2011 21:35

I'm even worse not only did my ds3s 1st birthday cake come from tesco but my working dh bought it and me a sahm and all

MuthaHubbard · 15/03/2011 21:37

does her dh know she escaped from her chains that are usually attached to the kitchen sink?

have never baked a cake, never mind a birthday one

Hassled · 15/03/2011 21:40

That shop-bought cake will result in years of therapy, you mark my words. Therapy or prison or Jeremy Vile - that cake will fuck him up one way or another.

I only hope she spent her green charity token with this in mind. We had a "support for people fucked up by bone-idle non-baking parents" green token thing in our Waitrose the other day.

ziva · 15/03/2011 21:40

btw why the fuck would you waste your time judging this?
have you not got some baking/sewing/washing to do??

ziva · 15/03/2011 21:42

i can see it now...
jeremy vile tag line

'its my mothers fault im a murderer'

bet she feeds the baby petit filou and has used jars the lazy wench.