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Original poster

to secretly judge a mum who doesn't work but bought her son's 1st birthday cake at Waitrose?

306 replies

howdidthishappenthen · 15/03/2011 20:56

Note that she's a REALLY one-up-manship yummy mummy who doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'. Then I hear her DH praising her for 'buying' a great cake for DS's 1st birthday. OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes. And Waitrose cakes taste nice and lots of my own efforts are a bit dodgy. But no job, and the 1st birthday? C'mon... make an effort!

OP posts:
rinabean · 15/03/2011 21:03

Yes. I think she should be stoned to death for shirking her family responsiblities. This is the kind of thing that totally encapsulates today's Broken Britain. You can start. Use this. Biscuit

PaisleyLeaf · 15/03/2011 21:03

I'm going to be thinking about that baby all evening now.
That poor, poor little 1 year old Sad

Hmm
colditz · 15/03/2011 21:03

Oh dear, really? Are you that unfulfilled?

BetamaxBandit · 15/03/2011 21:03

Women know your place!

A man would never be accused of being a shit dad for BUYING a birthday cake instead of making one.

YAB totally U
And sexist
And stupid

yousankmybattleship · 15/03/2011 21:03

You are joking?

Its a cake! Who cares if she milled her own flour or bought it in Waitrose? I'm sure her baby doesn't so why should you?

saffy85 · 15/03/2011 21:04

I got DD's 1st birthday cake from costco. bloody lovely it was too.

YABU btw. and a bit of an idiot too.

withagoat · 15/03/2011 21:04

oh you miserable sods
I agree with OP
she is a slatern
bung some eggs and stuff int he oven and stop being such a poof

skybluepearl · 15/03/2011 21:04

I'm sure she has lots of other exciting things to do other than make cake. just because she is a stay at home mum doesn't mean she has to spend all her time baking.

DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 15/03/2011 21:05

YABU.

I bought my DD's first birthday cake from Tesco - now THAT deserves judging, surely?! Biscuit

And you think she's competitive? Look a bit closer to home.

DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 15/03/2011 21:06

And what skybluepearl said

Nanny0gg · 15/03/2011 21:07

Waitrose birthday cakes are yummy.
Grin

Original poster
howdidthishappenthen · 15/03/2011 21:08

Oh dear clearly just me then :-). I apologise. As you were. fwiw i would be exactly the same about a non working bloke..

OP posts:
Happymm · 15/03/2011 21:08

What the actual fuck......? Hmm

SlainteBooyFeckingHoo · 15/03/2011 21:08

"bung some eggs and stuff int he oven and stop being such a poof"

did you mean to write poof?

figcake · 15/03/2011 21:08

I did the same thing - not because I am a lazy cow though because my DD was still waking up several times a night so I was too knackered to contemplate putting my limited knowledge of baking on show to other judgmental, supermummies who spent their lives tripping over bags of unbleached gluten free, wholewheat flour and sulphur-free dried fruit.

SeeJaneKick · 15/03/2011 21:09

I buy all my DCs cakes AND I stay at home. AND I do hardly any housework! Ha! Judge away! I don't care...my hands look nice still and I am happy.

Smile
SugarPasteFrog · 15/03/2011 21:09

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MisSalLaneous · 15/03/2011 21:09

I clicked on link to say how stupid this OP is, but I see it has already been sufficiently covered.

And I'm saying this as a working mother. One who would still have bought a cake even if I didn't work.

figcake · 15/03/2011 21:10

"gluten free, wholewheat" ..ok probably can't be both of these, still all a mystery to me

mathanxiety · 15/03/2011 21:10

YABU. Cakes for 1 year olds are a waste of time and bought cakes often taste far nicer for the adults. I had three slices of the most delicious cake I ever tasted last week at a friend's. There's no way I could have produced anything like it and I bake a lot and quite well too. What's wrong with a mum taking a shortcut and ending up with a cake she can relax about?

DD1 mashed her lovingly baked 1st b-day carrot cake (healthy don't you know) into little orange-flecked crumbs and got cream cheese frosting in her hair...

orienteerer · 15/03/2011 21:10
Biscuit
DaydreamDollyisshrinking · 15/03/2011 21:10

I don't understand what the non working bit has to do with it? Do SAHM's have to be baking extraodinaires? I didn't get that memo (or the training course)

TattyDevine · 15/03/2011 21:11

I love cooking. Cakes as well as cuisine. So much so that when my son was around one I enrolled on a college course and did an NVQ2 and then an NVQ3 in Professional Cookery, even though I never intended on working in a restaurant. So I did a "serious" (i.e. not a fluffy housewife) course without even wanting to get anything out of it apart from my own knowledge.

Yet...these days, at the moment anyway, I do very little cooking.

Because every time I go into the sodding kitchen, THEY follow me and start clawing up my legs and crying (we are talking about my children here in case you were wondering)

I have the TIME, but I dont have the CHANCE

Y'a get me?

SeeJaneKick · 15/03/2011 21:11

SlainteBooyFeckingHoo

I assume she did mean to write "poof". That's how you spell it...as in Nancy-Boy or Gaylord etc.

Was it her spelling or her use of gay insults that offends?

TattyDevine · 15/03/2011 21:11

Oh, and I got distinction in both qualifications, so I'm actually rather good at it too, in case that's relevant.