to secretly judge a mum who doesn't work but bought her son's 1st birthday cake at Waitrose?

[howdidthishappenthen]

Note that she's a REALLY one-up-manship yummy mummy who doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'. Then I hear her DH praising her for 'buying' a great cake for DS's 1st birthday. OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes. And Waitrose cakes taste nice and lots of my own efforts are a bit dodgy. But no job, and the 1st birthday? C'mon... make an effort!

YABU

(I forgot that bit)

DaydreamDOlly

Apparently some people feel that you have to justify being a SAHM by baking cakes!

LOL at bran's post, a LOT of things have been justified like that in our house!

I like baking and so does DH and DH's Mum, so we have always managed to produce a homemade cake. Many hours have been spent and tears shed over birthday cakes though. I once tentatively suggested a bought cake (they often look miles better than homemade, TBH), but DH was shocked and disappointed in me, so I made one. See, the thing is, some of us just do have emotional hang ups about children's birthday cakes. I would defend anyones right to buy their child's cake, and feel a little residual judginess too. And feel guilty about that. How screwed up is that?!

i am just wondering A) what exactly it is about not baking a cake that implies someone is gay and B) why on earth being gay would be something we should stop being if we are, actually, gay.

i dont understand the relevence of the word.

YABU. There are lots of reasons she didn't bake one. I would be buying a cake for the DD's. My oven is crap. Much prefer a nice shop bought one than the pile-o-shite the oven would offer up.

If you asked a baby 'What would you prefer, an hour playing with Mum and a bought cake, or an hour left howling while Mum makes a cake? (Which Baby won't eat. Because ... cake's not good for babies).' I wonder what Baby would say.

Should this SAHM also make all Baby's clothes??

I bet she spends all her freee time dancing naked on the lawn. I really hope so. Because last time I looked after a baby, I didn't have time to do anything else.

I am shocked!

maybe you could write to the Daily Mail? I can see it now; front page news...'Out of work mum buys birthday cake from posh food hall' . Would Nettos have been ok?

Except look after the baby, I mean. I didn't dance naked on the lawn. At least not during the day.

fucking lol

IIRC I don't think we even had a cake for ds's first birthday as we spent it in an airport

I didn't even get dd a cake for her first birthday. I realise now what a Bad Mum I am.

She loves choosing her birthday cakes from Waitrose - it's all part of the build-up to the big Event.

I just re-read the OP. It seems that the real issue is that her DH praised her for buying the cake from Waitrose.

i bet your homemade cakes consist of using a packet mix. so, hardly "home made". you're full of s*.

yabu

Not everyone can, nor wants, to bake. Not everyone sees the ability to bake a cake as being some major achievements on a birthday. Maybe she has put "the effort" in elsewhere.

I always buy DD's cake in generally. It looks good andit tastes good. And my baking isn't great.

I can make a mean 3 or 4 course meal for several though, with no stress.

Each to their own.

I am SAHM & always buy shop-bought cakes because they taste better. Is it about the effort? Well, I'd prefer to put my 'effort' into other things and have a tasty cake
(I love shop-bought birthday cake!!, my mum always baked ours so maybe thats where my craving shop-bought cake comes from Sorry Mum)

Are you for real?

With 4 DC, eldest is now 27 I've worked out that so far my DC have had 79 birthdays between them so far and I have made the grand total of 1 birthday cake

I bake all the birthday cakes, always have done.

DH looked after the boys whilst I did because for him, the taste of my buttercream heavy concoctions was worth it.

They look like utter shite though. Apart from DS2's 4th Birthday Gruffalo cake, that was a triumph.

I don't really give a shit what anyone else does though in all honesty. I just wish I could decorate my cakes to look as good as they taste.

My oven has no gas marks or other means of calibrating temperature beyond 'really very hot', 'sort of warm' and 'stone cold'. OP I invite you to come to my house and make DD an edible birthday cake.

YANBU....I think that it's worth baking home made birthday cake

funny thread

How dare she! She should at least be making herself useful in the kitchen if she's a SAHM.