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MN jury required on whether I am a prude

109 replies

SenoritaViva · 11/03/2011 09:28

This morning DH and DD (3 almost 4) are sitting up in bed. I am getting dressed. Take top off, this is the discussion:

DH 'Mummy has fantastic boobies, DD say Mummy has fantastic boobies, go on say Mummy has fantastic boobies'

I ask him to stop doing that, he thinks I am a prude, I think it is a bit strange!

Don't have problem with DD seeing me naked (nor DH obviously!) and this is not a case of being worried this will turn DD into a lesbian, if she's gay she's gay. Also didn't have problem with DH eyeing me up and making faces behind DD, fine and amusing. But I just didn't want him to include DD in this. Secondly, was concerned she'd go to school chanting 'My mummy has fantastic boobies'. Albeit amusing, somewhat embarrassing for me.

This is not some ball breaker argument, I'd just like to know whether I have lost my sense of humour and being prudish, or whether like me, you think it a bit odd.

OP posts:
manicbmc · 11/03/2011 09:31

I don't think you're being a prude. It's not really an appropriate thing to want a child to say.

worraliberty · 11/03/2011 09:31

No I would have cringed too lol if my Husband had actually asked one of the kids to say it.

JustShaggingForNow · 11/03/2011 09:32

I think I'd be a bit uncomfortable with it and don't think I'm prudish!!!

OffToNarnia · 11/03/2011 09:32

I wouldn't like that either. I would be mortified if said in front of my 5 year old ds because he may well repeat it. Maybe I am a prude but I don't find what your husband said appropriate. YANBU!!

nethunsreject · 11/03/2011 09:32

yanbu

LowRegNumber · 11/03/2011 09:33

It is odd, he was being sexual so children should be left out of it. You don't appear to be a prude on the basis of this anyway!

lubeybooby · 11/03/2011 09:34

yanbu

diddl · 11/03/2011 09:37

You´re not a prude imo.

Congratulations on having fantastic boobies btwGrin

But why would your husband ask your daughter to repeat it?Confused

Would he like you to ask her to repeat "daddy has got a fantastic (or other adjectiveWink willy"?

Bonsoir · 11/03/2011 09:38

I think it's really great to compliment other family members on their physical attributes - we do this a lot.

spooktrain · 11/03/2011 09:40

definitely odd, and you are not a prude

hairylights · 11/03/2011 09:41

It's totally inappropriate sexualisatiin, actually. No you are not prudish your dh is a bit odd.

HelloOutThere · 11/03/2011 09:42

no you are not a prude imo, he is being odd in saying that to your DD

piratecat · 11/03/2011 09:42

he was being an arse. you don't say things like that that include a child.

what was he thinking. no you are not a bloody prude!

RightUpMyRue · 11/03/2011 09:43

YANBU or prudish. Not a suitable thing for your little girl to be parroting. Fine for DH to say it and fine for DH to say in front of DD but not fine to make her repeat it.

nectarina · 11/03/2011 09:43

YANBU, not a prude. It reminds me of the banter my mum and stepdad had in front of me and I hated it and it made me totally confused.

diddl · 11/03/2011 09:43

"I think it's really great to compliment other family members on their physical attributes - we do this a lot."

It´s not unknown in this house.

But we don´t teach the kids to "parrot" our opinions on each other.

cantspel · 11/03/2011 09:44

Is your husband 15 or just generally a bit odd?

SkilpadsMom · 11/03/2011 09:46

yanbu

smokingnuns · 11/03/2011 09:46

I think it is harmless, even quite healthy in a way, that his dad desires his mum. It wasn't too salacious - he used the word boobies. Maybe dh can be a bit less specific in future re isn't mum gorgeous - though if he said that when you were topless the implication would be clear!

YANBU if it makes you feel uncomfortable however. No law against that.

SeeJaneKick · 11/03/2011 09:47

There are llines...and he did cross it....I'm not prudish either but he's no need to admir your boobies like that.

It's about letting DD know that some parts are special and private.

wordfactory · 11/03/2011 09:47

diddl we wnet to a bahmitzvah on Sunday and all the good little children queued up for their turn on the mike to tell their Dad how grateful they were for 'all his hard work' and to tell Mum she looked 'stunning'.

It was almost robotic.

WhatsWrongWithYou · 11/03/2011 09:47

Yes inappropriate - drawing your 'boobies' to her attention and then insisting she repeat his comment is sexualising her needlessly.

DH might sometimes say 'doesn't mum look nice today?' or 'isn't mum pretty?' but would never make that sort of comment.

It would be weird if it was my 15yo son, so I don't see how it can't be weird in your case.

bupcakesandcunting · 11/03/2011 09:49

Excuse me but I think that you need to LEAVE THE FUCKER NOW.

OliPolly · 11/03/2011 09:49

I think it's odd so YANBU

moodymama · 11/03/2011 09:49

YANBU, why the hell is he trying to get a 3 yr old to say that?! What a freak!