MN jury required on whether I am a prude

[SenoritaViva]

This morning DH and DD (3 almost 4) are sitting up in bed. I am getting dressed. Take top off, this is the discussion:

DH 'Mummy has fantastic boobies, DD say Mummy has fantastic boobies, go on say Mummy has fantastic boobies'

I ask him to stop doing that, he thinks I am a prude, I think it is a bit strange!

Don't have problem with DD seeing me naked (nor DH obviously!) and this is not a case of being worried this will turn DD into a lesbian, if she's gay she's gay. Also didn't have problem with DH eyeing me up and making faces behind DD, fine and amusing. But I just didn't want him to include DD in this. Secondly, was concerned she'd go to school chanting 'My mummy has fantastic boobies'. Albeit amusing, somewhat embarrassing for me.

This is not some ball breaker argument, I'd just like to know whether I have lost my sense of humour and being prudish, or whether like me, you think it a bit odd.

Ask him if he thinks it would be appropriate for you to get your child to say that he has got a really nice dick.

Perhaps that will get through to him.

Weird and thoughtless of him - firstly making children repeat something is one of my pet peeves, my dad does this all the time with my DCs (tell daddy this, say that to mummy etc), and it was needlessly sexual... you are not a prude. It was inappropriate.

Thank you everyone for your input, it appears I was not being prudish.

I am sorry that there were a number of people that thought there were some child protection issues / abuse etc. I would like to defend my DH since he is lovely, caring etc. and would be utterly horrified that people had banded around that label. This is NOT who he is, he meant this entirely as a joke, albeit a little misguided. My question was simply whether I had a sense of humour failure or not, not whether I was in an abusive relationship - yes an abusive person may say these things but that is not my DH.

Also, just to clear up anyone thinking the 'gay' comments were odd, yes in hindsight probably but what I meant to limit was being flamed by people saying that allowing a child to look at/appreciate breasts would make them gay (there are people who think this around, sons playing with prams etc.) and I just wanted to clarify from the start I wasn't one of those 'types'.

Sorry people were jealous of my breasts, does it help to know that my belly is like wobbly jelly?!

Thank you everyone for your input, it appears I was not being prudish

Oh you were OP, but so were the majority of people on this thread imo

valium

its an adult compliment not one a child should be giving to anyone as it is sexualised language.

would your DH like it if his little DD turned round and said what a fantastic cock you have daddy?

It's odd and YANBU.

I know this sounds way OTT and obviously one comment will not do too much damage but if this was a regular thing it will make your DD grow up being way too self concious about her body IMO, and perhaps make her think that her body is there to please men!

My DP once said an approving and complimentary coment about a gorgeous woman who was wearing almost nothing on TV infront of our then 13 year old daughter and I came down on him like a ton of bricks.

There is far too much imagery in the media as it is, without dads giving out damaging messages about women being sex objects.

I think it's so important for dads especially to encourage DDs to respect their bodies and themselves.

You won't achieve that if you have a dad drawing a young DD's attention to a pair of boobs and getting her to repeat parrot fashion that they are great boobs!

And I'm not a prude but have a pet hate of men oggling women in front of children of any age!

I have a very walk around the house naked policy in my home but still think this is bizarre.

Firstly he might just have been using the baby to vocalize his opinion and flatter you in a cutesie way so maybe it is not all bad, he might not have realized how wierd it sounded to an observer.

The thing that gets me is the "fantastic boobies" part, if he had just said something like "say mummy has boobies", I wouldn't think it wierd, just a silly and somewhat cute commentary on a differentiating female body part.

But the "fantastic" brings a different element into it. Can't quite put my finger on it but it does IMO change the context a lot. Besides, I don't know if this is possible as I'm no sure if he would, but if he continued saying things like that, it could give your daughter a complex about her breasts, especially if they don't become like yours.

Maybe it eas just a thoughtless comment, a string of words that left his mouth without much (if any) thought.

I think the PP (don't have time to see who it was) who said this is disrespectful to your DD more than anything was spot-on.

Using DCs to parrot something they are not supposed to understand for your amusement is a bit like teasing an animal to make a group of people laugh imo (is that OTT??).

Also, soon she will understand. I remember someone trying to make me repeat something similar involving the word 'rotund' when I was about 8, assuming I wouldn't know what it meant. I did, and I remember being hideously embarrassed as I understood enough to get the leery remark they were making, but wasn't confident enough to tell them to eff off. Still makes me