to despise my bro

[Flojo1979]

Fuming!
My bro moved to other end of country and met his wife, since then he has never spent a Xmas here tho visits relatively regularly.
I think its selfish of him and wife to always spend it at her parents home and not with our parents.
His wife is now pregnant and acts like she's the only pregnant woman on the planet.
It's my mums 60th this wkend and she can't possibly travel in a car for 4 hrs while pregnant so isn't coming and now my bro just announced he'll only be coming for one night cos his wife has back ache and can't possibly spare him. So he's going home day b4 my mums actually bday. I live in walking distance of my folks and my partner left me when I was 4m pregnant with dc2 so I coped!
AIBU to be angry that my bro and his wife r completely selfish?
Resisted the urge to tell them this via text. Maybe when there son arrives i'll ask them how they'd feel if he fked off to other end of country and they spent every Xmas wondering what they did to deserve him not bothering.

I think you're brother is trying to make evryone happy.

I think his wife needs to suck it up a bit though. Not sure why he needs to go back early 'cause her back is hurting

I didn't go to my MILs 70th because I was pregnant and didn't fancy the 2 hour drive each way. I'm with your SIL here.

heres an idea, maybe he just prefers her family?

its his business not yours, why are you so sure hes in the wrong? hes has his own family to think of now.

Well it is a shame that you mother is being let down if it is upsetting her. Do you really think it is though? She might not mind as long as she is seeing him.

And I am sorry that you have a hard time with your pregnancies and little support.

But it's not your SIL's fault. Try being proud that he is such a supportive partner for his wife. That is a good thing isn't it?

Op you sound like you hold some deep deep resentments. I'll bet
this comes from some form of envy. Would you like to have a doting
man who looks after your every need, like your brother does
for his wife? I'll bet you would. And who can blame you? But you've allowed yourself to become bitter and lose all compassion

YABU. They're grown-ups. They can spend Christmas how they want. You say they visit at other times anyway. Maybe other people don't see Christmas as a magical time of pixies and hugs. It's not like it's the law.

I agree with roomonthebroom, you sound jealous!

Maybe concentrate on bringing some happiness and fulfilment into your life instead of fixating on theirs?