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to be amazed that so many women have never felt their own cervix?

154 replies

AtYourCervix · 10/03/2011 16:28

Admittedly I may be biased but I do think it is peculiar that so many women haven't explored their own bodies and even more peculiar that so many women think it is peculiar that I think it is peculiar.
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SpermyShenanigans · 10/03/2011 23:38

That's what I had thought Gilmore

On the upside I have been complimented on being being "neat".

Can't remember if that was before or after the DC. I am possibly a bit more "frilly" now Grin

GotArt · 10/03/2011 23:41

Is having a 'feel of your cervix' a metaphor for masturbating. Grin I've definitely felt mine.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 10/03/2011 23:44

I feel mine most times I go to the loo as it is sat at the entrance to my vagina(I can see it with a mirror when I sit on the loo) but apparently according to my gp it is fine and I just need to get used to it Hmm

SpookyBaby · 11/03/2011 04:03

I'm so useless, I can't even use tampons Blush never mind feel specific innards!

Once a condom got lodged up there and I mustered up all my courage and tried to put my finger up but it was horrible all squidgy! Couldn't bear it! I had to go to the Doctor to get it out!

When they do smears on me, it takes them endless minutes jabbing and prodding. They can never see the thing. It's tilted they said.Confused

Bubbaluv · 11/03/2011 04:35

My GP always has trouble finding it for smears, so I was never aware that other women's were within poking distance. When they do find it it is generally sensitive in a non-[pleasurable kind of way, so can't imagine I'd want to prod it if I could {hmm]
Are there any other fascinating bits I should be prodding?

IWouldNotCouldNotWithAGoat · 11/03/2011 04:41

Nah, still doesn't sound that interesting.

SpookyBaby · 11/03/2011 06:14

penny drops

I always thought I was a mad squeamish freak Bubbaluv...I was also not aware until this very thread that other womens were in poking distance...Shock

(This explains how women can put in 'fanny furniture' like caps and those tampons with no applicators and the likes!) Blush

ScroobiousPip · 11/03/2011 06:31

Blimey, never crossed my mind to actively go looking!

[nosey emoticon] I do wonder if it is common for a cervix to be in touching distance? I mean, if the average penis is 6 inches, wouldn't you think that the cervix, following maximum comfort during intercourse, would have evolved to being about the same distance away?

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onlion · 11/03/2011 06:34

I have no attachment to my cervix. No more to any other part of my anatomy. I know its there. Ive had no cause to check.

nooka · 11/03/2011 06:46

When I've had smears or examinations it's felt really quite horrible - why would I want to do that to myself? I'd rather not have a nurse/midwife poke me there either. Regarding penises if dh gets the angle wrong I am pretty unhappy too.

I don't think other people who do want to explore their innards are weird (but then I've never before come across anyone that told me this was their penchant) I just have no inclination that way myself (would quite like the whole lot removed really).

Missymorrison87 · 11/03/2011 08:20

I do this with my tonsils too. They are a part of my body and I must get to know them too Hmm

tyler80 · 11/03/2011 08:34

scroobiuspip average vagina is only 3 inches long.

bronze · 11/03/2011 08:49

I can feel my cervix dependent on time of month
My dh is rather well endowed and I can feel him too (hitting it)dependent on time of month. It's not comfortable.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 11/03/2011 09:32

Get ya hands out ya knickers woman. Tsk

NestaFiesta · 11/03/2011 09:33

tyler 80- the vagina expands during arousal.

tyler80 · 11/03/2011 10:02

I'm well aware of that, but it seems reasonable to point out in a discussion on feeling your cervix that it's unlikely to be 6 inches away. Unless I've totally missed the point and all this cervix touching was foreplay rather than curiosity!

Quenelle · 11/03/2011 10:05

When TTC I read on another parenting forum about feeling for the position of your cervix etc, but I never tried it.

When I was a few weeks pregnant I had a bleed and the registrar at the gynae unit had trouble finding my cervix when examining me. She asked if my cervix was hard to feel and I replied 'I don't know I've never felt for it.'

I could see the registrar and nurse exchanging discreet smirks, she clearly meant had other HCPs had problems reaching it, during smears etc. I was very embarrassed.

So I don't think even HCPs regard it as common practice amongst women.

Some of the women on the other forum who were due to give birth, however, were posting in detail about how they had managed to get their finger through their cervix and touch the top of their babies' heads. That made me squirm quite frankly.

ScroobiousPip · 11/03/2011 10:18

3 inches. Wow. Thanks, tyler80 - got to be the oddest thing I've learnt all week!

step2 · 11/03/2011 10:21

A...cheesetoastie!!!

BreconBeBuggered · 11/03/2011 10:29

Well, I do have freakishly short fingers (my GP agreed that certain methods of birth control would not be practicable). Am I missing much? To make up for it, I'm amazed that so many women have no idea when they're ovulating. Which is something I've found useful to be aware of.

NestaFiesta · 11/03/2011 10:40

Well tyler, mine must be different them because my nurse's hand is longer than 3 inches and she couldn't find a cervix for love or money. Took her ages, a miner's lamp and the entire length of the speculum.

Anyway. I just don't see why cervix fans find it odd that some of us just don't want to. It does not imply ignorance or a lack of desire to udnerstand our bodies. It's there, and so is my appendix, but I do not need to inspect these in order to show I care about my body.

Sidge · 11/03/2011 11:00

I saw a worried lady once who thought she had a tumour as her partner had felt a lump in her vagina during sex.

I was happy to reassure her that her 'lump' was her cervix.

I've seen thousands of cervices and they're all different, it's quite fascinating really (professionally not personally I hasten to add!).

I don't think one needs to make a habit of digging around for your cervix, but finding it once or twice and being familiar with yer nethers isn't a bad thing.

FudgeGirl · 11/03/2011 11:29

I'm still traumatised by the link I clicked on last night to what I can only describe as "cervix porn"
If you want to get to know yourself down there that intimately, fine. But don't take the piss out of women who don't!
Anyway, I'm off to check out my inner ears, the lesser known cavities of my nostrils and the undiscovered delights of my colon.
Pffft.

Bubbaluv · 11/03/2011 20:51

Brecon what's to be amazed about? Many women have no symptoms of ovulation, so should they be forking out for ovulation tests every month?

Firawla · 11/03/2011 22:33

makes me feel slightly squeamish at the thought, i'm quite happy to just leave it alone. wouldn't even be keen on sweeps or that kind of thing, had one for my first dc and it was v painful and she couldnt even reach cervix, so that really does not tempt me to try it myself