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AIBU?

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Inheritance or not

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Richlinn · 07/03/2011 19:38

I have a relative on my Dad's side who has no close family. I know him quite well, as does my Dad, auntie and sister. We have just heard that he has finally got round to making a will and has left everything to an animal charity. His estate will be £1 million+. I am sitting in rented accommodation as is my sister. No -one else in my family has any money to speak of. Does anyone know if we could appeal his decision as a share of the estate would make a huge difference to a lot of people. Has anyone heard of any appeals that have successfully overturned a will? He is of sound mind. Thanks for all suggestions / help offered.

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saffy85 · 07/03/2011 19:39

PorkChopSter · 07/03/2011 19:40

He's of sound mind and can leave it to whoever/whatever he wants to. It's his.

Choufleur · 07/03/2011 19:41

It's his money to do with as he wishes. Why would his will possibly be overturned?

How do you know what he has put in his will anyway?

Iwantscallops · 07/03/2011 19:41

Greenkit · 07/03/2011 19:41

If its true, why not just talk to him and ask if he can leave some to you as it will make a huge difference.

Or you could take the other stance, his money, he earnt it and he can do what ever he wants with it.

MotherNight · 07/03/2011 19:41

Have you tried talking to him? Getting to know him?

thisisyesterday · 07/03/2011 19:42

" I know him quite well, as does my Dad, auntie and sister. "

well yes.. he's family! but what do you mean by this? when is the last time you saw him? or called him?
are you close?

he can leave his money to anyone he wants to afaik and you can't contest it just because you fancy a bit of cash from some relative you haven't even spoken to in years

MotherNight · 07/03/2011 19:42

Treating him as family?

hidenseek · 07/03/2011 19:42

Is this for real?!

Tsil · 07/03/2011 19:42

YABU

it his money and his right to do what he wants to with it. I'm not up on family law but. Would day no you can not appeal his decision unless you contest the will when he dies but i think that would be very wrong of you.

LaurieFairyCake · 07/03/2011 19:42

News flash.

It's not YOUR money.

You are not entitled.

LindyHemming · 07/03/2011 19:43

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NettoSuperstar · 07/03/2011 19:43

You sound quite grabbing.
It's his money to do what he wants with.

PaperView · 07/03/2011 19:44

It's not your money. JOg on.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 07/03/2011 19:44

If you know him well, surely you would know his reasons for choosing to leave his money to charity like this?

I think (and I'm not 100% sure- we are in scotland, where the law is sometimes different) that children can appeal if they are left out of their parents' will, but even at that it is not guaranteed to change anything)

Is there some reason why you think you might be entitled to this man's money- eg do you care for him/ cook for him/ visit regularly? Just being related doesn't necessarily give you any claim. And even if you DO care for him, if he is of sound mind he can leave his money to whomsoever he pleases. Sorry.

NinkyNonker · 07/03/2011 19:44

You said no close family, he 'knows' you and yet has decided not to leave it to you. Therefore he doesn't want to leave it to you. You should respect his wishes, it is his money and you have no 'claim' to it.

hatwoman · 07/03/2011 19:45

I'm no expert but I thought you only got to contest a will when someone had died. and then only on very limited grounds. If I was him I would be furious if I knew you were hovering over his will like this. and anyway, how do you actually know what his will says? have you seen it?

Mare11bp · 07/03/2011 19:45

I am from a legal background. Unless you can show not of sound mind or undue inluence/trickery from another you have no chance.

I agree he can leave his money to whoever, but I understand your frustration which in many ways is natural!

everthebeliver · 07/03/2011 19:45

YABU: If he was your father you could contest it but you are not entitled to anything. Maybe you could ask him for a low interest loan if you are "close" family

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/03/2011 19:45

Money grubbing and greedy, not at all attractive. I hope he gets a good lawyer to protect himself from you, OP.

Wow... I've never heard anything so blatant. Do your parents know your 'plans'? I would think they'd be so ashamed of you. :(

purplepidjin · 07/03/2011 19:46

A Will is confidential between the person who makes it and their executors. I would imagine he is making it up to keep greedy, money-grabbing relatives at bay.

^^ This would have been irrelevant if you had actually said something nice about him rather than focusing on how much money he has.

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 07/03/2011 19:46

YABU His money his choice.

ratspeaker · 07/03/2011 19:46

To challenge a will the person who made it has to be dead first
How do you know he wont live for another 20 years
or spend all his money on being cared for in his old age?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 07/03/2011 19:48

One word

grasping

yuck.

VajazzHands · 07/03/2011 19:48

If you had really made an effort he would have left it to you. And why say "rented accomadation" like it is beneath you. It is what you can afford.

Good luck to the animals who will really benefit from his generosity!

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