Inheritance or not

[Richlinn]

I have a relative on my Dad's side who has no close family. I know him quite well, as does my Dad, auntie and sister. We have just heard that he has finally got round to making a will and has left everything to an animal charity. His estate will be £1 million+. I am sitting in rented accommodation as is my sister. No -one else in my family has any money to speak of. Does anyone know if we could appeal his decision as a share of the estate would make a huge difference to a lot of people. Has anyone heard of any appeals that have successfully overturned a will? He is of sound mind. Thanks for all suggestions / help offered.

Gosh cat I only know my brother quite well! I'd still leave him my dosh though (if I didn't have DH & kids anyway!).

Funny how language is used so differently by different people isn't it.

ahh but when speaking about him would you say "yes, i know him quite well"??
probably not because people would generally expect you to know your immediate family quite well

the fact that the OP felt she needed to put that makes me think that actually, she doesn;t know him that well at all! especially when coupled with the statement about him having no close family and her refusal to say when she last spoke to him

"This isn't the kind of language you use about a much loved relative. You know, someone you go out of your way to spend time with, and look out for, and invite over."

Is that the definition of a much loved relative? I love my brother very much, but I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to spend time with him! We are polar opposites - doesn't mean I don't love him.

Ninky, sorry for your loss .

The only case of overtruned will was recently wasn't it?

And it was only because it was more or less proved in court that the relative (child) had cared for parents at considerable cost to herself, and been repeatedly promised it, plus that mother had most likely been forced into not leaving the money to her daughter.

Yes I know

POssible of course that OP is grasping meany. Or that she has worded things badly! Who knows. I still read that phrase differently to the majority, which is odd, but there you go!

I am making notes on these threads for my own will, incidentally.

I think that the point that he actually TOLD everyone he was leaving the money to charity speaks volumes, myself. I bet the entire family will be clambering over themselves to be loving and helpful from now on in.

My mum had one recently where she was left some money along with her cousins. She was contacted by the step children of teh woman who had died - she had raised them as her own etc etc and loved them but never did a will and so they didn't get anything, which is not what the woman would have wanted.

Anyway the girls wrote to the people who had inherited and explained the situation. My mum was the only one who gave it back (for the girls)

Money and wills bring out the worst in people IMO.

i have always loved you sardinequeen.

As the relative is still alive you still have the opportunity to get to know him better and maybe he will then write a new will including you. However it is his choice and you have to respect it. He owes you and your family nothing, wealthy or not.

i mean, i know we're not close but i do feel i know you quite well

How did he earn his money? Ask if he could you advice into getting into his line of work.

i.e if he ran a successful business, ask for work experience etc...

Then you might be able to create an estate worth £1m and then you can leave it to whosoever you like... (Cats home, relatives or bandits...)

just for the record SQ... how much money are you going to be leaving? just you know, generally intersted... no reason really

Sardine.

Darlink'

I have ALWAYS admired you so....

I think anyone who says they wouldn't be at all miffed if their relative left millions of pounds to the moggies is being a teensy bit disingenuous...

Had I mentioned how much my children love going to the zoo, and what a shame it is that I hardly ever get the chance to take them?

Hmmmmmmmmmmm?

I have pre-herited (a made up word I have been Dying to use) a large, I say large, amount of money from a parent that has set me on a path -with savvy planning(ish) to financial freedom. I know for a fact ( have been informed by said parent) that I shall inherit diddly squat from them (is being left to siblings)

I intend to "give it away" to dc at the appropriate time.

A quick glance at my Sunday Times this week has left me somewhat fuming - they want to close loopholes on Trusts etc etc which means -on first reading- more Tax Tax bloody Tax and less for me'n'mine.

Rant over.

And note to self: must investigate further.

Zoo you say?

Oooooo.

I have been Dying to visit the zoo. I'll take the children for you. Good company for DD.

No no.

You take the day off.

I Insist

I would be hurt if a relative left me out of their will if it had been somone I had considered myself close to. If he is a distant relative you are being unreasonable though.